he stresses over everything..i just want to be happy

[against_all_odds]

ive been with my bf over 2 years..hes well quite difficult sumtimes he is lovely n then other times he stresses and goes totally over the top about everything...over the most silly thing..hes always been like that..usually we end up arguing because of it and i end up crying..he used to be depressed or thats what he said but to be honest i think it seems like bi polar disorder ..because one min hes hes happy about everything the next everythings crap..its making me poorly too because im anxious now pls help and offer advice id be so grateful x

[lecasanova]

he seems to be going through an unstable patch, or rather he has a serious case of mood swings. usually such stuff are mental, basically all in the mind, so if you can get to the root cause of that, like perhaps something that's troubling him from time to time (work, parents etc), it would help his cause. but if nothing else works, i would suggest a shrink too.

[ms.immortality]

I am in the same boat. My bf goes to extremes over things that I just let roll off my shoulders. One minute he is tender, kind and loving and the next he goes on a tangent about something to the point of ridiculous anger.

 

I know he has ADD issues, but, I am also ADD and have known other people with it and haven't ever seen such extreme behavior.

 

I know what you are going through, when he goes off on something I don't know what to say or do. Nothing I can say will comfort him. It is like an episode he has to overcome. Then he will get to the point of being emotional and apologetic to me. Then at some random point it will happen again.

 

We have been in couples counseling and the counselor has mentioned obvious anxiety in him.

 

I know there are different forms of bipolar disorder and many if not all involve moderate to severe anxiety. Another thing is that bipolar people (for some reason) have trouble admitting it let alone taking medication for it. I have noticed this too. When the Dr mentioned to him seeing his MD for anxiety medication (in addition or instead of) his anti-depressant; he has been dragging his heels, second guessing the counselor, making excuses, blaming other things or people for the episodes.

 

I don't know what to do other than encourage him to be evaluated. Those conversations just seem to trigger more episodes.

 

Best of luck to you. I hope we both can help them through this. It is hard to love someone who is emotionally unpredictable in this way.