chant2010 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 well i was with this girl for 7 1/2 yrs- she had 3 kids by her husband they were divorced when we met and he was in the pen. we were great together her kids loved me but they were very bad sometimes. probably from the way their dad did them . by just leaving them. and treating their mom like crap,hitting her ,cheated on her with her sis. and he was on crack.but enough about him. anyways our relationship was good together we had our average disagreements as any other relationships but for the most part we loved each other. i thought we would wound up getting married it was so strong.well straight to the point about a month before my b-day she started acting kinda distant from me i would always ask are u ok what wrong, out of the blue she says she is not in love with me anymore, rocked my whole world, come to find out her x is gettin out of the pen in nov.so she asked me to move out and moved him in after i took care of her for 7 ys. how am i supposed to feel about that . should i just say fu_k it and move on , or just try to wait and see if they are going to work it out or not , cause i love her deeply
Author chant2010 Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 i hear that , thinking about doing that but the pain is overbearing that someone could actually treat another person that way and be ok with themselves
carolinawanderer Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 There is the possibility that she was just looking for someone to bide her time with until what's-his-face got out of the slammer. My gut is, as reboot said, to run from this woman and not look back. Honestly I don't understand how someone can go back to a person who hit them and cheated on them. I don't think she's worth it. Maybe he's reformed himself in jail. Did you ever figure out why she trusts him not to do those things again?
Author chant2010 Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 no don't know why she thinks everything will workout now she just said that she wants her family back together
Yamaha Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 When it doesn't work out with the ex she will want you back; don't do it. She is a women with issues and you can't fix her. The problem is within her so don't blame yourself but love yourself enough to walk away from her.
gaudi Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i hear that , thinking about doing that but the pain is overbearing that someone could actually treat another person that way and be ok with themselves The fact that she is one of those people who are somehow able to do this should be reason enough for you to NEVER go back to her. And I have no doubt she will be looking to come back to you at sometime in the future, forget her, as far as I can tell, she is not for you.
Zeegagge Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Please get as far away from this person as possible! Dont even worry about them anymore, at all!
Golfilla Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 no don't know why she thinks everything will workout now she just said that she wants her family back together She's probably just romanticising the past and only remembering the good things from her relationship with her X, while overlooking the crap. It's something people do occasionally, and not just in relationships. Either that, or this woman has some serious issues. Either way, you need to move on. You did everything right with her, so don't beat yourself up about it, but now you need to find someone who will appreciate the good things you bring to the table. She's out there somewhere, and every extra day you spend grieving over what couldn't be here is a day less you get to spend with your soulmate.
Author chant2010 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 thanx guys yal really helped alot
varaski Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 How about I tell you how this one is going to play out. Its simple. While he was locked up he sent the sweetent and kindest letters. People in jail have time to do that you know, they should actually be writing for hallmark. After a while the (ex) will begin to see all of the new and exciting WOMEN he hasn't been around for the last 7 years and temptation is a monster. Then the lil ex wifee will begin to get some drama throwed on her. All the while the guilt will be on her back like a drunken monkey. Normally our pride won't allow us to come clean with our feelings and if that is the case with her, she will probably be angry with you upfront (manipulation) as to hide from the terrible feelings she placed upon you or she will just never try to contact you at all. What are you doing these days, I hope you are dating or at least turning your heart back to yourself. She is with the one she wanted to be with, that is solely and has always been her decision. Don't wait around bro...
Author chant2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 well i moved on and ive started dating again,it was the hardest thing ive ever done but i did it ,i just wanted to say thnx 4 you guyz helping and listening.
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