Long time reader, first time poster, very confused over breakup reasons !

[leo74]

I think you may really be Dr phill in disguise .. lol .. thankyou so much for helping me understand ! , i can see what you mean now. i thought it was really strange she would emphasise how awesome her perfect match is that she met on holiday. and now she understands about the being friends thing.

 

I was sitting there just thinking that email was just totally pointless, why would she even bother writing all that suff ? if she had met someone and it was her perfect match etc why is she emailing me ? now i can see the selfishness she is portraying.

[TaraMaiden]

No, Not Dr Phil....

Really, if I had that much money, I'd investigate hair-loss remedies....

 

My problem is, I'm a woman, and some women can see what other women are like, because we tend to think along similar wave-lengths.

The horror of it is, I'm probably capable of phukking with a guy's mind in this way too, which is how I can see what she's doing (to an extent...let's face it, this is just a website forum...how much can anyone really know 100% about anything in this medium...?!) Big difference is - I'm hoping I'm mature and compassionate enough to not resort to tactics like this.

Whilst I know I could, I actually wouldn't dare, either do something this hurtful, or sink so low as to be manipulative and sly.

Shows moral immaturity.

I pity her new victim boyfriend....

 

Unless she matures and looks at things from a different perspective, this one may too, bite the dust.

You don't know though - they might just be perfectly suited...Who can tell...?

The thing to understand is - that you two weren't.

And really, that's ok.

Relax into it and accept it.

I know it's tough, but get your head wrapped round this:

Every single thing about you, and around you, has a beginning, a middle and an end. And always will have.

That goes for everyone else, too....

 

So, if her relationship does bite the dust, now or at some point in the future...it's really no big deal, because that's how the whole of life works.

Things start, they progress, then they finish.

 

Concentrate on spending days looking up, not down.

Remember: Every moment you spend feeling crappy, was 60 seconds in which you could have been enjoying yourself.

 

A whole minute wasted.

And how many of those can you get back....?

 

be well.

TM.