scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 So this is kinda hard to explain so bear with me please. So this all happened in late Oct and most of Nov. I met this pretty fantastic girl through a mutual friend of my, this girl just happened to be one of her best friends. All 3 of us would hangout almost everyday together and have a really good time. Eventually, I got her number and we started talking a lot through text messages and also flirting just a little. I think she had an idea I liked her but wasn't certain; I'm almost positive she had a thing for me. Anyways, I never really had the balls to tell her I liked her or anything because her best friend that introduced me to her liked me, and quite frankly, I wasn't interested in her, and now she is over that so I would liked to get involved with this girl again. We hung out a couple nights and I wound up dropping her off and JUST hugging her goodbye. I kinda got involved with this other girl and we gradually AND mutually stopped talking to each other. She doesn't know I was interested in someone else. Am I friend zoned? Me and that girl are over so I want to get things straight with this one. She contacted me the other day and we both claimed we missed each other and we need to get together soon. How can I go about showing her or telling her I like her without looking like a fool for not making a move months ago. How can I kick that interest back in? I'm ready to make a move now. What do I do? Thanks and Happy Holidays everyone!
lecasanova Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 heh, seems like you definitely got friendzoned. well, don't panic there, all you gotta do is to start changing your behavior with her when you two meet up, drop her the obvious hints and stuff!
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 How can I go about showing her or telling her I like her without looking like a fool for not making a move months ago. How can I kick that interest back in? I'm ready to make a move now. What do I do? short of a time machine there is nothing you can do except learn from your mistake - next time there is a chick you like jump on her quickly
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 short of a time machine there is nothing you can do except learn from your mistake - next time there is a chick you like jump on her quickly Well, if shes contacting me wanting to get together than I'm sure there is some interest within that. I just need to follow the ropes this time and show her I like her. Like I said before, she had an idea, but I never openly admitted it. I'm sure after getting together with her we can grow from that and start seeing each other more often etc, etc.
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 So this is kinda hard to explain so bear with me please. She contacted me the other day and we both claimed we missed each other and we need to get together soon. How can I go about showing her or telling her I like her without looking like a fool for not making a move months ago. How can I kick that interest back in? I'm ready to make a move now. What do I do? Thanks and Happy Holidays everyone! she contacted you right? she wants to see you right? you dont need to worry about what happened "months ago." why the hell are you sitting here telling us about it? GO FOR IT! SHE LIKES YOU DUH!
boogieboy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Dont tell her you like her, SHOW her you like her. Make a move. If she friend zoned you, she will block it.
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 short of a time machine there is nothing you can do except learn from your mistake - next time there is a chick you like jump on her quickly usually i agree with alpha. but this time i think he's wrong you can still get her if you want her pull the rip chord my friend good luck
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 i agree with what boogie just said also
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Well, if shes contacting me wanting to get together than I'm sure there is some interest within that. yea an interest in having u as a friend....girls know within 5 minutes of meeting a dude where the relationship will head
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 Should I call her tomorrow and set something up ASAP or wait until after the Holidays. I think I should wait but its has been just about a week since she initially contacted me wanting to hangout and I still haven't set anything up cause I was still figuring out things with this other girl.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Should I call her tomorrow you're going to call her on xmas while she's unwrapping gifts and eating dinner with her family?
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 yea an interest in having u as a friend....girls know within 5 minutes of meeting a dude where the relationship will head IDK, cause I was never really a close friend with her that she could potentially 'fear' losing. And we both gradually AND mutually stopped talking to each other. Then she contacts me a month down the road (with NC within that month) wanting to see me? IDK but in most of my experiences if you aren't really close with someone and you both stop talking you eachother there isn't much of an urge to hop on the phone and contact them. I think interest still remains; I just need to rekindle it.
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 you're going to call her on xmas while she's unwrapping gifts and eating dinner with her family? Haha I just don't want her to give up like I'm taking to long. And there is mid-afternoon...lol
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I think interest still remains; I just need to rekindle it. there was never any "interest" to rekindle
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 there was never any "interest" to rekindle Now how do you know that?
Yukikazi Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Just txt her a Merry xmas msg.. she will probably respond to it. Boom convo started Ask her if her stocking was sufficiently stuffed
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Now how do you know that? from what you wrote...you're already deep into the friendzone
Author scenester Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 from what you wrote...you're already deep into the friendzone No way out? I'm still gonna TRY and see what happens.
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I think there is interest. I am sure she knew her friend liked you and was trying to be diplomatic before. Don't call her on x-mas. Text her later in the evening- but don't call. Any guy that is calling me on x-mas- I am thinking it's a bit heavy. A text later in the evening is fine.
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Should I call her tomorrow and set something up ASAP or wait until after the Holidays. I think I should wait but its has been just about a week since she initially contacted me wanting to hangout and I still haven't set anything up cause I was still figuring out things with this other girl. call her tonight! make it short & sweet. just let her know you're interested
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 (edited) dlish has a good idea as well. since it's coming from a woman, that might be the best idea in any case, dont blow her off, she likes you Edited December 25, 2009 by skydiveaddict
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 A text later in the evening is fine. what would you recommend around 8ish local time, or maybe 9pm? or maybe 7:30 would be in order but they may still be eating at that time. i think around 8:30pm should be safe don't you think? dlish has a good idea as well. since it's coming from a woman, that might be the best idea
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 c'mon alpha, you KNOW he still has a shot at this girl
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 c'mon alpha, you KNOW he still has a shot at this girl whatever it is, its quite a small shot.
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 what would you recommend around 8ish local time, or maybe 9pm? or maybe 7:30 would be in order but they may still be eating at that time. i think around 8:30pm should be safe don't you think? I was thinking like after 9pm. He doesn't want to let her know he's focused on her during x-mas day- because that would be kinda heavy, ya know? So- after 9pm, a quick- "hey, merry x-mas! how was your day?" I think she's interested though.
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