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singlemom19

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i found nude pics on my exs cell phone...when i confronted him about he started to cry n said he didnt want me to leave him...i just had given birth to our daughter a few days earlier...now he is asking for me back n telling me tht it will never happen again...should i believe him?

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i found nude pics on my exs cell phone...when i confronted him about he started to cry n said he didnt want me to leave him...i just had given birth to our daughter a few days earlier...now he is asking for me back n telling me tht it will never happen again...should i believe him?

 

Could you ever trust him again if you tried to forgive him? If the answer is no, there's no point even considering taking him back. I personally, could not trust someone who already demonstrated the capacity for cheating on me.

 

If he respected you or the relationship, he wouldn't have done it. He wasn't crying when you hadn't caught him.

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Dont take him back. He cried because he got caught.

 

 

That crying act is a ruse. I mean I cry once in awhile(Usually when the Cowboys Lose, so Ive been crying a lot lately I was bawling like Jimmy Swaggart a couple of weeks ago when they got stomped by the Giants..lol) but he will wait until your guard is down and be up to it again. He probably will give you some excuse that when you were pregnant that he was "confused" about his life...

 

so the only way to cure his confusion was to exchange nude pics with women and perhaps screw one or two while you were pregnant. actions speak louder than words and he will pick right up where he left off given the opportunity

D-Lish Established Member

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My bet is that you will take him back regardless of the advice you get.

Just know that nothing will change- he'll just come up with better ways to hide his indiscretions.

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i found nude pics on my exs cell phone...when i confronted him about he started to cry n said he didnt want me to leave him...i just had given birth to our daughter a few days earlier...now he is asking for me back n telling me tht it will never happen again...should i believe him?

 

Show them to him face to face.

 

Keep in mind, he's going to believe that you have crossed privacy boundaries - some people really, really hate that - even if you bust them, women in this case will get very, very angry...

alphamale Established Member

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...should i believe him?

no don't believe him, he's a liar and a cheat

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Hmm you should try and get an idea of how old the pictures are.

 

Crying isn't a big deal but if the relationship didn't mean anything to him he wouldn't be so quick to try and rescue it.

 

There are two sides to both story and the sensible thing to do is find out where you stand by gathering all the information you can and making an informed decision. It helps to be a nerd sometimes!

You'reasian Established Member

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Face to face discussion is required.

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singlemom19 Member

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the pics were recent like a couple days before and we have had face to face discussions n now he refuses to talk about it n gets really upset

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the pics were recent like a couple days before and we have had face to face discussions n now he refuses to talk about it n gets really upset

 

With this information, and the information in your other posts...

 

RUN!

 

Stay away from this guy, I know your heart is telling you things will be alright, but your mind need to see this guy for the low life he really is.

 

Get someone who will treat you with dignity and respect!

 

NO MORE OF THIS GUY!

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I have to agree it seems like an act I thought it might have done something he did long in the past, regretted and tried to forget.

 

Youre 19, pretty cute and you have a bright future ahead of you plus a little person to look after. Do whats right for you and move on from a guy that doesn't respect you.

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My bet is that you will take him back regardless of the advice you get..

 

d-lish, this is kind of like when you said you would "wager that these are your own insecurities and not that your presence inspires insecurities in others."

 

why take so many chances on stuff sucking? :laugh::p:lmao::cool:

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singlemom19 Member

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i would love to get away from him n yeah it would makes things ALOT easier but im stuck wit him for the rest of my life

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i would love to get away from him n yeah it would makes things ALOT easier but im stuck wit him for the rest of my life
Ok just because you have a daughter with him doesn't mean you have to be stuck with him. You be a single mother raising your kid without a loser...
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i will have to deal wit him cause we both have lawyers n we have joint custody but i have full physical care

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Wow, that was fast. Just gave birth and already lawyered up ;)

 

Something tells me this has been a bit of a contested relationship prior.....

 

Men cry when a dear family member dies or when they're overjoyed with the birth of a new child, and similar things. They do not cry when nude pictures are discovered on cell phones.

 

BTW, how long ago did all this happen? The timeline seems off...

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no don't believe him, he's a liar and a cheat

 

 

 

 

 

 

Alpha is right. stay the hell away from him

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singlemom19 Member

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it happened almost 7 months ago

carhill Established Member

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OK, so daughter is seven months and BF wants back in your life as a romantic and intimate partner. How's he doing as a father?

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singlemom19 Member

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no my daughter is almost 6 months we broke up when she was one month old....he is doing the best he can...we live 2 hours away from eachother n he works 14 hr days...we also live in iowa so the weather in the winter is awful to drive in...he sometimes calls or txts me to see how she is doing

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Thanks. How are his actions matching his words wrt daughter? When I was working 14 hour days I was beat but my bank account was bulging. How's he doing?

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wht do u mean?

carhill Established Member

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Is he supporting his daughter monetarily?

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child support will start once he can get the money so in like a couple weeks

carhill Established Member

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Cool. That's a real positive action. Watch that one. Also, his visitation. Keep us posted.

 

Good on ya for going it alone financially since your daughter's birth. That must've been tough. I hope he is similarly appreciative and understanding. Maybe after a year of that kind of positive behavior from him and he can start thinking about asking you to get back together. Or, you start considering that dynamic :)

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