Scarlett513 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I've been dating this guy for a month and a half. We spend quite a bit of time together (probably about 3 or 4 nights a week). This weekend while out together and in normal conversation, he slips up and says he loves me. I went something like this - Me, joking, at something he just said: "I hate you." Him: "No, I'm fun, I love you, and you know it." Big smile. I didn't know how to take it so I sort of made a joke and blew it off. It wasn't mentioned again all weekend. I felt like it was more of a slip up on his part, but I can't be sure. So anyway I hope I handled all of that okay. But the bigger question that this brought up for me is, how soon is too soon in your opinion?
ordinary_girl Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 might be too soon but he sounds like a sweetie so be nice to him. he obviously likes you a lot and that's what matters. maybe you will feel like saying it soon too
Madelf Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Well, have you had sex? If so, was it passionate and "tender" or was it just a snippet from a bad porno movie? If it's the latter, just remember that some guys will say they love you as a ploy to get some "game", after which they're off yapping to their friends about their latest conquest. Of course, if their "friends" are on the internet, then thankfully, all this precious info about your sexy body is stored forever.... So dump these creeps as soon as they hint about taking pictures/videos of you during sex.
aerogurl87 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 A week is too soon in my opinion. My ex told me he loved me after we'd been dating for a week and that turned into a trainwreck cause it scared the $hit out of me. With my current boyfriend I waited about 2 months into our relationship to say it, when it slipped out when we were having sex. Still haven't heard him tell me but everytime I tell him he smiles at me or kisses me passionately so I'm at a lost with him, but whatever. A month and a half isn't too short to me though.
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 This is variable per person and also, per guy. I've had some say it within two weeks, others who have waited longer. It all depends on who it is and how strongly you feel about them.
DustySaltus Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I wouldn't take his usage of "I love you" literally. i think it was just a light moment between the two of you. As far as when is it too soon, it all depends on the person and what love means to them. Love to me is about accepting someone for who they are with all their ups and downs. If you feel that you've seen enough of a sample of that and still care about them immensely, then you are ready.
skydiveaddict Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I've been dating this guy for a month and a half. We spend quite a bit of time together (probably about 3 or 4 nights a week). This weekend while out together and in normal conversation, he slips up and says he loves me. I went something like this - Me, joking, at something he just said: "I hate you." Him: "No, I'm fun, I love you, and you know it." Big smile. I didn't know how to take it so I sort of made a joke and blew it off. It wasn't mentioned again all weekend. I felt like it was more of a slip up on his part, but I can't be sure. So anyway I hope I handled all of that okay. But the bigger question that this brought up for me is, how soon is too soon in your opinion? i think the even bigger question is did it bother you when he said it? do you like the idea of him being in "love" with you? do you think you might be in love with him? those are the questions i would be asking myself
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