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well recently my girlfriend and i were arguing quiet abit, we have been together 15 months and she has been avoiding me and she wanted the break, i dont know and things happened and i decided to break it off with her, she also told me about a crush or something and thats why she is confused, i don't know why this is hurting me so much, i mean i'm not the one in the wrong, but i am so hurt, its only been 2 days since the break up and i don't know how to cope with this, i actually want her back but i dont know, i know shes been drinking alot lately, i guess shes having it hard too, i don't know what to do, its drivng me crazy, help please :(

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bless you love. welcome to love shack. again as always im sorry your here but......if we can help we will.

 

she sounds and you sound confused. Was there a catalist to your arguing? Did summot happen? You mentioned she finds another chap attractive do you think it coinsides?

 

sorry for the questions but it helps us see clearer

 

hugs neet

 

hmm

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well recently my girlfriend and i were arguing quiet abit, we have been together 15 months and she has been avoiding me and she wanted the break, i dont know and things happened and i decided to break it off with her, she also told me about a crush or something and thats why she is confused, i don't know why this is hurting me so much, i mean i'm not the one in the wrong, but i am so hurt, its only been 2 days since the break up and i don't know how to cope with this, i actually want her back but i dont know, i know shes been drinking alot lately, i guess shes having it hard too, i don't know what to do, its drivng me crazy, help please :(

 

 

Sorry about the break up it is never easy but read the following and it can help:

The No Contact Guide

So you want a second chance?

 

Let your self feel everything and then try to stay busy and keep your thoughts on yourself.

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thanks guys,

 

@ nobmagnet

we argued because over little issues such a seeing each other and how often why didn't you messaged etc, little things always seem to get big because we are both stubborn, i think she is actually coping with it well this time because another guy has came into her life, she mentioned to me that she was confused and she had a crush on this other guy she has just met. she said she hasnt done anything but that has made her confused.

 

@ grayclouds

thanks for the links, it makes good sense. hm @ no contact but i'm not sure but maybe i'll give it a go

 

i actually said that i would call her after the new years to go for coffee to clear things out, i guess i should not call and wait for her call? what do you guys reckon, i know she's very stubborn and its highly unlikely that she will call. what should i do in this situation?

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thanks guys,

 

@ nobmagnet

we argued because over little issues such a seeing each other and how often why didn't you messaged etc, little things always seem to get big because we are both stubborn, i think she is actually coping with it well this time because another guy has came into her life, she mentioned to me that she was confused and she had a crush on this other guy she has just met. she said she hasnt done anything but that has made her confused.

 

@ grayclouds

thanks for the links, it makes good sense. hm @ no contact but i'm not sure but maybe i'll give it a go

 

i actually said that i would call her after the new years to go for coffee to clear things out, i guess i should not call and wait for her call? what do you guys reckon, i know she's very stubborn and its highly unlikely that she will call. what should i do in this situation?

 

Unless you know that it will make you feel better then I would stay way, the downside is just too great. It is really difficult to be friendly when you still have the old feelings.

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i think she still has feelings for me so i think if i don't try now i guess its going to be too late if i don't act soon, this time of space is just giving her a chance to see what it's like without me, i hope it works, thanks for the advice

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