leap83 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 So, after a YEAR of constant "harassing" (as I would call it) from my ex bf (of 4 yrs), FINALLY this year I didn't receive a "Happy Birthday" message. I'm really happy about this because he would send me e-mails for my birthday, Valentine's and other random days and it would ANNOY the living hell out of me. This is due to the fact that our break-up was horrible and he is a douche - if it was not, I wouldn't mind the e-mails, texts, etc. I can finally, FINALLY move on without constant remembering of our horrible relationship. I FINALLY don't have any baggage with me. And it's not even the end of the year! My resolution was to get rid of that baggage when the New Year comes as I had no strength to deal with that now. Anyway, I'm delighted and I wanted to share this with you. There is God. _________________________________________________________________ As far as the most recent ex goes, I have no hope in being with him ever again. No hope in seeing him again. No hope of being able to tell him what kind of douche I was when we were together. This part hurts a lot since looking back at our relationship, I had my fair share of faults. I know it won't matter what I tell him because we're not together anymore, but it would at least help in "cleaning up" whatever is left between us. The funny thing is that I don't even know how to "clean up" my part of the mess. And yes, I know about the NC. I have heard of it. It exists right now. I have no plans of breaking it just yet. Even if I did, I wouldn't know what to say because I pretty much messed up a good thing in my life. However, there is no moving on until you properly heal and get rid of the baggage you're carrying. There is no dating others. There is only work and friends. So, I need to figure out a way to, in a nice way, say the things I want to say and then shut the door. But I'm faced with hurdles down that path and I have no idea why. Probably because I still have feelings for him. Anyway... just rambling.
Cinnamon777 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Congrats on becoming free from the harassment of the "terrible relationship". To say things you need to say... write them down. You don't need to deliver the message in person... burn it and offer it up to the Universe. Some how, he will get the information if it will help him "clean up" what is left between you. The benefit to that is it will be off your plate and you can let go to move on. IMO, sometimes it's best to let things be unsaid.
ordinary_girl Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 just out of interest: if you don't want to hear from someone, why don't you block their email address? this is what I do. I assumed that was what everyone did
Author leap83 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Congrats on becoming free from the harassment of the "terrible relationship". To say things you need to say... write them down. You don't need to deliver the message in person... burn it and offer it up to the Universe. Some how, he will get the information if it will help him "clean up" what is left between you. The benefit to that is it will be off your plate and you can let go to move on. IMO, sometimes it's best to let things be unsaid. Not that easy. There is a lot at stake in this particular "relationship" and as I *know* that we will be seeing each other more often next year, it is better to say it in person and clean up the tide than wait months and then one of us *blows up.* If I was never seeing him again, that would be a whole different story. However, that's not the case. just out of interest: if you don't want to hear from someone, why don't you block their email address? this is what I do. I assumed that was what everyone did The thing about this guy and why I said he was "harassing" me was that he opened up multiple accounts on Fb, contacted me through his friends, etc. I blocked him initially but when I picked up on what he was doing, I unblocked him and let him do it through his own account. I really didn't have any energy in following him around and blocking EVERY account he created. I think was resolved the issue was the fact that I fell in love with another man and he found out. I believe that snipped the cord in half (hopefully).
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