um.yeah Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 So I've been with my bf for 2 years. He cheated on me when I was pregnant with our child, and I can't seem to let it go. I found out that he had been talking to this girl for 2 months. I found text messages that were pretty explicit. He still maintains that he didn't have sex with her. I'm positive that he did. I honestly don't know why I even stayed with him...I guess I tried because we were having a baby (also, we each have a child from previous relationships and they are attached to each other). And before this happened, things were good. We had never even raised our voices toward each other. I am trying my best to forgive him but it's been 6 months and things haven't changed much. He still goes out with 'the guys' and always comes home hours after he says he will. I just feel like he's not even trying to make things right with me. He hasn't really admitted what happened before. He tells me that hes not doing anything, just playing cards. But come on! Who plays cards for 10 hours straight? I just don't know what to do anymore. I've never been in this position. Sometimes I literally feel like I'm losing my mind. He tries to convince me that I'm crazy and I'm telling myself the opposite. I'm just back and forth with myself...
Angel1111 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 If you're certain that he cheated then he's lying to you and, even worse, is trying to downplay your feelings and make you feel like you're the one with the problem. This is deplorable. His actions are telling you that he's still very arrogant and thinks he can do as he pleases, while you suffer and worry. Sometimes the only answer is to walk away, or tell him to move out. If he doesn't get how important this is to you then, then he never will.
HLP234 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I would try and talk to him seriously about this and tell him exactly how you feel and what you want. If you are sure he cheated on you, than you need to do something about that..sitting and wondering will just make it worse.
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