iwanttolive Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I dun feel sexy anymore with the ring on I feel unattractive now because i become off-limit to guys.. I'm very sure my bf is the one and only one for me, but I feel single women are hot and flirtatious. And i'm not anymore... Argh, I dun even know what i'm saying, can someone explain to me why I have this feeling?? Don't bash me up, do u still feel sexy after ur married???
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Yes, I do still feel sexy, married AND pregnant! I don't think you're ready for marriage, if it detracts from feeling good about yourself.
Malenfant Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 (edited) how old are you? i know i cared about being attractive when i was a bit younger, but TBH i dont care about being sexy to other men anymore, i only care that my H finds me sexy, which he does and he shows it all the time. My H makes me feel sexier than i ever did before. I still like to look nice, its different wanting to be sexy for other people than looking good for yourself. when you're out and guys hit on you its totally superficial anyway, you shouldnt need the attention of random men in order to feel sexy. your BF loves you and you should eventually realise that is really all that matters. if you havent come round to feeling that way then maybe your engagement should be a long one. Edited December 27, 2009 by Malenfant
doushenka Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Wait, you weren't off-limits before your engagement? Understanding boyfriend! I feel sexier than ever in my relationship. I was always inclined to bury that side of myself; now I'm encouraged to bring it out.
Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Are you kidding me? I LOVE my ring!!!! I actually love the way it looks on me. I don't give a hoot if any guy thinks I'm "unattractive" now that I have a ring on my finger. I agree you may want to re-think your engagement. And I also am curious as to why you weren't "off limits" prior to your engagement. Actually, you may want to take a look at the Infidelity/OH/OW forums. They show just how "attractive" taken men and women really are to mates.
Jack & Coke Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 You should have done him a favor and said no.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 can someone explain to me why I have this feeling?? It means that something inside of you craves objective male validation and attention, and the idea that you won't be allowed that any more scares the hell out of you. I don't know that it has as much to do with how you feel about your fiance so much as it does how you feel about yourself. You may want to try to get to the bottom of it before you go any further. Find out why you need that objective validation and try to find ways to get it from within rather than from other men. Something is missing inside you, and until you get it fixed you really ought not to be considering marriage. You will find yourself desperately unhappy and more than likely tempted to find validation not more than a few years down the road and end up making a good deal more people unhappy. That ounce of prevention will be worth a ton of cure.
Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 (edited) It means that something inside of you craves objective male validation and attention, and the idea that you won't be allowed that any more scares the hell out of you. I don't know that it has as much to do with how you feel about your fiance so much as it does how you feel about yourself. You may want to try to get to the bottom of it before you go any further. Find out why you need that objective validation and try to find ways to get it from within rather than from other men. Something is missing inside you, and until you get it fixed you really ought not to be considering marriage. You will find yourself desperately unhappy and more than likely tempted to find validation not more than a few years down the road and end up making a good deal more people unhappy. That ounce of prevention will be worth a ton of cure. Yes, very well said, I agree. These are things that you should really think about and be worked out PRIOR to getting married. Oh, something else to think about. Although your fiance may give you some of the validation you crave, he probably already assumes that you know how much he loves you and how attracted he is to you. Therefore he may not give you that validation you need, and as is said above, you may find yourself seeking that validation outside of your marriage. Edited December 28, 2009 by Lauriebell82
Heroic Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 It shows that you are still looking. Do both of you a favor give him the ring back and find someone who keeps your attention.
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