txsilkysmoothe Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I met a guy on an online dating site. He seemed really attracted to me based on my pictures which are very accurate. We emailed back and forth for few days. He seemed really interested in what I had to say in my emails. Then he gave me his phone number and we texted for a couple of days. Then he asked me to meet on Christmas eve for an hour. He was working and we met for a coke in the afternoon. During the meeting, things seemed to go okay. I really liked him. He said at one point that I seemed uncomfortable. I told him I wasn't. I do believe I was being reserved because I think sometimes I share too much too quickly. We ended the meeting with a handshake. He thanked me for meeting him. Two days passed without hearing from him, one of them being Christmas day so really not that much time. I thought he might think I didn't like him since he thought I was uncomfortable. So on Saturday, I sent him a text stating I enjoyed talking with him and I was sorry if I seemed uncomfortable and thanked him for inviting me. He replied with a text that stated "Hey u, hope you had a great Christmas." That's all it said. I did not reply because I feel like it was a brush off and didn't invite further communication. I haven't heard from him further. Am I reading this right - he is NOT interested. And why can't people just say that so we aren't left wondering? Thanks for reading.
Vasto_Lorde Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I met a guy on an online dating site. He seemed really attracted to me based on my pictures which are very accurate. We emailed back and forth for few days. He seemed really interested in what I had to say in my emails. Then he gave me his phone number and we texted for a couple of days. Then he asked me to meet on Christmas eve for an hour. He was working and we met for a coke in the afternoon. During the meeting, things seemed to go okay. I really liked him. He said at one point that I seemed uncomfortable. I told him I wasn't. I do believe I was being reserved because I think sometimes I share too much too quickly. We ended the meeting with a handshake. He thanked me for meeting him. Two days passed without hearing from him, one of them being Christmas day so really not that much time. I thought he might think I didn't like him since he thought I was uncomfortable. So on Saturday, I sent him a text stating I enjoyed talking with him and I was sorry if I seemed uncomfortable and thanked him for inviting me. He replied with a text that stated "Hey u, hope you had a great Christmas." That's all it said. I did not reply because I feel like it was a brush off and didn't invite further communication. I haven't heard from him further. Am I reading this right - he is NOT interested. And why can't people just say that so we aren't left wondering? Thanks for reading. May be a bit too soon to reach a conclusion.
ordinary_girl Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 maybe a bit too soon but the fact that he shook your hand and that he didn't try to set anything up (after your saying how much you enjoyed the first meeting) probably means he didn't think he was right for you. why did you call your date a 'meeting'?
Author txsilkysmoothe Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 I'm not sure why I called it a meeting rather than a date. Maybe because it was brief, in the afternoon, short notice. I'll have to think about that. thank you
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 dont write him off yet - though signs say he's not interested. dont take it personally. everyone has different taste's and things that make someone attractive. most of my friends say the girls I date are just OK, while they say others are super hot, and I'll say "ehh"... different strokes for different folks
boogieboy Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 You probably gave him the impression that YOU werent interested during the date, and thats why he gave you the handshake and blew you off. If youre still interested in him, you have to give more conspicuous conversation. You have to tell him youre interested in him, even though you appear to be aloof. Telling him "I enjoyed talking with you and I was sorry if I seemed uncomfortable and thank you for inviting me" does not say you want to see him again. If you want to keep this going, you have to take a risk and be straight up with him.
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