AD1980 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I wouldnt know never had a women show interest
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Would steer clear of using dance class as a prospecting ground until you have some time and experience under your belt. Lots of scams going on in those places, and based on your posts, you sound really ripe for the picking, an easy mark. Huh? I don't know where you live, but here there are certainly no scams going on.
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 women that like me touch me a lot Where, when, how? What else do they do?
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Where, when, how? What else do they do? ANYTHING! put your hand on his shoulder, grab his arm, put your arm through his and hold on to it while walking. lean in when talking, smile, bat your eyes a little....whenever there is an opportunity for playful touching...DO IT!! if he is any kind of a man, he will dig it.
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 ANYTHING! put your hand on his shoulder, grab his arm, put your arm through his and hold on to it while walking. lean in when talking, smile, bat your eyes a little....whenever there is an opportunity for playful touching...DO IT!! if he is any kind of a man, he will dig it.´ Oh man, that's a lot... I usually need less frequent signs from guys to make me understand that someone is interested in me or finds me attractive.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 ´ Oh man, that's a lot... I usually need less frequent signs from guys to make me understand that someone is interested in me or finds me attractive. i was just trying to give you ideas......any one of those should work fine;)
datingsites Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Relax - don't try too hard! Like Steve says, go with the flow. Sometimes it is difficult to know when a guy likes you, particuarly if he is shy (he may not appear so, could be outgoing but shy with womenon the subject of courting (heh look at me sounding like a 40's Rodgers and Hammerstein movie ). The touching is a good idea but may not yield the expected results. If he is shy, and you touch first, he may see that as a sign of your confidence and wait for you to make the first move - stalemate Some men are absolutely useless at reading signs. Unless you produce a permanent marker and etch it in to his forehead hinting may not work either. Does he look for you when you walk in or greet you with a smile, does he go out of his way to approach you - and has he asked any questions about you personally or home life (finding your interests) ?
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 (edited) Some men are absolutely useless at reading signs. Unless you produce a permanent marker and etch it in to his forehead hinting may not work either. Women have NO IDEA how true this is, lol! Is smiling a good sign? Is it enough? There's this guy that I dig. When we dance together (salsa) he looks at me and smiles all the time, but things don't progress. The first time we met there seemed to be positive cues, but now... What more could I do? I don't think I want to get physical that quick, so I don't really want to do things like touching his knee, etc. to make him notice my interest. And I guess, it's a positive thing that he smiles back at me when I do? I dance salsa all the time so I think I can shed some light on this. Salsa is a sensual and sexy dance, so it's understandable that there can be confusion. One of the things that's fun about it is playing with attraction. Basically, if you want to take it farther than the dance floor, you have to let him know, otherwise he'll assume it's just harmless flirtation like it usually is. laugh at his jokes make eye contact - look deep in his eyes on the dance floor SMILE when you look at him touch him - gentle arm smack if he says something funny, touch his arm when you're talking to him, etc when you sit, sit close to him with your body turned slightly toward him it's all body language. If this doesn't work, after a good dance, offer to buy him a drink. Duh! I have girls come onto me on the dance floor sometimes. I have a gf right now so that's the main reason I play dumb to their advances. If It's a venue I frequent I might still be hesitant just because I wouldn't want to get into drama at a place I love going every week. I've turned down hookups before for that very reason. Otherwise, if I like her I'll spend more time dancing with her than other girls, and a lot more time hanging out with her when not dancing. Just because I like her doesn't mean I'm ready to take it off the dance floor though. When I decide I am ready I'll get her number and make plans. If you like him, don't be too shy to get his number and ask him to hang out. As I said, it can be really difficult to tell who's interested and who's just playing, so you might have to spell it out for him. When you ask him out he'll either say yes or tell you why not. I've met girls I liked and was interested in, who obviously liked me as well, but I do nothing because I have a gf. Are you even sure that this guy is single? If not, ask him. That's another pretty obvious sign that you're interested. Hope all of this helps... Edited December 29, 2009 by Phateless
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 I dance salsa all the time so I think I can shed some light on this. A salsa dancer who answers my post. Awesome. Salsa is a sensual and sexy dance, so it's understandable that there can be confusion. One of the things that's fun about it is playing with attraction. Basically, if you want to take it farther than the dance floor, you have to let him know, otherwise he'll assume it's just harmless flirtation like it usually is. He's not flirting with me and he's just not the kind of guy that I usually flirt with. I enjoy witty people who challenge me a bit and that I can tease, but he's not like that. He just smiles at me and I like that. laugh at his jokes Our conversations so far have been too short to include any kind of jokes, but that shouldn't be a problem. I don't think he's the kind of person to make a lot of jokes though. make eye contact - look deep in his eyes on the dance floor Ok, seems doable. SMILE when you look at him I'm doing that already, all the time. touch him - gentle arm smack if he says something funny, touch his arm when you're talking to him, etc Ok, will try... when you sit, sit close to him with your body turned slightly toward him Ok, that also seems doable. it's all body language. If this doesn't work, after a good dance, offer to buy him a drink. Duh! Ok, will think about that one. If It's a venue I frequent I might still be hesitant just because I wouldn't want to get into drama at a place I love going every week. Good point. Otherwise, if I like her I'll spend more time dancing with her than other girls, and a lot more time hanging out with her when not dancing. I'm just a beginner and he's pretty good. I was able to impress him a bit the first time, because I was able to follow well, but the second time I got, uhm, a bit distracted. The first time we had three dances in a row and the second time he wanted a break after the first dance. On the other hand, there's a good possibility that I might become a really awesome salsa dancer, I mean, my English is good, my Spanish is good. Just because I like her doesn't mean I'm ready to take it off the dance floor though. When I decide I am ready I'll get her number and make plans. Shall I just offer him my phone number? If you like him, don't be too shy to get his number and ask him to hang out. As I said, it can be really difficult to tell who's interested and who's just playing, so you might have to spell it out for him. When you ask him out he'll either say yes or tell you why not. Well, it seems we like the same places and know the same people, so I do have to tread somewhat carefully if I don't want there to be too much awkwardness between us. Are you even sure that this guy is single? If not, ask him. That's another pretty obvious sign that you're interested. Ok, I will try to find out, but I don't think he has one. I'm pretty sure he was kind of interested in me the first time, but I didn't really see it later on.
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 i was just trying to give you ideas......any one of those should work fine;) Thank you.
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I'm just a beginner and he's pretty good. I was able to impress him a bit the first time, because I was able to follow well, but the second time I got, uhm, a bit distracted. The first time we had three dances in a row and the second time he wanted a break after the first dance. On the other hand, there's a good possibility that I might become a really awesome salsa dancer, I mean, my English is good, my Spanish is good. THIS! If he's really good, he won't dance 3 dances in a row with a complete beginner UNLESSS he's interested/attracted. He definitely likes you. Btw, I also dance Lindy Hop!
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 Oh well, I think I should just go with the flow and not worry so much. If he's interested, he will open up more and if he doesn't then he's not interested. I don't think I've ever met a guy who was too shy to approach me or to hint that he liked me. He really should be able to do some small talk in order to get to know me and he looks perfectly capable to do so. And then I will touch him.
Sam Spade Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 If she grabs my crotch/ass, then I know she's definitely interested. Anything other than that is a crapshoot.
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Oh well, I think I should just go with the flow and not worry so much. If he's interested, he will open up more and if he doesn't then he's not interested. I don't think I've ever met a guy who was too shy to approach me or to hint that he liked me. He really should be able to do some small talk in order to get to know me and he looks perfectly capable to do so. And then I will touch him. lol. I'm just saying that dancing is a little different than the standard bar scene. If you like him, show some signs of interest and push it forward. You can also ask him for dances, which is a good way to both show your interest and get better. Do you go to the classes too? Improve as quickly as you can. There are a bunch of websites I could recommend with instructional videos as well.
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 THIS! If he's really good, he won't dance 3 dances in a row with a complete beginner UNLESSS he's interested/attracted. He definitely likes you. Btw, I also dance Lindy Hop! Don't get my hopes up. He did think after all that I was able to follow well and I've been learning for four months, so I'm not a complete newbie he took pity on. I have Swing on my plan, but not right!
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 lol. I'm just saying that dancing is a little different than the standard bar scene. If you like him, show some signs of interest and push it forward. You can also ask him for dances, which is a good way to both show your interest and get better. Do you go to the classes too? Improve as quickly as you can. There are a bunch of websites I could recommend with instructional videos as well. I'm afraid to bug him too much with dances. I am after all a newbie and I don't want him to think I'm just interested in dancing with him in order to improve my dancing. I'm taking classes and I go out a lot in order to practice, at least more than many other people in my classes. Please tell me, if you know good websites!
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 Does he look for you when you walk in or greet you with a smile, does he go out of his way to approach you - and has he asked any questions about you personally or home life (finding your interests) ? He does smile at me when I greet him, but that's probably, because I also smile at him. He did ask me where I usually go dancing!
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I'm afraid to bug him too much with dances. I am after all a newbie and I don't want him to think I'm just interested in dancing with him in order to improve my dancing. I'm taking classes and I go out a lot in order to practice, at least more than many other people in my classes. Please tell me, if you know good websites! http://www.salsacrazy.com is the best place to start. There's also about a bazillion facebook groups for salsa dancing. http://www.salsabootcamp.com
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 http://www.salsacrazy.com is the best place to start. There's also about a bazillion facebook groups for salsa dancing. http://www.salsabootcamp.com Thank you! Have you personal experiences with the websites? Are they connected somehow? Because I'm seeing the same dude twice.
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Thank you! Have you personal experiences with the websites? Are they connected somehow? Because I'm seeing the same dude twice. lol really? Maybe they are, I don't know. I get fb from so many different salsa-related places that it's hard to keep track. Btw, I've been dancing regularly for 3 years so I'm pretty decent. I typically wouldn't dance 3 in a row with a beginner unless I was interested.
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 lol really? Maybe they are, I don't know. I get fb from so many different salsa-related places that it's hard to keep track. Btw, I've been dancing regularly for 3 years so I'm pretty decent. I typically wouldn't dance 3 in a row with a beginner unless I was interested. He's been dancing for a year, but I'd say he's pretty good and also ambitious. And he used to breakdance, which I think shows in the way he moves. Oh God, I need to practice more.
Phateless Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 He's been dancing for a year, but I'd say he's pretty good and also ambitious. And he used to breakdance, which I think shows in the way he moves. Oh God, I need to practice more. lol, nice! I say you have a drink with him after a dance. Sit close to him, facing him, and be a little touchy. Get his phone number and ask him out. If you like him, pursue him! What's the big deal?
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 lol, nice! I say you have a drink with him after a dance. Sit close to him, facing him, and be a little touchy. Get his phone number and ask him out. If you like him, pursue him! What's the big deal? Ok, I think, I can manage to suggest a drink after a good dance. Will keep you informed how it went. Thanks for your help!
Author PlumPrincess Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 Sometimes people blush if they are in close proximity to someone to whom they are very attracted. I've never really noticed this, but will include it in my checklist from now on.
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