shygal1 Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I was talking with this girl for a month of the computer. She lives a little far, but we finally met up. We had an amazing dinner, she was very into me, I stayed over and we had sex. We talked that whole week and she said she wanted a relationship with me. I went to visit her the following week asked her out and we had an amazing time. The following weeks i got hints she wasn't ready to be exclusive. She then percedes to tell me i was coming on too strong and she didnt feel an emotional connection. Which is kinda bs because we are in the getting to know eachother phase. She's very into me and tells me she likes me. Then she gets very bitchy and cold. I asked if she wanted to start over or move on? she replied she didn't know. I am very confused towards why she changed her tone and need some advice ! I'm afraid to contact her because that might push her further away.
kimmi Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Why do you want to be with someone that does not know what they want for themselves?
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 If someone accuses you of coming on too strong, the absolute worst thing you can do is to keep contacting her. I'd recommend that you discontinue any contact and see how she responds to that.
Yukikazi Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 You talk about a girl but your name here is shygal.. Are you male or female?
Author shygal1 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 i am a female bisexual as is she .. so it is very complicated the jist is she was more into me in the beginning, and now she has changed her mind, yet still contact me and is needy just hot and cold
boogieboy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Off the top of my head I would thing she is rebounding. Hot and cold behavior could be her ex that dumped her is calling again and she is gravitating towards them. Not a good thing for you.
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Give her some space and then sit down and talk to her when she is a little more sociable towards you an clarify the sitution. When a situation arises it is pretty hot. If you let it cool down you usually get a much better response.
Author shygal1 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 well after a few weeks of no contact. she dropped the i miss u line. what to do now?
aerogurl87 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 well after a few weeks of no contact. she dropped the i miss u line. what to do now? Hmm a few weeks and I'm thinking your just her backup/rebound for her ex. She probably got back with her ex when she went cold turkey on you, things didn't work out with them, and now she's going back to her rebound girl, YOU. Save yourself some time and heartache and find someone who isn't all wishy washy.
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 When you get the hot and cold treatment, RUUUUUNNNNNN! Don't respond, just stay away from this one.
boogieboy Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 well after a few weeks of no contact. she dropped the i miss u line. what to do now? Dont do a damn thing. Ignore her, she will only do this to you over and over. She is still rebounding. Stay far far away.
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