notasaint Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 My wife and I split up earlier this year. We decided to reconcile a few months back. We agreed to counseling and I dedicated myself to do whatever it takes. We both met with the counseler seperately for the first few weeks and then he brought us in together. During our first session she came clean and told me that she had an intimate encounter with a friend of mine for thirty years. I was devistated. I'm still devistated, I even have nightmares about it and the thought seems like its always in the back of my mind. It was a one time thing, emotionless and she regretted it the minute she did it. I had my share of sexual encounters during our seperation and dont want to seem innocent in all this. Im having a terrible time dealing with the thoughts of what happened on her end, and I blame myself for even putting her in that position. According to her, and rightfully so, we were completely done. Papers were signed and the whole nine... Even to the point where she sold all the jewelry I bought her during our time together. Since we've been back things have been magnificant and I wouldnt change it for the world. If anyone has any advice on how to put a positive spin on this so I can get over these thoughts....I would really appreciate it.
nobmagnet Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 ouch. but as you say you were splitting up properly. you freind double ouch........WTF was he thinking???? Im in a split dont blelive we can fix it (neither of us do i think) he left me for a woman at work typical lazy encounter(weak chap) anyhoo,,,,, back to your question. I would indeed have a bonk with someone else if i beleived there was no way back. You are in the very fortunate position of trying to get back on track. Cut her some slack she thought you were gone if im correct? best of luck neet xx
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