CentralJersey Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 So it's day 5 of my breakup and NC...I thought it was day 5 yesterday, but mis-counted...and that sucks. I obviously have that terrible feeling in my gut. Sleeping hasn't been great, but could be worse...I slept over 7 hours back to back nights, so that's good. What's driving me crazy is that I dont have ANY appetite. I force myself to eat here and there...but this is driving me crazy as I LOVE to eat. I'm not expecting her to call. Even if she did, I would have a hard time ever being with her again. I was working out consistently before the breakup, I like my job and work very hard, I've spent time talking to and hanging out with friends....I just want to be hungry.......................................
HeavenOrHell Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 All I can say is I felt like that maybe the first month but I ate properly again after that, well I eat a lot of junk now which isn't good, but I'm eating plenty. Give it time, you'll be fine So it's day 5 of my breakup and NC...I thought it was day 5 yesterday, but mis-counted...and that sucks. I obviously have that terrible feeling in my gut. Sleeping hasn't been great, but could be worse...I slept over 7 hours back to back nights, so that's good. What's driving me crazy is that I dont have ANY appetite. I force myself to eat here and there...but this is driving me crazy as I LOVE to eat. I'm not expecting her to call. Even if she did, I would have a hard time ever being with her again. I was working out consistently before the breakup, I like my job and work very hard, I've spent time talking to and hanging out with friends....I just want to be hungry.......................................
nobmagnet Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i still have no appitite. Lowly left for the first time in feb and I havent had more than th odd hot meal since. Im down to 7.5 stone and 5ft6. None of my clothes fit and I look like a stick naked! yeuk. I have no magic remedy sorry but I will watch to find your responces because i need to eat too. Hunger is something I havent felt for nearly a year. doh soz i cant help xx
HeavenOrHell Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 That's no good I haven't had an appetite as such for years because I have a stomach problem, but I do manage to eat usually, except for the first few weeks. Been eating a lot of rubbish. I like eating comfort food, I can't eat loads though cos of my stomach problems, so I'm only 7 stone (5 ft 1). You must be so thin hun I lived on chocolate and oven chips for a while after he left. I still don't cook properly, can't be bothered, plus what's the point cooking for one. But I need to make the effort somehow as I'm vegetarian, mostly vegan, so I can't really muck around and eat c*** Could you make some healthy soup at least? Easier to get it down and good for you? I actually made my first soup since he left (july) last week Don't make yourself ill hun, he's not worth it. i still have no appitite. Lowly left for the first time in feb and I havent had more than th odd hot meal since. Im down to 7.5 stone and 5ft6. None of my clothes fit and I look like a stick naked! yeuk. I have no magic remedy sorry but I will watch to find your responces because i need to eat too. Hunger is something I havent felt for nearly a year. doh soz i cant help xx
curiousnycgirl Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Wow you can all have my appetite! I have yet to find the event that makes me lose it. That would be a single good thing that would be coming out of this hell I am in - but no. I eat when I'm happy, I eat when I'm sad - I just eat. UGH
EricaH329 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I feel for you. I wasn't able to eat for the longest time, probably around 2 or 3 months. I lost a lotttt of weight. What I suggest is forcing yourself to eat a little bit throughout the day. Grab some crackers, or chips and bring them with you everywhere you go. Snack all day. You need to be eating something. Even though you don't want to (trust me, I know), you have to. Also, make sure you are drinking lots and lots of fluids. Preferrably water. You need it more than ever right now. The good news is that once you get your appetite back, you will more than likely be eating twice the amount you orginally were (happened to me). Hang in there. Most of us have been through that. It will pass. But like I said, you have to eat something.
AliveAndKicking Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I feel for you. I wasn't able to eat for the longest time, probably around 2 or 3 months. I lost a lotttt of weight. What I suggest is forcing yourself to eat a little bit throughout the day. Grab some crackers, or chips and bring them with you everywhere you go. Snack all day. You need to be eating something. Even though you don't want to (trust me, I know), you have to. Also, make sure you are drinking lots and lots of fluids. Preferrably water. You need it more than ever right now. The good news is that once you get your appetite back, you will more than likely be eating twice the amount you orginally were (happened to me). Hang in there. Most of us have been through that. It will pass. But like I said, you have to eat something. I do the same thing Erica. When I'm stressed out I lose my appetite. In addition to those crackers and chips I make sure to have fresh fruit in the house- a bowl of grapes plucked and washed in a bowl, some cherry tomatoes, apples, etc. Any time I can I have a little something. I might not be able to down a full meal but by days-end I've gotten enough calories to feel somewhat human and keep my sugar from dropping like a rock. Nibble on snacks and in time the appetite will return. I lost a lot of weight and I can't afford to do that. My appetite eventually returned with a vengeance. Hang in there and nibble, nibble, nibble.
EricaH329 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I do the same thing Erica. When I'm stressed out I lose my appetite. In addition to those crackers and chips I make sure to have fresh fruit in the house- a bowl of grapes plucked and washed in a bowl, some cherry tomatoes, apples, etc. Any time I can I have a little something. I might not be able to down a full meal but by days-end I've gotten enough calories to feel somewhat human and keep my sugar from dropping like a rock. Nibble on snacks and in time the appetite will return. I lost a lot of weight and I can't afford to do that. My appetite eventually returned with a vengeance. Hang in there and nibble, nibble, nibble. That is a great idea! And it's healthy! Now that i've passed that stage of never wanting to eat, I think my body wanted to make up for lost time. I'm eating more than I have ever eaten before! And I lovvve it!
AliveAndKicking Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 That is a great idea! And it's healthy! Now that i've passed that stage of never wanting to eat, I think my body wanted to make up for lost time. I'm eating more than I have ever eaten before! And I lovvve it! I can't take credit for that one; My ex always has fresh fruit, hummus, healthy crackers with lots of fiber, etc., in her kitchen. I'd walk into her house and beeline to her fruitbowl. I think she has the only house in the world with two teenage boys where the cookies go stale and the fruit disappears. Her good habits rubbed off on me and to this day I feel like my kitchen is missing something if I don't have yummy healthy snacks on the counter and in the fridge. Still, though, I've got this damn winter belly that gets harder and harder to lose each year. I can blame the holidays for that right? Right???? *sigh*....
McGrupp Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i lost 35 lbs. basically what your boddy is doing is protecting itself. your brain has put it in a state of awarness and protection as if you were being attacked or left in the desert. itll come back. for a minute all i could eat was junk food probably because of the salt.
stillafool Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 So it's day 5 of my breakup and NC...I thought it was day 5 yesterday, but mis-counted...and that sucks. I obviously have that terrible feeling in my gut. Sleeping hasn't been great, but could be worse...I slept over 7 hours back to back nights, so that's good. What's driving me crazy is that I dont have ANY appetite. I force myself to eat here and there...but this is driving me crazy as I LOVE to eat. I'm not expecting her to call. Even if she did, I would have a hard time ever being with her again. I was working out consistently before the breakup, I like my job and work very hard, I've spent time talking to and hanging out with friends....I just want to be hungry....................................... Your stomach can't stop churning, right? Try drinking some broth and get yourself some yogurt and jello. This stuff is easy to get down and you don't really have to chew.
nobmagnet Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i graze. eat little on often. Take supliments to get the vitamins and drink pints of milk. not enough though. doh
countingstarsagain Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I also no appetite after my big breakup. I didn't eat anything for two weeks except a very small amount of fruit and some bite size oreos. Lost 15 pounds (i was only 119 lbs anyway, and 5'8''!) It was terrible, but now I'm finally eating decently again and putting a few pounds back on. Your appetite will come back, but it does really suck right now. Hang in there and just try to eat some fruit, even if it's just a few grapes. You're in my prayers!
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Losing your appetite when it's a traumatic break up isn't abnormal. After I found out the ex-H cheated on me, I went into a minor depression. What worked for me, was to increase physical activity. After awhile of this, your body will start demanding real food and also, if your body is tired, it will sleep.
MinTea Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Just keep taking baby steps with the food. I had big problems eating and sleeping after my break up. It was easiest to eat little things that were juicy or could slide down easily. Soups, oranges, canned fruits, mashed potatoes, puddings, yougurts, ice cream... I'd try to force down sandwiches but could only muster in half of one for lunch and the other half for supper. It was really bad. I could tell that my body was hungry because my stomach would growl but the thought of eating made me feel nauseous. So I'd try sticking to a soft food diet until you can get more solid foods down. As for sleeping, try to find some ambient noise to quiet your mind. I had some nature sounds that would help to drown out my frantic thoughts and help me to eventually get to sleep. Or maybe you could use some nice quiet music that you like. This is only a temporary fix for the anxiety, but if it helps you to get to sleep, then I'd say go with it! Also doing something active during the day will help to tire yourself out and fall asleep easier. Hope your appetite comes back soon!
trueblue72ny Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 eventually starvation will over take the heart ache
madrugada Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I lost 30 lbs. in the month after my ex left me. I literally went days without eating. Eventually my appetite came back. You'll get there. Thinking about it now, it scares me how far gone I was, and still am in many ways. I couldn't eat, sleep or think straight for weeks. It will work out in time, for you and for me. What sucks for me is that I love to cook, and my ex and I always ate healthy, but in the two months since she left I haven't been able to bring myself to cook anything. Fixing and eating meals was something she and I always did together, and the thought of cooking by myself just hurts too much. Plus, when she moved in we replaced all my pots and pans with hers. When she moved out, she took them all.
Author CentralJersey Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 I love to cook as well. Although I never cooked with my ex, she LOVED my cooking. Either way, I am in no mood at all to cook...or eat. I have been forcing myself though...bowl of cereal each morning...something more sustabtial for lunch or dinner. I definitely need to drink more fluids though. I go the gym or play basketball 3-5 days a week already. While I haven't stopped doing that, I cant really increase my physical activity. I also work 5 or 6 days a week...and I usually stay at work until 6 or 7pm...so I am keeping busy and active. I think I just need time. I just hope it's weeks and not months. Also, having days off due to Xmas/New Years doesnt help. I'd rather be at work and busy than at home or with friends who feel bad for me. Lastly, only slept 5.5 hours last night...guess I'll be tired tonight and make it over 7 hours.
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