Called the Ex..dont really know who ended

[2BHAPPY]

We ended our relationship on Thanksgiving Day..but maybe it was a misunderstanding. We had not spoken for 3 weeks and when I finally called him, he thought I was upset at him and decided to dump me by text. I got all upset and said it was fine that I wanted my stuff back so he put it outside his house..wouldnt even talk to me. So I sent him a nasty letter telling him he was cheap, miserly and greedy..

 

Now 3 weeks later I called him to wish him Merry Christmas as I did miss the good parts of the relationship..It turns out the he has been depressed because of the breakup..Didnt put a tree up and by his own admission hasnt laughed since we broke up. We started talking and he wouldnt get off the phone..we were talking for almost 2 hours and told me about how I never said what really bothered me and that I held it in instead of talking and then just stopped talking to him. We did have issues over him being cheap and always keeping track of his money which he doesnt have to because he has plenty of money. He said that I am always insisting on travelling and because of that he resisted me..and how he is a simple man and I am more outgoing, etc.

 

Anyway, he does have some good things about him and I wish he would have said I really miss you and lets work on this....I know that he wants to be in a relationship with me but he never said lets work on this...just about all the things that are different in his life without me. He was being very guarded I perceived. I have not been in a long term relationshp for many years so its hard for me to be in one..I know that everyone has issues but his issues of being cheap does really get to me. Otherwise, he is loyal, dedicated to me..spends all his free time with me..but it can get boring if we dont go out to see a concert or something. We do get away for the weekends but sometimes its a hit and miss because he will get a cheap motel and its very uncomfortable..although he has found some good ones.

 

Anyway, I dont know where to take this now..I miss him and would like to work on the issues...but he didnt say lets talk again or lets do something..so he is depressed and missing me..but doesnt want to follow up with another contact. I dont know what to do.

 

I dont if at the state he was in he would have been the one to call and then tell me he would work on the relationship in order to keep me. I do know that I am the best thing that ever happened to him from what his family and he told me when we were dating. We have been single for many years, he for 20 and myself for 24..so we are both set in our single ways.

 

Anyway, would like to get your input on this situation.

 

Thanks