scenester Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 A man who is unafraid to disagree and walk away. A man that can pass you on just like any other women if need be.
ordinary_girl Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Yeah, part of it is accepting themselves and their urges. A guy who turns cranky and insulting when his tiny effort isn't rewarded with pompom cheers is too fragile to enjoy spending time with. Their happiness becomes your burden. Oh gosh! will he go cut himself over it if I don't go out with him? Pffftttt, I got no time no time for you! But the guy who has accepted himself and comes off more confident for it. He isn't a jerk because of it. He has just made that step away from boyhood to being a man. Not being a man myself, I don't know if a man has to have sexual experience to achieve this or not. I would think just accepting that you want to get some experience, is a responsibility in of itself and taking responsibility is an act of maturity - becoming that man and no longer a boy. The boy would ask mummy for formal permission with a sweet smile and please. A man says "I like cookies." This isn't about being a jerk and it isn't about coercing; a woman can agree or not agree and oh well - there will be more baked goods. Think Han Solo. He was roguish but he helped save the day and was a good guy too. this and your previous comment about seeing that hunger in a man's eyes are excellent posts. sums it all up really. Han Solo is very sexy I would take it a step further by saying that I have seen men learning how to project this initial confident approach but didn't necessarily come across as confident once they had to expose more of themselves and risk looking vulnerable (inevitable in a relationship really). A confident man to me is someone who is sure of who he is as a person, accepts his faults, does not feel the need to conform to social cliches (an experienced woman will see it from a mile off) and assertively expresses how he feels about something because he knows his worth and he knows what he deserves. A confident man will not keep weighing in his mind how he is perceived when he takes responsibility for expressing what he wants.
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