Peter_pan Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 posts! hey any of the originals still kicking about? fox? emperorR?, northstar? dlish? been ages since me and "that ex" broke up 2 years nearly! i was a mess! nearly taking my life over it etc. gosh how far ive come. i guess its true time is a healer! been with 5 girls since then. not that they have worked out. in fact i got messed about another 3 times at least! but its good experience and i learnt i CAN get hotter girls than my ex. which for some reason i had it in my mind that she was the bench mark for the world lol just wanted to wish everyone the best and try and enjoy this hard time of year.. take care x
teanoranges Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I definitely don't know you, but I really like hearing people's stories of success! It gives hope. So how long did it take you in the healing process?
GrayClouds Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 It is alwasy good to hear someone form the other side. Thanks.
Author Peter_pan Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 (edited) no problem peeps Yeah its strange being this side as you put it. never thought id get here. in fact i only stumbled back onto this web site since i had another girl on my mind! and few days ago i ran past my ex (the one who brought me to this site) was strange/mad to see her but it didn't bother me, she didnt notice me either, was cold and i had a massive hat on lol. it took me a year to get over "the ex" she was my first love. I only got over her once i saw her for the first time in over a year of NC. i expressed how i felt about what she did and she got upset ran off, and that was that! after this point i felt great. it was all done and dusted in my mind. i knew i was better than her and the dude she left me for (not being big headed). and as far as i know she is still with him to this day! im happy for her. i no longer feel for her the way i did. the only thing i would like which is impossible is if we some how could still say "hey" once in a while. after all i was with her for 3 years etc. but hey thats life! anyway, after getting it all of my chest when i spoke to her, i started chasing the girls and forgot about the whole thing. ive since had 5 girl friends/interests. made and lost different friends, had different jobs. enjoying being me and doing the things i want to do. its mad how much happens! just realised ive written loads Edited December 27, 2009 by Peter_pan
Author Peter_pan Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 its funny, i miss the people who helped me through it more than her now must be a good sign lol !!
teanoranges Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Yes, a first love story! Triumph. haha. I'm going through my 'first love' stage. Can't wait until I'm at your point. I'm definitely up for flirting with people and occasionally do, just got to stop thinking of him directly after. I know how you feel about missing the people who got you through it. I miss my friends that I met sort of through him, but know/knew I had to let them go or distance myself from them until I'm ready. Luckily, they are loosing their contact with him too. He drifts quickly from friends.
Author Peter_pan Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 yeah i know how you feel your right, her friends from here were i live say the same thing, she just lost all contact with them was talking to a girl that used to work with her and they said she added them to facebook the other day and she thought her status was set to engaged. oh well! mad since she left me for him and they last all this time, two years nearly now, sad in a way. will just have to date her friend lol
northstar1 Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 posts! hey any of the originals still kicking about? fox? emperorR?, northstar? dlish? been ages since me and "that ex" broke up 2 years nearly! i was a mess! nearly taking my life over it etc. gosh how far ive come. i guess its true time is a healer! been with 5 girls since then. not that they have worked out. in fact i got messed about another 3 times at least! but its good experience and i learnt i CAN get hotter girls than my ex. which for some reason i had it in my mind that she was the bench mark for the world lol just wanted to wish everyone the best and try and enjoy this hard time of year.. take care x Hey Peter! I'm still kickin around, but I haven't seen Fox on here for a long time, Dlish still is still a regular, and Emperor is around I think. Glad to see you've made it through to the otherside and are enjoying life again. It feels good doesn't it? You should stick around and offer some guidance to others, it helps people.
Author Peter_pan Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 hey ! great to see you! yeah it feels great, it built me up for any other relationships i got into. but now leaves me feeling like, if i had some more experience before her then i could have been a lot more smooth and taken it easier, still kept some peace between us. but not to be. kinda hate her for that reason still. that she didnt give a ****, or was to proud to admit it. but yeah i will read some threads. time and distance is how to truly heal, once you have realised there is no going back. it takes time though, but eventually people will realise
Zeegagge Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Thanks Peter! This forum needs more of this.
D-Lish Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Hey you! I'm still here! Glad to see you're doing well. What else is new???
Kantor Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 no problem peeps Yeah its strange being this side as you put it. never thought id get here. in fact i only stumbled back onto this web site since i had another girl on my mind! and few days ago i ran past my ex (the one who brought me to this site) was strange/mad to see her but it didn't bother me, she didnt notice me either, was cold and i had a massive hat on lol. it took me a year to get over "the ex" she was my first love. I only got over her once i saw her for the first time in over a year of NC. i expressed how i felt about what she did and she got upset ran off, and that was that! after this point i felt great. it was all done and dusted in my mind. i knew i was better than her and the dude she left me for (not being big headed). and as far as i know she is still with him to this day! im happy for her. i no longer feel for her the way i did. the only thing i would like which is impossible is if we some how could still say "hey" once in a while. after all i was with her for 3 years etc. but hey thats life! anyway, after getting it all of my chest when i spoke to her, i started chasing the girls and forgot about the whole thing. ive since had 5 girl friends/interests. made and lost different friends, had different jobs. enjoying being me and doing the things i want to do. its mad how much happens! just realised ive written loads Great to hear, and nice to meet you. I'll echo what the rest have said, its good to know WE can and will get through this and be better for it! Thanks for sharing... hopefully I'll be able to 'give up' the hope sooner or later ... or get her back ... right ... ? Anyways, thanks again for sharing a positive outcome, we need some more of these! Many of us on here could use some self improvement in the feeling department.
Author Peter_pan Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 (edited) well thanks peeps, i'm glad i am shining some light at the end of the tunnels you will get there trust me, just let time do its thing! kantor your welcome, you say about giving up hope. well thats one way of seeing it, but i see it more as just "realising". once you come to terms with it properly you will naturally not see it as hoping for anything, it will "just be" i beleive things happen for a reason and you just have to handle it. you will become a better person. always. without realising, i have "bettered" myself, which was everyones advice back then. with a bit of time i got there. i put all my energy's into friends and working out. i now have a body the girls would kill for lol (more or less) so never let yourself get down. you ARE a better person than them. they DON'T deserve YOU. and anyway i am glad my ex is happy, its what she wants to do with her life, so be it !! and you know what else is pretty kool, 2 of my closest mates split up with there long term first girlfriends (one 5 years) so its nice they can ask me for advice, and because ive "been there" i naturally know how to lift spirits and just be a better friend. so thats really really good. i feel PROUD of myself @ dlish, hey sweetie aww its great to hear from you. really. lots of new news lol. off to snowboard again in january, and tomorrow off with 9 mates for new years. its going to be great. i shall have to PM you. peace x Edited December 31, 2009 by Peter_pan
northstar1 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 well thanks peeps, i'm glad i am shining some light at the end of the tunnels you will get there trust me, just let time do its thing! kantor your welcome, you say about giving up hope. well thats one way of seeing it, but i see it more as just "realising". once you come to terms with it properly you will naturally not see it as hoping for anything, it will "just be" i beleive things happen for a reason and you just have to handle it. you will become a better person. always. without realising, i have "bettered" myself, which was everyones advice back then. with a bit of time i got there. i put all my energy's into friends and working out. i now have a body the girls would kill for lol (more or less) so never let yourself get down. you ARE a better person than them. they DON'T deserve YOU. and anyway i am glad my ex is happy, its what she wants to do with her life, so be it !! and you know what else is pretty kool, 2 of my closest mates split up with there long term first girlfriends (one 5 years) so its nice they can ask me for advice, and because ive "been there" i naturally know how to lift spirits and just be a better friend. so thats really really good. i feel PROUD of myself @ dlish, hey sweetie aww its great to hear from you. really. lots of new news lol. off to snowboard again in january, and tomorrow off with 9 mates for new years. its going to be great. i shall have to PM you. peace x Sounds like you are in a good spot mate. It's great once you heal and can look back on it all. I know during the time you are healing, it seems like you will never get out, but it really does happen. It took me about 8 months to get through all the pain, healing and such, but now its all behind me, which is great. Everyone heals at a different rate, but people do get there with time and focusing on themselves. Enjoy your new years and boarding, and make sure to stick around here and give back some of the good advice.
foxh1234 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Hey Pete, nice to see your over the hump and now living life again. I browse this site every few months and seeing your name again I thought I would log in and say hi. Nice to see Northstar and D as well. It does get better with time and life is amazing again. This place is amazing and it helped me a lot when I was down.
Author Peter_pan Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 hey fox , Awesome to hear from ya ! yeah its been ages now! went so fast. what have you been up to? ever hear from your ex again? yeah this place is amazing, but being here reminds me of her which i dont like so much.
foxh1234 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Hey Pete, I hear from her every month or so, texts, calls, bumping into her at bars. It is what it is, I'm over her completely and have no desire to be friends. It's a great feeling to know in your heart that your done. I thought about her a lot but I think we all reach a point where wondering about what ifs gets really old. I am dating a great lady now and having a ball. Life is really good. You sound great as well, I'm really happy that you snapped out of it. I was a little hard on you trying to get you out of your funk, sorry about that buddy. Anyway, take care and good luck bro.
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