missdependant Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Has anyone else had a kid and just felt completely grotesque? I have not logged on in forever, but oh my god I feel gross. My baby just hit 3 months of age. Anyway, I was about a size 5 before having her and I'm not a tight 7 or a size 9. I don't feel very fat until I look at pictures of myself. I constantly have dark rings around my eyes because I'm so freaking tired all of the time, I feel like my boobs are going to become ugly from breastfeeding so much and it's tempting me to just stop and formula feed for the rest of my baby's life as a baby. My butt now seems to jiggle and I can't seem to find the time or energy to work out as much as I used to. My BF used to have an electric love-life. And now I hate my body so much that I don't even want him to touch me. I don't know wtf is wrong with me. I'm usually very confident and feel great about myself. And now I feel hideous. Anyway, I'm just venting. Felt like putting my new laptop to use. Merry Xmas people.
mem11363 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 My wife put the kids in a stroller (a baby jogger would have been better) and walked them every day - good for them - good for her - and when I was home I always went with. She also did this video - buns of steel. Here we are 3 kids and two decades later and she still has that tight little body I fell for at 26. There are 4 possible outcomes over time: - Husband tells you - that he loves your body and he means it AND you know it is true and you occasionally catch other guys looking at you. - Husband routinely tells you - that he loves your body and he means it AND you know it is not true - other guys stop looking - Husband never voluntarily says anything about your body - but is kind, polite and supportive if you ask him. "Am I fat?" he says "no baby of course not" - while he is thinking - "do I look suicidal and/or retarded?" - When pressed husband acknowledges that he "misses" the old you For "me" there are 2 big benefits of working out: - I physically feel better, stronger happier and less stressed - My wife definitely responds to my body the way I want Has anyone else had a kid and just felt completely grotesque? I have not logged on in forever, but oh my god I feel gross. My baby just hit 3 months of age. Anyway, I was about a size 5 before having her and I'm not a tight 7 or a size 9. I don't feel very fat until I look at pictures of myself. I constantly have dark rings around my eyes because I'm so freaking tired all of the time, I feel like my boobs are going to become ugly from breastfeeding so much and it's tempting me to just stop and formula feed for the rest of my baby's life as a baby. My butt now seems to jiggle and I can't seem to find the time or energy to work out as much as I used to. My BF used to have an electric love-life. And now I hate my body so much that I don't even want him to touch me. I don't know wtf is wrong with me. I'm usually very confident and feel great about myself. And now I feel hideous. Anyway, I'm just venting. Felt like putting my new laptop to use. Merry Xmas people.
Author missdependant Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 My wife put the kids in a stroller (a baby jogger would have been better) and walked them every day - good for them - good for her - and when I was home I always went with. She also did this video - buns of steel. Here we are 3 kids and two decades later and she still has that tight little body I fell for at 26. There are 4 possible outcomes over time: - Husband tells you - that he loves your body and he means it AND you know it is true and you occasionally catch other guys looking at you. - Husband routinely tells you - that he loves your body and he means it AND you know it is not true - other guys stop looking - Husband never voluntarily says anything about your body - but is kind, polite and supportive if you ask him. "Am I fat?" he says "no baby of course not" - while he is thinking - "do I look suicidal and/or retarded?" - When pressed husband acknowledges that he "misses" the old you For "me" there are 2 big benefits of working out: - I physically feel better, stronger happier and less stressed - My wife definitely responds to my body the way I want I have a jogging stroller, but it has been snowing, icy on the ground, brutally windy, temperature has been sub-zero for at least the last month. I had a gym membership, but it expired last month and I can't bring myself to buy one since I'd have to take my daughter with me. We've had one nice day and I went out walking with my baby in the stroller for a few hours. Lately, I've just been dancing with her in the living room hoping it counts as cardio. My boyfriend still tells me I'm pretty, but I don't believe him. I think it might be that he's just obligated to say it. I eat very healthy, at least.. I still just feel disgusting. I can't wait until spring comes around so I can put the baby in a sling and take her hiking or jogging. I guess it's not really that I feel all that fat, I just can't fit into my old clothes and when i try I have a muffin top.. also that the skin on my belly is not as tight as it was before and I don't know if working out will even help that or if I will have to get plastic surgery. All of the clothes I've been wearing are loose-fitting and SO unappealing and old-ladyish.
singlemom19 Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 i knw wht u feel like...i gave birth almost 6 months ago n i feel just as fat as when i was pregnant....i tried on my size 6's the other day n was just depressed tht i couldnt get them up n the ones tht i could barely buttoned n i also had a muffin top....i dont feel pretty either even tho everyone around me says i am even my ex....i dont work out all the time n wit a 6 month it just seems impossible somedays....but think positive n it will happen!!!
MissJoness Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 bump the reason why i don't want to birth children
oxfordsocks Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Yes its normal and whoever doesn't say this is normal is obviously a Celebrity with nannies it takes your body a long time just to get over childbirth--its healing itself right now. It took you 9 months to change your body and it will take another 9 to put it back Take each day at a time. don't be so hard on yourself -just do a little bit everyday to move towards what you want.
Meaplus3 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Yes. All three times. It's 100% normal. Going through a pregnancy is a big deal and it changes your body. Of course it's some what of a shock when you see some extra weight and a few stretch marks. But, with time those things can and will improve. Just enjoy the baby.. and feel very blessed for your new little miracle. Mea:)
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