You'reasian Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 depends on if shes banging other dudes or not, innit? Spot on. If the woman is banging other dudes, the guy can go on as many dates as he likes - especially if he's looking for something real. In that case, the woman doesn't really respect herself. In deceiving, she's got one foot in and one foot out.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 competition brings out the best in people. you tell them the truth and let them show you why you should be with them. C'mon alpha, you know this better than anyone.. i didn't say you can't hint about things or lie by omission or evade certain questions in a round about way. just coming out and saying "oh yea BTW i'm dating 3 other chicks" seems sort of lame and childish.
You'reasian Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I agree with this, and you have the right to know if they are sleeping with someone else, especially because of the STD's. Not everyone is comfortable acknowledging this. Some people are very upfront about defining the status and willing to go a certain direction, committed or not; others would rather say one thing and do the other. Establishes the need to keep a dialog running and watching each others words/actions. For example, if the girl I'm involved with meets a guy for a discreet lunch date during her work, it makes sense that I get the same courtesty.
DustySaltus Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 i didn't say you can't hint about things or lie by omission or evade certain questions in a round about way. just coming out and saying "oh yea BTW i'm dating 3 other chicks" seems sort of lame and childish. I agree I wouldn't come out and say it but if they asked I would tell them.
jw90063 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I don't know what kind of dating world some live in, but I've never not discussed my dating situation with someone I'm going out with.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I agree I wouldn't come out and say it but if they asked I would tell them. this would be your answer to any girl that asks: "well, um, yeah, i'm sorta casually dating some other girls but they don't mean much to me. you're really the one i'm interested in. i love your beautiful eyes and your dimples. i'm just wasting time with those other girls until we decide to become exclusive. you're really the one i want....would you care for another wine? why are you taking off your clothes? sex? well i don't know i'm kinda shy and plus we don't know each other too well, but what the hell, ok...."
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 dude when a man multi-dates he doesn't tell one chick about the other chicks. you've broken the cardinal rule about multi-dating and now you deserve what you get. you NEVER talk about other people you're seeing otherwise the whole ball of wax explodes She asked me once right off the bat, are you also dating others at the moment? I didn't want to lie. Maybe I should have.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 She asked me once right off the bat, are you also dating others at the moment? I didn't want to lie. Maybe I should have. the correct answer should have been "why do you ask? are you dating others?" or "since we are not exclusive i feel uncomfortable answering that question"
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 the correct answer should have been "why do you ask? are you dating others?" or "since we are not exclusive i feel uncomfortable answering that question" Alright, that sounds like a good way to answer. I'll make sure to keep that in mind with the 6 other girls i'm dating right now. I guess this takes some skills to pay the bills.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Alright, that sounds like a good way to answer. I'll make sure to keep that in mind with the 6 other girls i'm dating right now. I guess this takes some skills to pay the bills. you are learning young jedi
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 you are learning young jedi In this case would you be Obi-wan or Palpatine?
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 It's nobody's business to ask about your dating activities on the first couple dates! I can't imagine asking that question until I was thinking of getting intimate with someone.
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 In this case would you be Obi-wan or Palpatine? Come on- he's the Wookie.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 It's nobody's business to ask about your dating activities on the first couple dates! I can't imagine asking that question until I was thinking of getting intimate with someone. atleast someone has some sense around here!!
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 In this case would you be Obi-wan or Palpatine? good question.
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 "the correct answer should have been "why do you ask? are you dating others?" or "since we are not exclusive i feel uncomfortable answering that question"" Alright, that sounds like a good way to answer.. no, that sounds like a ****ty, self serving way to answer. how old are you people?
boogieboy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Honesty is the best policy and shows respect. Not everyone believes this - but it would be nice to know' date=' for instance, if you are looking for something serious and say the woman is out getting nailed by her other guy friends. Protection against STDs and saves time/effort.[/quote'] If your dating a woman who is getting "nailed" by other guys, you can rest assured she will not be serious about you. You can tell with a date or two whether or not a woman is into you. If shes getting nailed by anyone else, you wont be getting much chemistry from her. I think a guy could actually be the one to bring it up himself, even if the girl doesn't ask. He could simply ask the girl if she multi-dates and then tell her he does. There will then be no secrets, and see how each other feels about the situation. Thats the 2nd easiest way to send a woman running for the hills when dating her.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 It's nobody's business to ask about your dating activities on the first couple dates! I can't imagine asking that question until I was thinking of getting intimate with someone. Well the thing is... the girl did ask. Should I just say, "Too early to share that with you?" That may very well send a red flag already.
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 ..she says she feels insecure about me dating other women, and that we should stop seeing each other unless I stop dating them. she sounds pretty cool man. she laid it out. the situation is not making her feel good about herself, so she would like to stop seeing if it continues. but, she thinks highly of you, so if you were willing to be exclusive she would like to continue dating. why on earth wouldn't you just decide and be forward with her? she's cool. I find the problem with all of this is that it forces me to make a decision when I am not ready for yet. awwww, poor guy! your not ready??? :laugh: okay, i was gonna leave it at that, but your cool, soooo.. really, if you can't decide than that's deciding.. as in, if your not ready to get exclusive, serious or not, then its over between you two because that's how she laid it out. end of story.
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Well the thing is... the girl did ask. Should I just say, "Too early to share that with you?" That may very well send a red flag already. why are you asking for advice on how to manipulate people?
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 dude, pizzaman.. just cause these guys are super cocky about how many *chicks their bonin* does not mean they have it figured out.. and neither do i.. but its ****ing obvious to me that treating people well is important.. lying, manipulating, just being a self serving dick in general won't make you happy.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 she sounds pretty cool man. she laid it out. the situation is not making her feel good about herself, so she would like to stop seeing if it continues. but, she thinks highly of you, so if you were willing to be exclusive she would like to continue dating. why on earth wouldn't you just decide and be forward with her? she's cool. awwww, poor guy! your not ready??? :laugh: okay, i was gonna leave it at that, but your cool, soooo.. really, if you can't decide than that's deciding.. as in, if your not ready to get exclusive, serious or not, then its over between you two because that's how she laid it out. end of story. C'mon dude.... some people are slower than others in starting a relationship :bunny:
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 dude, pizzaman.. just cause these guys are super cocky about how many *chicks their bonin* does not mean they have it figured out.. and neither do i.. but its ****ing obvious to me that treating people well is important.. lying, manipulating, just being a self serving dick in general won't make you happy. That's why I didn't lie to her. I was strait forward... now I am in a situation where she might leave if I don't stop dating the others. So if I am not ready yet, and she JUST OH GOD CAN'T WAIT!!!! then it's over Johnny...
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 C'mon dude.... some people are slower than others in starting a relationship :bunny: and that's fine. but this person you're talking about is cool man. she said, im not comfortable with you dating me and other people at the same time. if you would like to continue dating me then i would like you to stop dating other people. she was very forward. not controlling. you owe it to her to be honest and direct about this.
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 That's why I didn't lie to her. I was strait forward... now I am in a situation where she might leave if I don't stop dating the others. So if I am not ready yet, and she JUST OH GOD CAN'T WAIT!!!! then it's over Johnny... well, then its over!
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