why would someone not accept your friend request on FB?

[shadowplay]

I know it seems trivial, but it's pissing me off nonetheless.

 

I added this girl I've known for about a year and a half on and off. She never accepted my request. We're not exactly friends, but we've have talked a bunch of times, always say hi to each other, and work in two of the the same organizations. She has a lot of facebook friends, and many are people who I know she is simply acquaintances with. WTF?

 

I just feel like it's kind of offensive to deny someone's friend request, especially if you're on a friendly basis and see them around all the time.

 

Why would somebody do this?

[Jaytb]

it is trivial. Don't make such a big deal about it.

 

if it's really pissing you off you can send a message to her.

[jerbear]

Just let it be.

 

I've ignored requests because I just really don't know them THAT well. There are things on FB that I don't share with other FB friends. (work/college/grad school/etc) each of them are in different groups and in different parts of my life.

[shadowplay]

Just let it be.

 

I've ignored requests because I just really don't know them THAT well. There are things on FB that I don't share with other FB friends. (work/college/grad school/etc) each of them are in different groups and in different parts of my life.

 

Yeah, but she's added a bunch of people that I know for a fact she knows no better or less well than she knows me. That's why it's weird.

[Jaytb]

Yeah, but she's added a bunch of people that I know for a fact she knows no better or less well than she knows me. That's why it's weird.

 

Maybe she's jealous of you, lol. who knows.

[shadowplay]

Maybe she's jealous of you, lol. who knows.

 

I seriously doubt that. Whatever.

[burning 4 revenge]

She knows youre neurotic enough to worry about things like Facebook

[melodymatters]

There can be SO many reasons !

 

Is there somone on YOUR list that she doesn't want to be affiliated with ?

 

I have this floodgate theory : I accept ONE theater nerd from a certain part of my past, and now ALL of them are requesting, and they are the type that updates you on sock changes !

[Jaytb]

I accept ONE theater nerd from a certain part of my past, and now ALL of them are requesting, and they are the type that updates you on sock changes !

 

 

that reminds me, I can go for some new socks

[boogieboy]

Yeah, but she's added a bunch of people that I know for a fact she knows no better or less well than she knows me. That's why it's weird.

 

When she denies you she makes it obvious that she doesnt want to be any closer to you. I guess that people have added her and bugged her on FB, she doesnt want to take the chance that you might do the same, and she is avoiding that with you. She might not like you for some reason, you can stop saying hi to her now.

[OnlyJake]

I know it seems trivial, but it's pissing me off nonetheless.

 

I added this girl I've known for about a year and a half on and off. She never accepted my request. We're not exactly friends, but we've have talked a bunch of times, always say hi to each other, and work in two of the the same organizations. She has a lot of facebook friends, and many are people who I know she is simply acquaintances with. WTF?

 

I just feel like it's kind of offensive to deny someone's friend request, especially if you're on a friendly basis and see them around all the time.

 

Why would somebody do this?

 

Everyone likes to say that FB is trivial and it shouldn't bother you and so. People that say that don't understand just how big a deal FB is. It's almost equivalent to a cell phone, that's how popular it is and how often it is used every day by billions of people for the purpose of communication.

 

I understand what you're saying.

 

But, who knows? I've added people and not had them accept my request for months (and then when I get an email saying they accepted it I forgot I ever sent them the damn request to begin with). I've also done that to people, and I even know some people who have dozens of friend requests that they don't accept or deny for months at a time.

 

Maybe you could try sending her a message (about class or meeting up or something) to guilt her into it?

[jerbear]

There can be SO many reasons !

 

Is there somone on YOUR list that she doesn't want to be affiliated with ?

 

I have this floodgate theory : I accept ONE theater nerd from a certain part of my past, and now ALL of them are requesting, and they are the type that updates you on sock changes !

 

I get classmates requests, business associate requests, etc... once you meet one, you've met them all! In FB's case, once you've friend one, you'll get more friends!

[ordinary_girl]

everyone gets rejected in one area of life or another. this is just a small example of that. she isn't a close friend, only an acquaintance. it doesn't matter what she thinks

[shadowplay]

When she denies you she makes it obvious that she doesnt want to be any closer to you. I guess that people have added her and bugged her on FB, she doesnt want to take the chance that you might do the same, and she is avoiding that with you. She might not like you for some reason, you can stop saying hi to her now.

 

It's just weird because our interactions have always been very friendly in person. She seemed like a cool person to get to know (we have common interests) and I don't have any female friends here, so it's a shame. I guess that's why it hurts a little.

 

Ah, well.

Edited December 27, 2009 by shadowplay