BackUpOrGetStung Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I have been dating two women for the past month or so, and nothing too serious has happened with either yet. I usually work very fast, but the circumstances of our dates haven't allowed for escalation of the physical aspect, which is fine. The problem is that I didn't mean to start dating both, but was unsure how the first one felt. Now both seem to be falling somewhat hard and I really don't know how to handle the situation. I haven't slept with either, but I can tell when someone wants to, and they both do(and one has stated so). I know it's wrong to "sample" both and make a decision based on that, but it seems so imminent with both that I don't know if I can make a decision before this happens. Any advice on how to break it off, with the one I decide not to go with? I never want to hurt people's feelings, so I end up just drawing it out longer and it ends up being worse.
Yukikazi Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 There is nothing wrong with "sampling" both.. you may be compatible with them now but you don't know yet if you are sexually compatible. You need all the facts before you make your choice. You wouldn't wanna make a mistake would ya?
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 this is pretty much exactly where I am at..... I am dating 2 - both seem to really dig me. one is going to get the shaft...wait, they'll both probably get the 'shaft', but you know what i mean. someone will be the loser here.... interested to hear the responses!
TaraMaiden Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Oh Lordy, here's where the difference in the interpretation of 'Dating USA' blares out so loudly from the UK dating definition. You should have made it abundantly and totally crystal clear - RIGHT FROM THE START - that you were into casual dating with no exclusivity. Now - you're faced with a dilemma. Since neither woman knows the other exists, you have to decide within your mind which one you are more drawn to - and tell the other one that you've met someone else. That's option one. Which might result in ditched date/chosen date finding out you've actually been two-timing her all along, and both of them running a mile.... Option two would be to casually let drop in discussion "well, my other date thinks...." and in that way, you'll let them (both) know they're not exclusive. of course, this second option risks both of them running a mile.... Which only goes to prove that it's a tangled web we weave when first we practise to deceive.... Which is what it turned into. It's a bit of a farce, isn't it? off you go. let us know how you get on......
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