number of sexual partners?

[Crazy Magnet]

F, 30---14 total.

 

6 were real relationships (1 year or more)

3 were shorter relationships (those fun little 6 month kind)

1 long term FWB (going on 7 years now! haha. It's basically whenever we are both single.)

4 were flings that went on a few months with no real commitment

 

The closest thing I ever came to a ONS: I did sleep with the guy within a few hours of meeting him (He looked like one of those guy's on the Abercrombie bag, what was I supposed to do!?! lol). Apparently I told him if he didn't call me the next day, I'd cut his wanker off. There was a lot of drinking involved. We proceeded to date for the next two years. I've never had the desire to try that again as I don't think the second time would end so well!

[alphamale]

female 57, I beat everyone here..

hahahahaha

[Pyro]

female 57, I beat everyone here..

 

Made up ones in your head do not count.

[Green]

Is it just me or someone seems kinda proud of being promiscuous. It's not exactly something appealing or something to brag about.

 

Gosh, has anyone ever wondered what could happen to your privates after sleeping with hundreds of people? I would be afraid after a while, sex would become less enjoyable for myself, as well as the guy.

 

Being loose is not a good thing, can someone tell me how that works....

 

Judge much?

[CarrieT]

Is it just me or someone seems kinda proud of being promiscuous. It's not exactly something appealing or something to brag about.

Why not? You are simply imposing your moral values on others; I am a survivor and am proud of the life I have built for myself and the many friends (and yes, lovers) I have in my life.

 

Gosh, has anyone ever wondered what could happen to your privates after sleeping with hundreds of people?

Nothing happens to "your privates" other than tremendous amounts of absolute pleasure. They work just fine and -- in my case -- are, and always have been, 100% STD-free.

 

I would be afraid after a while, sex would become less enjoyable for myself, as well as the guy.

Practice makes perfect. I enjoy sex infinitely better now as a middle aged woman than I ever did as a 20- or 30-something.

 

Being loose is not a good thing, can someone tell me how that works....

Based on your other posts and limited ability to understand or comprehend others' lives, I doubt it can be explained in a way you will ever understand.

[Vasto_Lorde]

I think I had 10 and all were just hook ups. Then I decided to be celebate and have been for the past 7 years. I know, I know -too much information.

[aerogurl87]

You're probably just hot

 

Aww thanks lol

[elaina]

F, 32 years old, 3

 

- 1 marriage, 1 fiance, and 1 boyfriend,

 

now in a self-imposed fast from sex until marriage again, because for me, sex without love = food without nourishment value

 

If I could turn back time, I would have stayed with my exhusband and worked out our problems instead of running away. We had a great sex life... our issue was he is a perfectionist and I'm not, and our relationship did not have a good friendship... it was mainly just built on the physical.

 

Anyways, the past is the past and by God's grace, I hope to get married and enjoy great love, sex, and frisndship with Special Someone for the rest of my life.

[alphamale]

, sex without love = food without nourishment value

[elaina]

 

Kindly quote it with "because for me" in there too...

 

"because for me, sex without love = food without nourishment value."

 

Please be tolerant. Thanks.

[aerogurl87]

Kindly quote it with "because for me" in there too...

 

"because for me, sex without love = food without nourishment value."

 

Please be tolerant. Thanks.

 

Actually I agree with you. Sex without love is empty like candy. Sure it gives you a temporary boost, but it's effects aren't as long lasting as eating a good, tasty meal that makes you full.

[elaina]

Actually I agree with you. Sex without love is empty like candy. Sure it gives you a temporary boost, but it's effects aren't as long lasting as eating a good, tasty meal that makes you full.

 

 

I'm hungry, lol.

 

Yes, I agree.

 

For me, sex with someone I love and am committed to is worth waiting for definitely!!!

[CarrieT]

 

I'm hungry, lol.

 

Yes, I agree.

 

For me, sex with someone I love and am committed to is worth waiting for definitely!!!

 

 

But how long are you willing to wait?

[Green]

Actually I agree with you. Sex without love is empty like candy. Sure it gives you a temporary boost, but it's effects aren't as long lasting as eating a good, tasty meal that makes you full.

 

But candy can be so good, how about sex with out love is like bad food it makes you feel sick.

[aerogurl87]

But candy can be so good, how about sex with out love is like bad food it makes you feel sick.

 

Haha hence why I compared it to candy. It can be good, but the long term effects are no where as good as when you have sex with someone you love.

[elaina]

But how long are you willing to wait?

 

It is hard to wait, I admit it. It's no easy thing, because I love sex, but hopefully I will be celibate until marriage or death.

 

I am learning to live happily without sex - not that I want this fast to be permanent though!!!

 

I know not everyone believes like I do and that's fine. I'm nobody's judge.

 

It is hard though, but my convictions are very important to me, otherwise they wouldn't be my convictions, lol.

[elaina]

But candy can be so good, how about sex with out love is like bad food it makes you feel sick.

 

sounds like a good quote to me.

[CarrieT]

It is hard to wait, I admit it. It's no easy thing, because I love sex, but hopefully I will be celibate until marriage or death.

 

I am learning to live happily without sex - not that I want this fast to be permanent though!!!

 

I know not everyone believes like I do and that's fine. I'm nobody's judge.

 

It is hard though, but my convictions are very important to me, otherwise they wouldn't be my convictions, lol.

 

Can I ask how old you are? I am not being judgmental but am honestly curious.

 

I had very similar convictions when I ended a sexless relationship but after three years with no physical contact with another human being, I couldn't stand it any more.

 

Being without a relationship (or the prospects of one), I am in a space of preferring an occasional NSA hook-up than lonely celibacy. If I were younger with better prospects, I might feel differently -- confident that a LTR or marriage is a possibility. I am not as confident of that any longer and facing the fact that I might never marry again (I've been divorced for 20 years), don't want to face the remaining years on this planet without sex.

[elaina]

Can I ask how old you are? I am not being judgmental but am honestly curious.

 

I had very similar convictions when I ended a sexless relationship but after three years with no physical contact with another human being, I couldn't stand it any more.

 

Being without a relationship (or the prospects of one), I am in a space of preferring an occasional NSA hook-up than lonely celibacy. If I were younger with better prospects, I might feel differently -- confident that a LTR or marriage is a possibility. I am not as confident of that any longer and facing the fact that I might never marry again (I've been divorced for 20 years), don't want to face the remaining years on this planet without sex.

 

No problem. I am 32 and was a virgin until I got married at 23. I was married for almost 5 years and then divorced. I almost got married to my ex-fiance, but my mom didn't approve, and I didn't have peace anyways. He is a wonderful man though. Then I had a relationship with a boyfriend, but felt guilty and we both decided it's better for us to part ways. We have different convictions.

 

What does NSA mean?

 

I understand, and I hope you find somebody wonderful!

[CarrieT]

 

What does NSA mean?

 

I understand, and I hope you find somebody wonderful!

 

 

NSA = No Strings Attached. As a 45-year old woman, I have a guy that I see just for sex. Not relationship material whatsoever.

 

And thank you. I would love to find somebody wonderful but I haven't had anything other than dates that don't go beyond a second date in years. So I suffice with have NSA partners.

[elaina]

They expect us to tolerate their promiscuous lifestyle. It's as simple as that. If you bring up morals, you are doomed.

 

Oh, and CarrieT....I wasn't even referring to you before, but thanks for bringing to my attention that you have slept with lots and lots of men. Yeah, it's not something to brag about. I really don't care what you say.

 

It's funny how if you make a statement against being promiscuous, you get drilled by such people. However, if you look over this thread, the promiscuous ones are questioning the people with morals, as if they are freaks for not screwing a load of individuals in their lifetime.

 

Sometimes it is hard when people disagree and it's hard to put on someone else's shoes.

 

It is really possible that if I had a different family or different childhood or any other different life experiences, that I wouldn't have the same morals that I have now.

 

I am glad that I am not the only one on the discussion forum who has similiar morals, but it really helps keep the peace if we all respect each other and get to know people who are different.

 

Carrie,

 

Thanks for explaining. I did understand the LTR lol. I am still trying to figure out all the lingo.

 

Have you noticed that the majority of men are changing?

 

I've been curious about that, or is it not true?

 

It seems to me that now the majority of men don't take to the idea of commitment and self-sacrifice very well like before? Is that normal or is that a new trend?

 

Thanks.

[Vertex]

23 years old, male, 2 sexual partners, both of which were relationships, although the latter one was briefly physical before we made things official.

 

 

I honestly feel like I've missed out a bit (I could stand to get laid more often ), but I've just never really been the type to seek someone out purely for sex.

[jw90063]

Sometimes it is hard when people disagree and it's hard to put on someone else's shoes.

 

It is really possible that if I had a different family or different childhood or any other different life experiences, that I wouldn't have the same morals that I have now.

 

I am glad that I am not the only one on the discussion forum who has similiar morals, but it really helps keep the peace if we all respect each other and get to know people who are different.

 

 

Well, I have a very high sex drive, and I get lonely often when single. Even though I've had opportunities and situations, to just get laid, I wouldn't do it. It might be simply pleasure, but afterward, that is where I would start to feel slutty, and like I was used. That is where some people's mindset is completely different. It's just not worth it to me, to hook with guys just for sex.

[CarrieT]

Oh, and CarrieT....I wasn't even referring to you before, but thanks for bringing to my attention that you have slept with lots and lots of men. Yeah, it's not something to brag about. I really don't care what you say.

 

It's funny how if you make a statement against being promiscuous, you get drilled by such people. However, if you look over this thread, the promiscuous ones are questioning the people with morals, as if they are freaks for not screwing a load of individuals in their lifetime.

 

You are entirely missing my point. I have never questioned anyone who has morals - I am questioning people who are imposing THEIR morals on others.

 

I applaud those for having convictions and I question those who point fingers and engage in name-calling to justify their "superior moral attitude."

 

You are not better than me and I am not better than you. I am accepting of you and your lifestyle but you somehow feel threatened by mine to the point of questioning it and demeaning it. What I have done works for me in a way that would probably not work for many others.

 

Don't judge me. You don't know me.

[shadowplay]

But how long are you willing to wait?

 

I won't judge others for their choices, but I know that I generally can't do sex without love, at least not anymore.

 

I've only had sex with 4 people, 3 of whom were in serious relationships...but I sort of regret going that far with at least two of the guys. Sex without love cheapens the act for me. Once you've done it, it's like something you can never take back. I never expected to have this reaction, because I thought it was religious hogwash that other people said.

 

God knows if I had had sex in the double or triple digits, the act would never be the same for me.

 

The only exception I might make is for somebody who I felt really, really strongly about but could only be with in that way for some reason. But how often does that happen?

 

The point is there needs to be a strong emotional hook for me to even feel the physical pleasure. I can't separate the two.

Edited December 27, 2009 by shadowplay