alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I went out with this chick Maggie a couple times and now she won't stop calling me. We did not sleep together (thank god). She called like 5 times over the last 3 days and she's leaving these weird messages on my cell. She just called at 8:00am today. What should i do? i'm scared.
Citizen Erased Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Pick up the phone and tell her to stop calling you.
aerogurl87 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I had this same problem with an ex FWB. After my ex and I broke up I broke things off with him when I started seeing my current boyfriend. The guy would call me like 3 times in an hour, text me stuff like "I miss you!" and then leave these sad, pathetic messages on my voicemail about how he wanted to see me again. It got to the point where I just had to just end up changing my number when I got my new phone so he'd go away.
OnlyJake Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 She just called at 8:00am today. I would've answered "Are you checking up on me?" then asked her why she was blowin my spot with all my other options by blowin up my phone.
theBrokenMuse Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 To the person that mentioned an RO, five times in three days would hardly constitute a RO. I had trouble getting the police to take me seriously when I was getting the person driving down my dead end street several times each day and filling up my voicemail all the time with abusive crap.... Lets hope you wont have to deal with that headache. Have you tried making it very crystal clear to her that you do not wish to ever be contacted by her again?
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 Pick up the phone and tell her to stop calling you. but i don't really want to talk with her again, she was a bit strange
Woggle Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Tell her you love her and want to persue a relationship with her.
Citizen Erased Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 but i don't really want to talk with her again, she was a bit strange Well obviously but it's the quickest way to get her to stop calling you. Or what Woggle said.
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 Well obviously but it's the quickest way to get her to stop calling you. maybe i'll just txt msg her
Pyro Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 For being the Alphamale I would think you would have this one taken care of on your own. Perhaps you are betamale now?
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 For being the Alphamale I would think you would have this one taken care of on your own. Perhaps you are betamale now? i am alphamale when it comes to normal women but this one is not normal
Pyro Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i am alphamale when it comes to normal women but this one is not normal But I'm sure you have dealt with a non-normal one before.
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 But I'm sure you have dealt with a non-normal one before. indeed i have and i've learned that with the weird ones ANY form of contact with them just eggs them on. so if i call her to tell her to stop calling me that will just fuel the fire more...
Pyro Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 indeed i have and i've learned that with the weird ones ANY form of contact with them just eggs them on. so if i call her to tell her to stop calling me that will just fuel the fire more... One effective way to extinguish a fire is to deprive it of oxygen. That oxygen being you, so just ignore her calls. She'll get the hint.
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 get a female friend to answer the phone, and tell her: "This is *Alphamale's* mother. I'm going to get very cross with you dearie, if you keep calling him, because he's having nightmares, and has started to wet the bed again. If you don't stop, he'll end back up in the rest-home. He's sucking his thumb already, and has begun rocking back and forth. And that's not a good sign. It will soon be time to give him his medication, so I must go now, I'll get him to call you, if he gets better". And hang up.
thats what i said Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 indeed i have and i've learned that with the weird ones ANY form of contact with them just eggs them on. so if i call her to tell her to stop calling me that will just fuel the fire more... Well I'm not one of the weird ones but I have had my moments where I've been crazy about a guy. But, if I sent him a couple texts and left him a voicemail, that was the extent of my "stalking" if I didn't hear from him. It might take a while but if I didn't hear from him again, eventually I would simply move on. On the OTHER hand, if he had simply done as little as sent me a text message saying he wasn't interested, I would have moved on that much faster.
Vintage79 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I had a crazy who would call me all the time, even after I was dating some one else for six months. She wouldn't listen to me when I'd tell her I wasn't interested, to stop calling, that I was seeing some one else, etc. She'd call about 2-3 times daily...I'd probably answer and bitch at her once a week at most, but no effect over the six months. The only thing that worked was to have my new girlfriend answer the phone - she magically vanished into the woodwork at the point. I think the girlfriend answering worked largely because she just didn't believe me when I said I was seeing others - it provided evidence to the contrary. I think, however, that you could essentially do the same thing by having even a platonic woman friend answer - it just needs to be a woman's voice - hey, it's worth a try,
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 One effective way to extinguish a fire is to deprive it of oxygen. That oxygen being you, so just ignore her calls. She'll get the hint. i have been ignoring her calls but she's NOT getting the hint
Pyro Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i have been ignoring her calls but she's NOT getting the hint For some it takes more time. Patience is a virtue.
elaina Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 get a female friend to answer the phone, and tell her: "This is *Alphamale's* mother. I'm going to get very cross with you dearie, if you keep calling him, because he's having nightmares, and has started to wet the bed again. If you don't stop, he'll end back up in the rest-home. He's sucking his thumb already, and has begun rocking back and forth. And that's not a good sign. It will soon be time to give him his medication, so I must go now, I'll get him to call you, if he gets better". And hang up. lol!!!! oh that's awesome!!! how funny... she'd probably freak out though and want to come right over to nurse him back to health lol! Some people can't take even a strong hint it seems.
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 TM's idea is funny but if it brings out the "caring" woman in her, you could instead get the female friend to say "Stop calling my husband, you two-bit hussy! :mad:".
Pizzaman81 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 maybe i'll just txt msg her C'mon man, call her, man up... ALPHA MAN! That's how I stopped it. I called once and just told her, "I am not interested in you that way, I must move on, sorry"
jw90063 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 This post doesn't even make sense. OP doesn't seem like the type who can't put the girl in her place. No offense, Alpha, but according to your other posts, it seems rather rare if you do stumble across a normal girl. I'm not surprised she's a nut-job who keeps calling, but surprised you can't handle it a little better on your own, besides just saying "I'm Scared". I would just pick up the phone or text her and say to stop contacting you. You can always change your number if you have to, and if she is the stalker type, then a restraining order obviously is next, but surely it's not that bad of a situation.
Author alphamale Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 For some it takes more time. Patience is a virtue. indeed lol!!!! oh that's awesome!!! how funny... she'd probably freak out though and want to come right over to nurse him back to health lol! Some people can't take even a strong hint it seems. i already told her me mum is dead I would have to say just ignore her phone calls as well. Talking to her will only give her hope. thats my line of thinking, if she calls a couple more times then i'll call her and tell her to stop harrassing me
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