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[glitteronthehighway]

Background: When I was around 16, I was on year-round swim team and there was an assistant coach who was 4 years older than me that I had a huge crush on. He used to listen to my rants about the team and make up goofy songs to get me through practices and I just adored him. Then I quit swim team and never really thought about him again until I found him on Facebook recently.

 

We started Facebook chatting about a month ago, and it's become increasingly intense. I really didn't intend for this to happen because he's a marine currently stationed in Japan and it seems completely pointless, but somehow we both got sucked in. We enjoy talking to each other so much that it's gotten to the point where we had to finally agree to go a whole day without doing it (which is today). Yesterday we chatted for about six hours, it was around five hours the day before, and so on. Not all at once due to the time difference, but broken up throughout our days. I've never had someone I could talk to this much and I'm thinking about him constantly. He's coming back to the States in July, but that's a long time from now. I'm graduating college in the spring, and he keeps making half-joking references to some sort of future together.

 

And we have to laugh about it because it's so weird. He said last night,"This is so bizarre. Two people that like talking to each other so much that they recognize it to be unhealthy and they make a goal to go one whole day without talking in an attempt to normalize their situation."

 

Has this happened to anyone else? What came of it? Is this an unhealthy habit we've developed? What should we do?

[TaraMaiden]

I take it, he's still 4 years older than you?

 

at 16 it might have been near the knuckle, and quite inappropriate.

but now?

 

How long ago was this?

I'd enjoy it because it sounds to me, he kinda really liked you then, but he really, really kinda likes you now.

from what I can gather, you've gelled.

Incidentally, I'm 5 years older than my partner.

I guess that would have been a no-no, when I was 18, but right now, what's the difference?

[glitteronthehighway]

I don't know how this ended up posting twice, oops.

 

I'm not really as concerned about the age difference so much as this whole online thing...my mother is concerned it's going to take time away from my life. And of course the counterargument is that if I was dating someone in the real world, that would be time-consuming as well...just not on a computer.

Maybe it's too early to be concerned, but whatever we're doing seems to have gotten rather intense rather quickly due to the nature of the medium.

[TaraMaiden]

well, let's face it...it's the holidays.... he has time on his hands, you have time on your hands.... maybe when life gets back to its hum-drum normal, the chatting will reduce....

 

I'm more intrigued by your blossoming fascination with one another, and am going to watch this space just to see how stuff develops.

Such a romantic at heart....!

[Brightmoon]

I can Identify with this a little Glitter...

 

I ended up chatting to a guy everyday.. .

We clicked... I can't even figure out in what way. We just chatted.

So I understand what you are saying and it is very special to have such a strong connection.

 

Unfortunately for me, this guy was ... is... married and we had to stop cos we had grown too close. They were just chats about our day, we laughed... Nothing intimate. I can't describe the bond but it was strong. We don't speak at all now. I miss him very much.. but it was a lovely experience.

 

Hope it all goes well with you hun.. its sounds nice.

[Romance]

lol it happens but honestly the amount of chatting will dwindle down over time.

[SuburbanOblivion]

I agree- you are on holiday break right now, but you'll have way less time for this once school/work starts again. For now just enjoy the infatuation phase,a nd I wish you luck with it