RadioGuy Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I really can't figure it out. I was with this girl for 9 months, we broke up... and for the last 2 months, she's been setting up times to see me so we can talk about everything, catch up, or just see each other... each time it comes around, she's conveniently "busy" with "unexpected" situations. I called her out on it during a heart-to-heart over the phone last week, "setting up meetings that you knew wouldn't happen" and she didn't deny it. Seriously, why? When I asked if there's something, just tell me... she says there's nothing and she WANTS to see me. Yet never does? //going crazy.
TaraMaiden Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I really can't figure it out. I was with this girl for 9 months, we broke up... and for the last 2 months, she's been setting up times to see me so we can talk about everything, catch up, or just see each other... each time it comes around, she's conveniently "busy" with "unexpected" situations. I called her out on it during a heart-to-heart over the phone last week, "setting up meetings that you knew wouldn't happen" and she didn't deny it. Seriously, why? When I asked if there's something, just tell me... she says there's nothing and she WANTS to see me. Yet never does? //going crazy. You don't get it yet that she's messing with your head, simply because she can?? Deny her that. Block her, delete her number, refuse her mails, don't answer her calls, and read the No Contact Guide in my signature. The question is not why she does it, the question is why you're still falling for it. Isn't it?
Author RadioGuy Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 I'm still falling for it for two reasons: 1. I'm an idiot, plain and simple. Who the hell falls for this? 2. She promises me that she wants to be with me "in the future", just "not right now. This isn't our time... it will come again." and "I see myself in 2 years with you, living with you, the life we both really want." Yet, she's seeing another guy... and refuses to see me. Go figure. Today was the first day I didn't speak to her at all in a while. She didn't even make as much as an effort to contact me. I'm thinking of asking her to meet with me to discuss things (why I feel I can not be just a "friend", what we're looking at right now, and in in the future). Then dropping all communication. If the date comes, and she flakes her way out of it again, NC all the way. Thoughts?
TaraMaiden Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I'm still falling for it for two reasons: 1. I'm an idiot, plain and simple. Who the hell falls for this? 2. She promises me that she wants to be with me "in the future", just "not right now. This isn't our time... it will come again." and "I see myself in 2 years with you, living with you, the life we both really want." Yet, she's seeing another guy... and refuses to see me. Go figure. Boing, boing, boing... got you tied nice and tightly to that rubber band... have you ever seen those toys you suspend from a hook, attached to a reeeeeally long spring that bounce up and down when pulled? Getting the picture, hun? Today was the first day I didn't speak to her at all in a while. She didn't even make as much as an effort to contact me. I'm thinking of ..... dropping all communication. Thoughts? The above would be perfect - if you follow through. (I dunno how often I'm gonna have to say this - wish I had a pound for every time....*sigh*) read the No contact guide, by Caliguy in my signature, then 100% do it, 100% of the time. Then, and only then, can you get off that spring.... Boing, boing, boing......
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