Nubian Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Ok...We all know MOST women cant handle the truth but here it is anyway..... Recently i posted "Why are married men allways the sexiest" and i know i got a couple of the W's pissed maybe i should of had a disclaimer but oh well..... Point is MW (NOT ALL) seem to me to get a little comfortable in a marriage ie: Gaining ALOT of weight, not cooking, not cleaning, not sexually adventurous, nagging your husband over the smallest issues etc etc etc. I understand you've had a couple kids, god bless you but if your husband met you at 130 lbs and 4 years later your 225!! Thats not cute..Try working out together go jogging/walking so you can fit into that sexy victoria secret number you've been eyeing, he'll appreciate it more than you will..trying having a fully prepared home cooked meal for him when he comes home from work, we all know a man's home should be his sanctuary is it not? Even better try giving him a blow job when he least expects it:) Im sure every man reading this would definately agree with me on that one LOL. Point is alot of MW dont like to hear where they are slacking and dont blame me for keeping it real...So ladies i understand and im sure your husband loves you of course he does he married you...But when his eyes start "wandering" and he is all of a sudden "working late" Ask yourself Am i getting to comfortable???? ;)
mybrowneyedgirl Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 ooohhh hisss... youre asking for it with this one sister. let me say this. i am married with two beautiful children. i am skinnier, prettier smarter than when i married him. but that is not what matters. he could gain 50 pounds and stop taking care of himself and i wouldnt care one bit. and getting more comfortable with him means being more open sexually, talking about more, connecting more. and i say all of this even AFTER my affair. i still give the random blow jobs but not to keep him there...because i WANT to. this is so superficial.
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Honestly speaking I think you are right. I don't doubt how difficult it is being a housewife and taking on all those responsibilities etc but if a man isn't getting what he need at home he will look for greener pastures. Though to be fair I think a lot of married women do the same thing. I've known a few married women to be quite naughty.
outofthedark Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Yes, Little immature girl as that is what you sound like. Think about what you wrote here as you are starting a thread that is baiting. If what you wrote is really what you believe, you better rethink and learn and mature a bit. We cannot help that we age, we cannot help that our bodies change after childbirth, we cannot help that we get gray hair. BUT not all married women let themselves go as you describe. I bet the % of women letting themselves go and the % of mm that cheat are very different. 2 children, 17 years later and I weigh 11 lbs more than I did when I graduated college. I cook, I am very clean, My home is clean and calm, I am sexually adventurous, I do not pick and nag, I blow (and finish). I am attentive. I don't live in sweatpants and tshirt's. He cheated....and he cheated with some fat frumpy chick. There is no validity to your claim. Read the media, supermodels have husbands that cheat, it is NOT all about wives letting themselves go. It is about the mans weaknesses and own character flaws. Some Fat, Ugly, frumpy, naggy, sloppy women have husbands that dont cheat... explain that one!
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I don't understand the hostile reception towards what is being said. I am sure there are many lovely wives on loveshack but I defintely don't think it is ridiculous to suggest things like rowing are precursors to infidelity. If a couple is having problems communicating is it really impossible for the husband/wife to go seeking sexual attention elsewhere if things don't improve? She may not have come across very politically correct but she made it clear what she said doesn't apply to all women and I think it is clear it does apply to some women.
Author Nubian Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 Thanks Britishguy.... Like i said call it as you may I have very thick skin but SOME women cant handle the truth. And yes you can help yourself from not gaining to much weight its as simple as cutting calories. I never said your husband would stop loving you Thats Ridiculous... But the fact remains what you wont do another women Happily will.
BlueeyedJonesy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 What exactly are you trying to accomplish by posting this? You sound very superficial. Love doesn't just come from looks and blow job skills (don't know what you've been told)
Author Nubian Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 BlueeyedJonsey Try reading my post again...let it simmer a little bit and then you might understand... Not superfical at all and alot of MM would agree with it.
bentnotbroken Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Ok...We all know MOST women cant handle the truth but here it is anyway..... Recently i posted "Why are married men allways the sexiest" and i know i got a couple of the W's pissed maybe i should of had a disclaimer but oh well..... Point is MW (NOT ALL) seem to me to get a little comfortable in a marriage ie: Gaining ALOT of weight, not cooking, not cleaning, not sexually adventurous, nagging your husband over the smallest issues etc etc etc. I understand you've had a couple kids, god bless you but if your husband met you at 130 lbs and 4 years later your 225!! Thats not cute..Try working out together go jogging/walking so you can fit into that sexy victoria secret number you've been eyeing, he'll appreciate it more than you will..trying having a fully prepared home cooked meal for him when he comes home from work, we all know a man's home should be his sanctuary is it not? Even better try giving him a blow job when he least expects it:) Im sure every man reading this would definately agree with me on that one LOL. Point is alot of MW dont like to hear where they are slacking and dont blame me for keeping it real...So ladies i understand and im sure your husband loves you of course he does he married you...But when his eyes start "wandering" and he is all of a sudden "working late" Ask yourself Am i getting to comfortable???? ;) Does that go for the H who has gained weight(without having kids) doesn't know what to do with his penis and looks like he has an azz in the front and the back? Or is just addressed to women? And what about those women(and men) who didn't get comfortable? Are they responsible for the emotional maturity of the "wandering" eye?
CarrieT Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Like i said call it as you may I have very thick skin but SOME women cant handle the truth. I think you are being a hypocrite; or, perhaps less so, here is just the pot calling the kettle black. You started this thread and yet when called out on your hypocrisy, could do nothing other than claim some older, more experienced women must never had felt as you do in this post. It is true, Nubian, some women -- YOU! -- can't handle the truth.
eeyore1981 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Why would she start this thread? For the same reason she started the thread before this one. She met some MM at church, of all places , and is scrambling around trying to justify her eventual boinking of said MM. To do that, she must convince herself she is doing God's work, and also convince herself MM's wife deserves what is coming to her, so SHE will not only not feel guilty, but be able to feel righteous for doing something so basically wrong. :lmao: I guess I would be considered unique in your eyes, Nubian. I am older, ugly, frumpy, overweight, and can be a total B*tch, but it hasn't stopped married men from hitting on me. God, my dear, is not a pimp. There is an OW/OM thread, try reading some of it. The excuses may vary, but the gist is the same, justify, justify, justify. You are just one of the herd, some woman who for whatever reason can't stand to be alone, can't figure out how to have a relationship with a single man, fools herself into thinking she is special because some sleazy MM is hitting on her, etc. etc. Good luck with that.
Woggle Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 How long before she is on here crying that she fell in love with her MM and is now bitter at all men because a cheater ended up lying to her?
bentnotbroken Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I don't know if she will sleep with him. She says that she finds MM attractive (not that he found her so). She says that he gives her long lingering looks, what if it is all in her head or he is looking at her with contempt rather than lust. She that his body language says differently, which says his mouth hasn't said a thing. Her version of what the truth is her reality. That is the way she thinks, unfortunately she isn't alone. Until there is a realization that there are a lot of sexually frustrated people in marriages and not all of them look outside the marriage for a solution, her thought process will remain alone these lines. No matter what the reasons are that someone uses to cheat, they are only coping mechanisms. Who wants to come to the realization that at the time of the A they were too immature to come up with a different method of dealing with marital problems. Some of self medicate, other drink, some just check out completely others cheat. No are the mature way. But the justifiers feel the need to lay the blame for their decisions at the spouse feet. Whether it is their looks, low sex drive, which always assumes that the person left with lower than expected sexual quota is a great and understanding lover instead of an inept, fumbling, come to quick for anyone else's pleasure, so why bother lover. Sometimes the lack of sex is just because the the lover stinks at it. But hey, why give them their share of the blame. Lay it all at the BS feet. I will always say I contributed to the problems in the marriage 100% no doubts about it. I gave him hell, for what ever reasons I could come up with. I will not,now or ever take any of his responsibility for making a p!ss poor choice that too many people to count. That includes the ow's choice as well. I am not now, nor will I ever be jealous of another woman (except maybe that Halle Berry:rolleyes:)for anything. I am very intelligent, I am now a good mother, I am happy in my skin and 40+ is fabolous. I have never been more confident in my choices. Being a certain age allows you a certain freedom from the usual "I gotta do this" mentality. At least for me. God has blessed me with reasonably good health, great genes and lack of wrinkles. I am one size large than I was in HS (4 to 6) I take care of myself (always have, I am a tomboy or is tomman after you get a certain age?) There is nothing wrong with you assuming what you do, just know that more women than you know, don't fall into that box.
bittersweet memories Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Ok...We all know MOST women cant handle the truth but here it is anyway..... Recently i posted "Why are married men allways the sexiest" and i know i got a couple of the W's pissed maybe i should of had a disclaimer but oh well..... Point is MW (NOT ALL) seem to me to get a little comfortable in a marriage ie: Gaining ALOT of weight, not cooking, not cleaning, not sexually adventurous, nagging your husband over the smallest issues etc etc etc. I understand you've had a couple kids, god bless you but if your husband met you at 130 lbs and 4 years later your 225!! Thats not cute..Try working out together go jogging/walking so you can fit into that sexy victoria secret number you've been eyeing, he'll appreciate it more than you will..trying having a fully prepared home cooked meal for him when he comes home from work, we all know a man's home should be his sanctuary is it not? Even better try giving him a blow job when he least expects it:) Im sure every man reading this would definately agree with me on that one LOL. Point is alot of MW dont like to hear where they are slacking and dont blame me for keeping it real...So ladies i understand and im sure your husband loves you of course he does he married you...But when his eyes start "wandering" and he is all of a sudden "working late" Ask yourself Am i getting to comfortable???? ;) All the negative post you've gotten where NOT only from Married woman. Let me clear that up. Well I hope you can handle the truth as well.. Awww Sweety...No wonder you are single. Men are not stupid that explains "why" you are single. I doubt its because you choose to be. I doubt that very much. Your posts explains your overwelming jealousy against Married woman. You want what they have. I feel so sorry for you. You are so unhappy. Sweety Get some help..You need it.
bittersweet memories Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Why would she start this thread? For the same reason she started the thread before this one. She met some MM at church, of all places , and is scrambling around trying to justify her eventual boinking of said MM. To do that, she must convince herself she is doing God's work, and also convince herself MM's wife deserves what is coming to her, so SHE will not only not feel guilty, but be able to feel righteous for doing something so basically wrong. :lmao: I guess I would be considered unique in your eyes, Nubian. I am older, ugly, frumpy, overweight, and can be a total B*tch, but it hasn't stopped married men from hitting on me. God, my dear, is not a pimp. There is an OW/OM thread, try reading some of it. The excuses may vary, but the gist is the same, justify, justify, justify. You are just one of the herd, some woman who for whatever reason can't stand to be alone, can't figure out how to have a relationship with a single man, fools herself into thinking she is special because some sleazy MM is hitting on her, etc. etc. Good luck with that. I think she's very bitter woman. She fell for this married man in church that probably wants NOTHING to do with her. She wants what she can't have, So she has this hatred towards married woman now. hehehe
bittersweet memories Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Ok...We all know MOST women cant handle the truth but here it is anyway..... Recently i posted "Why are married men allways the sexiest" and i know i got a couple of the W's pissed maybe i should of had a disclaimer but oh well..... Point is MW (NOT ALL) seem to me to get a little comfortable in a marriage ie: Gaining ALOT of weight, not cooking, not cleaning, not sexually adventurous, nagging your husband over the smallest issues etc etc etc. I understand you've had a couple kids, god bless you but if your husband met you at 130 lbs and 4 years later your 225!! Thats not cute..Try working out together go jogging/walking so you can fit into that sexy victoria secret number you've been eyeing, he'll appreciate it more than you will..trying having a fully prepared home cooked meal for him when he comes home from work, we all know a man's home should be his sanctuary is it not? Even better try giving him a blow job when he least expects it:) Im sure every man reading this would definately agree with me on that one LOL. Point is alot of MW dont like to hear where they are slacking and dont blame me for keeping it real...So ladies i understand and im sure your husband loves you of course he does he married you...But when his eyes start "wandering" and he is all of a sudden "working late" Ask yourself Am i getting to comfortable???? ;) LOVE your post...keep them coming. We can see right through you.
Spark1111 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Wow, Nubian, you really buy the Bulls##t the pop culture has fed you. It is so a 1950s mentality, incredibly sexist, and oh so old...... The inverse would read; "Men! If you don't stay hard-bodied, earn a righteous living continuously, share 50% of the house work and child-rearing, and go down on her unexpectedly and at random, OF COURSE SHE's GOING TO CHEAT ON YOU!" How mature. You deserve the relationships you will attract with these values. How sad for you. You are so ripe to be taken advantage of my some? many? MM with this stereotypical drivel. If we all weighed 40 pounds less, kept an immaculate house, fulfilled his sexual needs contantly and had a hot meal on the table every night, we too could have a life the the 1950s Donna Reed.
Blindsidedagainalive Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Nobody is that stupid. If you are, and actually believe what you are writing, I sincerely apologize for my insult. Men and woman have affairs regardless of how good their sex life is at home......and regardless of the beauty and fitness of their partner.
Scrivdog Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Actually, she's right on the money. Most of you have simply resorted to character assassination rather than addressing the point she's making. Fact is, men are extremely easy to please compared to women. If you don't want to have sex with your husband and you make his life miserable when he gets home, then you're likely to be back here whining and sniffling because you've been "betrayed". The story has been played here on LS many times. It's hilarious to see how she hits a nerve though.
soserious1 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 If a person's needs aren't being met within a marriage they have every right to leave that marriage imho. However the way you leave a marriage is via a divorce, not by hitting the sheets with some skank you met at church. One thought to keep in mind Nubian, if he'll cheat on his wife with you, down the road he's also likely to cheat on you.
bentnotbroken Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 If a person's needs aren't being met within a marriage they have every right to leave that marriage imho. However the way you leave a marriage is via a divorce, not by hitting the sheets with some skank you met at church. One thought to keep in mind Nubian, if he'll cheat on his wife with you, down the road he's also likely to cheat on you. She didn't say she was involved. She said she had the hots for him. Two very different things. And men aren't the only ones who aren't sexually satisfied. But he who cares, let's play the archaic gender role card. If it is in you to cheat you will, male or female. NO excuse needed, just makes one feel better to say something that is makes it possibly plausible.
eeyore1981 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Actually, she's right on the money. Most of you have simply resorted to character assassination rather than addressing the point she's making. Fact is, men are extremely easy to please compared to women. If you don't want to have sex with your husband and you make his life miserable when he gets home, then you're likely to be back here whining and sniffling because you've been "betrayed". The story has been played here on LS many times. It's hilarious to see how she hits a nerve though. Actually, I find it hilarious how you rush to defend her, as you are just the same. All this justification. This is like me saying to you your wife would have had sex with you if she didn't find you so repulsive. "Men are extremely easy to please compared to women." You strike me as the kind of person who would be saying "Women are extremely easy to please compared to men." if you were a woman instead. Some people are just so self-absorbed and self-centered they don't have a clue about anyone other than themselves.
b52s Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Honestly speaking I think you are right. I don't doubt how difficult it is being a housewife and taking on all those responsibilities etc but if a man isn't getting what he need at home he will look for greener pastures. Right, and when he goes looking for greener pastures.....he'll get raked over the coals in divorce court, loose everything, and if he's lucky lives out of his car or in a tent on a state park somewhere. Of course, that might've been her plan all along.
Author Nubian Posted December 26, 2009 Author Posted December 26, 2009 (edited) Yawn.....Like i said MOST women CANT handle the TRUTH....... And bottom line if a man isnt getting what he needs/wants at home he WILL look else where. MW Step your game up!!!!:):) Edited December 26, 2009 by Nubian
TheBritishGuy Posted December 26, 2009 Posted December 26, 2009 Right, and when he goes looking for greener pastures.....he'll get raked over the coals in divorce court, loose everything, and if he's lucky lives out of his car or in a tent on a state park somewhere. Of course, that might've been her plan all along. I think something worth noting is that women hold marriage in higher regard than men. A LOT of men do cheat whether its in a relationship or during marriage. Womens attitudes seem to be drastically different in relationships where they generally consider the possibility of cheating to exist as opposed to during marriage where they nearly seem to think cheating is out of the question and not a possibility. If your wife is so naive to think that its not a possibility that you would ever cheat then it opens a floodgate. I bet Tiger Woods wife is sitting at home talking about "not my man!".
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