Kiley12 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 (edited) Merry Christmas all. I've been dating my guy for about 2 1/2 months now. We've gone on 6-7 official dates and he even put together a night where we cooked dinner at his place. He had a big party at his place a few weeks ago where he invited all his closest friends and introduced me to them and was very affectionate with me in front of everyone. We're taking it slow and didn't sleep together until 2 months of dating. I never got pressure from him. I saw him last week for lunch before we left for break and had a great time. When we parted ways, he said he'd keep in touch with me during the holiday break. He sent me a text after the date and told me he had a great time. Here are my concerns. I had wanted to do an overnight with him rather than a lunch date because we won't see each other until after the New year but he never offered it up and instead went out with his friends on both Fri and Sat night and didn't invite me out with him. He asked me what I was doing though and I told him I had plans because he was obviously asking to ask not to invite. He rarely calls me to talk on the phone, only when he's on his way to see me. We text each other 3-4 times a day but he's an avid texter so I don't know if it means anything special. We had an odd text exchange 2 days ago and it ended with him sending me the wrong text (2nd time) again (always has multiple text conversations in the works). I didn't respond to the wrong text because I was irritated and he hasn't texted me back to apologize for it nor did he text me on Christmas Eve. We've texted each other almost every day since we started dating. I don't want to be the one initiating the Christmas text because I want him to text me. But in this case, should I just bite the bullet and text him a message since it's Christmas? Or should I wait to see if he steps up to the plate...? Obviously I want him to call, but he's not a phone person. He's also at home with his family who he is very close to. We haven't had the talk yet, so I don't know if he's dating other people or where I stand. Would love to hear your feedback. Edited December 25, 2009 by Kiley12 Uncomfortable with posting. There are no replies yet. Could this post pls be deleted?? Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Do you ever initiate the txt's or conversations yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kiley12 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 Do you ever initiate the txt's or conversations yourself? Yes, we usually alternate initiations. I texted him last - wanted to make sure he got in safe from his flight. And we texted back and forth a bit until he sent me the wrong text and I didn't reply. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Go ahead and do it.. You're txting him Merry Xmas.. not "Get over here and stuff my stocking" Its neutral.. but lets him know you are still there. If you must.. make it look like a mass txt that says "Merry Xmas evewryone" and send it to him... again he will remember you are there and be included in the txt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kiley12 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 Go ahead and do it.. You're txting him Merry Xmas.. not "Get over here and stuff my stocking" Its neutral.. but lets him know you are still there. If you must.. make it look like a mass txt that says "Merry Xmas evewryone" and send it to him... again he will remember you are there and be included in the txt Thanks Yukikazi. I'll probably end up sending him a simple Merry Christmas text like you said. It's just frustrating because I'd like the guy I'm dating to want to give me piece of mind and initiate the Christmas text, not the other way around. We're at a point where I feel he should be calling me on Christmas (6-7 dates, hung out total 10+ times) so a text is second rate and for me to be doing it just doesn't seem right. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 We haven't had the talk yet, so I don't know if he's dating other people or where I stand. Would love to hear your feedback. i think you should leave him alone for now Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kiley12 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 i think you should leave him alone for now Yeah. That's my gut instinct. Link to post Share on other sites
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