Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Ok, I think, I can manage to suggest a drink after a good dance. Will keep you informed how it went. Thanks for your help! Not a problem! Let me know how it turns out!
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 (edited) Update: So, I saw him today at this Salsa party and nothing happened. Didn't ask me to dance, just like last time when we were at this club. In the end I had to. One Bachata, one Salsa and after that, "Thank you, PP." THEN, I saw him dance with this girl and I think I saw him dance with her a couple of times this evening, but this time I saw clearly that he danced a couple of dances with her!! And she was not even good! It was clear that she was a beginner. I don't know if she's his girlfriend or not, but well, obviously, I rank after a couple of women (he went and talked with so many women, but didn't stop at me) And I looked pretty this evening. Two friends made me a compliment just like this. I think I need to let this rest. I'm digging him too much and therefore become really nervous and tense. I'm just not fun, nice and entertaining anymore. So, I'm taking a break. I like Salsa and I'd hate to pine for him while dancing, that would spoil the fun. Also, I just know his name. I don't even know how old he is or what else he does when he's not dancing. And if he's the right one for me, he'll be smart enough not to jump too quickly into a relationship with someone who is not the right one for him. Edited December 31, 2009 by PlumPrincess
Author PlumPrincess Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Well, but most guys don't look at you all the time. Neither do I. And looking at you and smiling at the same time is something that most men don't do. We had a quick chat the first time, exchanged names and he asked me where I usually go dancing. We also talked the second time, but, well, we talked about dancing schools and nothing personal. I also felt a bit confused, because he sometimes would just get up and dance with someone else, without saying a word. And the third time, we were able to talk a bit before a friend of mine showed up and then another friend of his showed up and then... Things are a tiny bit weird and awkward. I was looking at my old threads. Who is this guy I'm talking about? Is it normal to have crushes all the time? They're always so painful, but when you look back, you just don't care about all these people anymore. And in my case, I so often don't even remember whom I was whining about.
Fondue Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Women are so bad at giving clear signals, so I assume she isn't interested unless she: A) Clearly states, "I'm like/interested in you." B) Grabs my junk and says, "I want this in one of my three orifices." So many women are can't communicate interest. You never know if you're friend-zoned or not. She can dance with you all night, touch you, laugh at all your jokes, rub against you, and then say: "Oh, we're just good friends !"
Phateless Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Women are so bad at giving clear signals, so I assume she isn't interested unless she: A) Clearly states, "I'm like/interested in you." B) Grabs my junk and says, "I want this in one of my three orifices." So many women are can't communicate interest. You never know if you're friend-zoned or not. She can dance with you all night, touch you, laugh at all your jokes, rub against you, and then say: "Oh, we're just good friends !" If she's giving you those kinds of signals she obviously has SOME interest and it's entirely up to YOU not to screw it up. I think most men's fatal flaw is that we expect a woman to be A) interested or B) not interested. It's not that simple for women, there's about a million in-between stages of maybekindasortamightbeinterestedoratleastcurious. If she gives you signals like that she likes you enough to interact with you more to find out if there could be more. It's up to you to make those interactions enjoyable for both and progress it forward.
musemaj11 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 When they are attracted to a guy, women always get touchy feely. This is one thing I notice the most.
Eclypse Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 We have no clue honestly. On my first date with my now girlfriend I put my arm around her a bit. That was as far as I dared to go without confirmation of interest. The next day on IM I asked her if she was ok with me putting my arm around her. She said yes. Then I asked if I could do it again, she again said yes. I told her i liked her a lot and she put up smiley faces Next date it took me almost 2 hours before I took her hand. Even that was tough. I was prepared to be slapped. After another hour or so just before the date ended I turned and wanted to kiss her but was too chicken. She ended up having to lean into me!! Lol! Well it got easier after that and I understand women better now. But yes you will have to spell it out for most men. Well that was my first date ever. And hopefully last first date ever too since she is special.
dispatch3d Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 When I met my last girlfriend who I had a whirlwind three year relationship we met by each of us smiling at each other a lot!!! Nah I'm just kidding, that never happened. Yes you should put more effort into letting him know you like him than just smiling at him.
somedude81 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I wish I saw this thread way back when it was new. I do a salsa class every semester and I always have trouble telling when girls in the class are interested. I just can't see the difference between being friendly and a girl wanting me to ask her out.
dispatch3d Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I wish I saw this thread way back when it was new. I do a salsa class every semester and I always have trouble telling when girls in the class are interested. I just can't see the difference between being friendly and a girl wanting me to ask her out. Well, was she smiling? Now you know! lol kidding. Only way to know is if they say "I like you!" and no girl is gunna do that. Not cause you're undesirable, but because they would be putting themselves out there.
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