1life8love1trust Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Anyways, I got my PS3 from her for our anniversary. I am somewhat of a gamer and well ever since she left me, I really haven't been into playing it. I try to but its just no fun anymore. I got some other things too from her like an iPod, games, and cloths. The cloths were easy to get rid of, you can always replace those. The thing is I am a dude and well this is a weird feeling. I don't want these things any more. Friends say hold on to it, she probably still has those expensive glass and bags you got her. As a matter of fact she probably still wears them as if nothing. So what do you guys think?
Vicious_Delicious Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 If it's painful to see that stuff on a daily basis and you don't want to get rid of it, then how about boxing it all up and stowing it away some place? Out of sight, out of mind.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I've been thinking about giving him back the gifts he gave me - mostly because while I tried to explain away the sentiment (I really do think he was trying) I was very disappointed in them. I had been saying I wanted a griddle pan one year, so he got me one for my birthday - it's cast iron, way too heavy for me and bigger than I was looking for. He explained that he likes cast iron. Ok Then he bought me an asparagus steamer. I don't buy pots that only have a single purpose, makes no sense to me. Once again I understood the sentiment, it was because I always steam on the stove, not in the microwave because it works better for me. He felt this pot would be more energy efficient, but it isn't. For my birthday this past year he bought me a silver plate bracelet. I am allergic to silver and it turns my skin black. I wear gold. At some point he also gave me a pasta maker for the microwave - not sure why I've never used it. There are only two gifts he'd ever given me that I actually treasure. A strand of pearls he bought on a trip to China when we had only been dating 3 months. And a murano glass heart on a woven gold necklace (I'm sure he had bought this years before he met me - when he was in Italy, nevertheless he gave it to me) for valentine's day one year. I guess I could give it all back - but would that be seen as being b*tchy? Whatever I'm just so sad.
jerbear Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I know the feeling. Don't want to throw it away, don't want to give it away, ex doesn't want it back, etc... I say box it up and put it somewhere. The other idea is have an trusted friend hold on to it. In reality, just put it away and in a few weeks see if you can take it back out.
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Why give back the gifts? They were gifted to you so they're yours to do what you will with them. Also, it's kind of passive-aggressive to do this, don't you think? If they're useless, sell them on Ebay or Craigslist. If you still like them but they bring back memories, box them up.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Why give back the gifts? They were gifted to you so they're yours to do what you will with them. Also, it's kind of passive-aggressive to do this, don't you think? If they're useless, sell them on Ebay or Craigslist. If you still like them but they bring back memories, box them up. OOOOH i've learned passive aggressive from the master - FINALLY! As usual you are right. I'll just put them away somehwere,or better yet, I just heard of a single mother who just lost her house to a fire (arson suspected) - maybe she can use them.
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 OOOOH i've learned passive aggressive from the master - FINALLY! As usual you are right. I'll just put them away somehwere,or better yet, I just heard of a single mother who just lost her house to a fire (arson suspected) - maybe she can use them. So true! Your ex is something else. Now that's a fantastic idea about giving them away to this woman. They'll only sit and collect dust.
Zeegagge Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I have to hang on to pretty much everything my ex gave me. I would be naked without the clothes, wouldn't know what time it was without the watch, and uh, well probly more than half what I own either came from her or she helped me pick it out. She got the camera... erg! (I mean, it is technically hers) She better give back my Ipod! Oh yah, and the ring, yah Im about to the point of going in her jewelry box and just taking it.
Sprig Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I find that memories that are attached to items tend to cause nothing but sadness and loneliness. My first GF I kept her stuff for quite a long time, but even when they were put away they were like a splinter in my mind. Always there, always a reminder. Eventually I threw out gave away everything from her. I felt better afterwards. My next girl friend who also broke up with me, a day or two after we broke up I deleted all my pictures of us, her phone number, facebook friend, etc.. Completely cut her from my life. Item she gave me, I still have but don't really associate them with her. If they are giveing you grief give them away, as some one suggested maybe to a worthy cause. That way you are taking a negative part of your life (PS3 that reminds you of her) and giving it to needy family who will enjoy it. When you do think of her, try to think that that the end result of that relationship ended with making a needy family very happy. Focus on the positive.
carolinawanderer Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 If they are giveing you grief give them away, as some one suggested maybe to a worthy cause. That way you are taking a negative part of your life (PS3 that reminds you of her) and giving it to needy family who will enjoy it. When you do think of her, try to think that that the end result of that relationship ended with making a needy family very happy. Focus on the positive. I was going to suggest sell the stuff, but unless you're hurting for cash, this is a better idea. What's REALLY tough is figuring out what to do with mementos. Stuff like homemade picture frames and poems. I left it with my ex because I knew it would be too difficult to keep around. Then she dropped it off at my place a few weeks later, saying it no longer meant anything. Now it's in the back of my closet. I can't bring myself to throw it out, because everything in there meant so much to me. But it means nothing to her any more.
Author 1life8love1trust Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 you know what, I know what we can do with picture frames and poem. I can trade it with someone and they trade me theirs. LOL how cool would that be? I got alot of those really hard knowing their in my closet, anyone wanna trade.....
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