Author alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Author Share Posted January 1, 2010 Ok, she is pretty fricking nuts. quite . Link to post Share on other sites
theBrokenMuse Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 She's still calling you? Time for the big guns and no, I don't mean the cops (not just yet anyhow) who are usually not as helpful in these situations as they damn well should be. Send her a Cease and Desist Letter for harassment, templates/examples can be found online. Keep a copy of this letter for yourself. Be sure to make it so that she has to sign for it and ten extra points if you give it to your lawyer to have it sent from his office. This will get you in a position to have the police take you much more seriously. Anything that she sends after she has been given this document is now very clear cut harassment - there is no he said she said, loopholes with the whole txting thing. It will be clear and damning. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 OMG its a few calls and people are talking restraining orders hahhaha Alpha just grow a back bone be a ferkin man and answer the phone and TELL her ... tell her whatever you want but man up and just tell her! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 Have you ever actually told her IN PERSON or talking on the phone ( not text ) that you are not interested in persuing her , for whatever reasons ? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 OP, A few people have pointed out that you have not firmly told her to stop. Which means, that you actually enjoy the attention. Maybe you don't like her, Maybe you think she is off her rocker,but if you trully haven't told her firmly to stop by now- it's because you are hoping it will continue. It's a little ridiculous to complain about something you are egging on. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 He already told her. IN PERSON. And via TEXT. Telling her again in person isn't going provide any more information that she doesn't already have. It will fan her little flame. He wants it to burn out. Ignoring her is the way to achieve that. After he tells her in person and she calls him up yet again, I can imagine the advice... "Hey Alpha, did you tell her while walking on your hands making monkey noises?" "Hey Alpha, you haven't tried hiring a plane trailing a huge "LEAVE ME ALONE" banner." "Come on Alpha, be straight with her. You have to hire a singing telegram." Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 Everyone read this! well what happened was i went out with her once and she was acting all bizarre and stuff so after that first date i told her we shouldn't get together again (said to her face). Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 He already told her. IN PERSON. And via TEXT. Telling her again in person isn't going provide any more information that she doesn't already have. It will fan her little flame. He wants it to burn out. Ignoring her is the way to achieve that. After he tells her in person and she calls him up yet again, I can imagine the advice... "Hey Alpha, did you tell her while walking on your hands making monkey noises?" "Hey Alpha, you haven't tried hiring a plane trailing a huge "LEAVE ME ALONE" banner." "Come on Alpha, be straight with her. You have to hire a singing telegram." Yes Johan, but when she stalked him at the Indian dinner, he did not address this at that moment in its severest form. Obviously she did not get the hint prior and at the Indian Dinner would have been an opertune moment to say " Listen Judith , why are you here ? You were not on the invite list because I checked. Why are you here ? To bother me ? I am NOT interested in you " But when she approached him at the dinner he was not strong with her IMO. Of course as another poster suggested she might have been allowed in there because it was considered a public event. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Author Share Posted January 1, 2010 Yes Johan, but when she stalked him at the Indian dinner, he did not address this at that moment in its severest form. Obviously she did not get the hint prior and at the Indian Dinner would have been an opertune moment to say " Listen Judith , why are you here ? You were not on the invite list because I checked. Why are you here ? To bother me ? I am NOT interested in you " But when she approached him at the dinner he was not strong with her IMO. i couldn't be harsh with her cause there were 10 other people there Of course as another poster suggested she might have been allowed in there because it was considered a public event. but you had to sign up and she didn't... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 i couldn't be harsh with her cause there were 10 other people there but you had to sign up and she didn't... Wow . she is a nut...have you heard anymore from her ? What if she crawls in your bed some night ? ( If she gets your address which if you pay is easy to get )... Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Author Share Posted January 1, 2010 Wow . she is a nut...have you heard anymore from her ? i don't know...there is one new voicemail and two new texts showing on my phone and i'm too scared to check them What if she crawls in your bed some night ? ( If she gets your address which if you pay is easy to get )... she doesn't know where i live, thank freakin' god and she doesn't have my last name either Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 i don't know...there is one new voicemail and two new texts showing on my phone and i'm too scared to check them she doesn't know where i live, thank freakin' god and she doesn't have my last name either She could ask anyone in your dating circle....for your last name... Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 That's true, Alpha. Looks like your only way out of this is to sit down with her and talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 I wish he would just act like a man not a mouse! Alpha answer the dam phone and tell her in no uncertain terms that you are with someone and her calls are not wanted Just bleeding do it ... thats an order!! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Author Share Posted January 1, 2010 That's true, Alpha. Looks like your only way out of this is to sit down with her and talk. shes crazy...i'm not gonna talk to her Link to post Share on other sites
ordinary_girl Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 shes crazy...i'm not gonna talk to her It cracks me up how some people make out this is your fault because you are not handling it right. Like she shouldn't take responsibility. I'd get a restraining order. She should grow up Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Alphie- sometimes these people NEVER go away. I was friends with a dude that I was clear with over and over that I wasn't interested in him romantically- but he had a fantasy in his head that we were dating- and he told everyone we were! I cut contact with him over a year and a half ago after finding out he had told a guy I was interested in that he and I were sleeping together (ew! Never had, never would have). To this day he still texts me, calls me, even used to show up at my house randomly before I moved. You might want to think about getting a restraining order. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I stopped, D. You can stop telling people about it now. Message received. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Errrr Johan since you stopped with D, can you stop with me now? thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Share Posted January 2, 2010 Alphie- sometimes these people NEVER go away. I was friends with a dude that I was clear with over and over that I wasn't interested in him romantically- but he had a fantasy in his head that we were dating- and he told everyone we were! i hope you're wrong D-Lishie...i've got a couple of other chicks i'm scamming on and i don't want this psycho to ruin things Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 Not a chance, Lishy. We belong together, and sooner or later you're going to realize that. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 I stopped, D. You can stop telling people about it now. Message received. But I thought we had an understanding that "no" means "yes"? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 But I thought we had an understanding that "no" means "yes"? Well... what does "yes" mean then? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 It cracks me up how some people make out this is your fault because you are not handling it right. Like she shouldn't take responsibility. I'd get a restraining order. She should grow up But she truly sounds mentally disturbed.....and delusional that a guy would take all her texts and voicemail and is not calling her back.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 2, 2010 Share Posted January 2, 2010 i hope you're wrong D-Lishie...i've got a couple of other chicks i'm scamming on and i don't want this psycho to ruin things You don't have time for a 3 way ......... Link to post Share on other sites
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