shadowplay Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 honestly, its all interpretation. YOU may not find a guy to be nice but other people do. SO when a guy says hes a nice guy that means in general he believes he has good morals. A lot of these traits aren't as subjective as you might think, especially if those judging are intelligent and together themselves.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 By thoroughly good I mean that they're kind within reason. They have boundaries and will enforce those if crossed. what methods of enforcement do they use
shadowplay Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 actually, i am very confident in my own qualities. not to mention i see a lot of guys get burned by women and they actually do have ALL the qualities that women says she wants in a man. so im pretty sure chemistry is more important than almost ANYTHING else. Or maybe the women rejecting these men don't agree that they actually possess those qualities. Everybody gets rejected, but if a guy is routinely getting burned there's usually a good reason. Is he actually as amazing as all that? Is he drawn to the wrong kind of women?
shadowplay Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 what methods of enforcement do they use Lol. That may have been a bad word choice. ---------------
lord alfred douglas Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Lol. That may have been a bad word choice. --------------- are you implying you enjoy a little discipline from time to time
shadowplay Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 are you implying you enjoy a little discipline from time to time In fantasy, yes, but none of the men I've dated have ever been willing to provide it (too nice ).
Author scenester Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Judging by everyones post, it looks like you're all looking for generally the same thing.
jw90063 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Judging by everyones post, it looks like you're all looking for generally the same thing. Yes, a man that doesn't exist.
shadowplay Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Judging by everyones post, it looks like you're all looking for generally the same thing. Yep, but a lot of women settle for less because men like we've described are hot commodities. What people settle for, the traits they're willing to forgo, also says a lot about what they value.
Author scenester Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Yes, a man that doesn't exist. Haha granted a man will most likely NOT posses ALL of these traits but if you're both happy, then who cares!
edward-e Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 yeah they all want a man that is right for them. whether they want a mans sense of humor to be kinda dark or corny. its really what they prefer so in a broad generalization yeah they want all those things with a twist to fit their personal preference.
Author scenester Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Yep, but a lot of women settle for less because men like we've described are hot commodities. What people settle for, the traits they're willing to forgo, also says a lot about what they value. I agree 100%.
Stung Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Relationships are trial-and-error; a lot of the guys in this forum bemoaning how often they get burned, or even noting that actual good guys do get rejected, seem to be forgetting that unless you marry the first person you ever flirt with and remain happily wed until the day you die, 99% of every person's relationships are going to be 'failures' one way or another. Myself, I learned through a series of relationship failures what my dating/mating criteria should be, and how high to rank chemistry. Of course chemistry is important--and I wouldn't date somebody I had zero chemistry with--BUT: a guy who I feel hot, heavy and instant chemistry with who turns out to NOT match the important items on my mate criteria, I might flirt with him over drinks, but I have BTDT and learned the lesson, and I will let him go with nothing further and no regret. A guy who seems to match up with what I look for and has some reasonable, perhaps smoldering chemistry with me, I will get to know much, much better and probably pursue some kind of dating relationship with to see how we mesh. Smoldering attraction can be fanned into a flame.
Jersey Shortie Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I really loved shadowplay's list. Except the musical part isn't a must for me. Here is her list and it goes for me too: Intelligence Integrity Kindness Confidence without arrogance. Has a few insecurities like everyone, but confident overall. Intensity Reflectiveness Passion for at least one thing outside of themselves Strong, guarded surface with emotion bubbling underneath, but it's only reserved for the right person. They're picky about whom they love, but when they do, they love deeply Loyalty to those they care about Sharp, dry sense of humor Ambition Good aesthetic sense Musical ability of some sort, or at least the ability to appreciate good music Good taste Some level of cultural sophistication that elusive combination of cynicism and joie de vivre Strong sense of identity and personal values lack of materialism within certain bounds Adventurousness and spontaneity
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