b52s Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 I have met this one woman, she's single, divorced for 2 years.....but has "issues" dealing with NOT used to being single without someone during the holidays. Apparently, it's rather depressing for someone who is just NOT used to being unattached during the holidays....ESP if it's their first Christmas without someone. Should you suggest to "get over it" or is this a legitimate reason to be depressed? But I think some guys she's dated had to suffer due to this significant depression situation.
betamanlet Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 I have met this one woman, she's single, divorced for 2 years.....but has "issues" dealing with NOT used to being single without someone during the holidays. Apparently, it's rather depressing for someone who is just NOT used to being unattached during the holidays....ESP if it's their first Christmas without someone. Should you suggest to "get over it" or is this a legitimate reason to be depressed? But I think some guys she's dated had to suffer due to this significant depression situation. I've never had anyone over the holidays, I am quite used to it. I think people who can never be alone are problematic.
Tony T Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 It is not at all unusual for anybody to be lonely and depressed without someone to spend the holidays with. This usually lifts afterward. I don't think just needing someone over the holidays should be the primary motivation for seeking a partner, however.
Author b52s Posted December 26, 2009 Author Posted December 26, 2009 I've never had anyone over the holidays, I am quite used to it. I think people who can never be alone are problematic. Possibly, but let's say it's their VERY FIRST Christmas without someone in their life....think they have a right to be depressed about it?
Bejita463 Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 Possibly, but let's say it's their VERY FIRST Christmas without someone in their life....think they have a right to be depressed about it? Yes? Why wouldn't they be? Being alone can be hard, even for those who are used to it. Anyone who says it is never hard to be alone are lying, possibly to themselves, but probably to whoever they are saying it to. Having said that, if being alone when you are used to it can be rough, imagine how it might be for someone who is not? The holidays would be particularly difficult for such a person, I would think. To some, Christmas is more about being together with loved ones than anything else. I could easily see having a hard time with that holiday if you are used to having a SO during such family oriented holidays during a time when you do not. Especially if there is not family in the area to spend time with.
Author b52s Posted December 26, 2009 Author Posted December 26, 2009 Yes? Why wouldn't they be? Being alone can be hard, even for those who are used to it. Anyone who says it is never hard to be alone are lying, possibly to themselves, but probably to whoever they are saying it to. Having said that, if being alone when you are used to it can be rough, imagine how it might be for someone who is not? The holidays would be particularly difficult for such a person, I would think. To some, Christmas is more about being together with loved ones than anything else. I could easily see having a hard time with that holiday if you are used to having a SO during such family oriented holidays during a time when you do not. Especially if there is not family in the area to spend time with. Yeah, her parents were hasslin' her because of it....they got tired of her "moping" because people have it worse. Her father said, "Well, at least your mother didnt DIE Christmas Day" Apparently his mother (HER Grandmother) passed away on Christmas (in the past) She was telling me how her parents just don't understand. I dunno, I've been used to being single without someone during the holidays.....but I can't understand why she can't be happy being around family. I know that's enough for me. But, again, I'm used to being single around the holidays. I kind of side with her parents though, things could be worse.
Bejita463 Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 I kind of side with her parents though, things could be worse. Give yourself a papercut on the web of your hand. As you are thinking to yourself how much that stings, remember that you could have had your hand severed by a meat cleaver. I bet your hand will still sting.
Author b52s Posted December 26, 2009 Author Posted December 26, 2009 Give yourself a papercut on the web of your hand. As you are thinking to yourself how much that stings, remember that you could have had your hand severed by a meat cleaver. I bet your hand will still sting. yeah, I know a woman that broke up with her boyfriend, was so overwhelmed about "not being used to being single" that she got back together with her b/f Think that was desperate?
betamanlet Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 Possibly, but let's say it's their VERY FIRST Christmas without someone in their life....think they have a right to be depressed about it? Means they are needy
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