jms76 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Hey everyone, I got laid off from my job not too long ago. Fortunately, my former employer gave me a good severance package and I had plenty of money saved up over the years. Anyway, I just started dating again and I'm worried about what women might think when I tell them I got laid off. I'm in the process of seeking a new career so it may take time before I land a new gig. Do you think most women would find my unemployment status as a turn off or would sympathize with me given the state of our economy and unemployment? Thanks for your input.
b52s Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Hey everyone, I got laid off from my job not too long ago. Fortunately, my former employer gave me a good severance package and I had plenty of money saved up over the years. Anyway, I just started dating again and I'm worried about what women might think when I tell them I got laid off. I'm in the process of seeking a new career so it may take time before I land a new gig. Do you think most women would find my unemployment status as a turn off or would sympathize with me given the state of our economy and unemployment? Thanks for your input. Just tell 'em you're self-employed, works like a charm. ;-)
lecasanova Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 hmm, more often than not i believe they might find that a turn off, as in that depends on your age and their age of course. if there're at an older age and are looking for stability, the idea that you're unemployed wouldn't be the most comforting of choices. in fact, why don't you just tell them encouraging signs of your job searching process so they wouldn't feel that affected? also, you can sing your praises, if needed, of your qualifications to them, so they would feel more assured that you wouldn't be running a long jobless run (: and if you need any advice on relationships and dating, you can always check out my entries in my blog in my signature below, i believe they will benefit you well (:
DustySaltus Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Hey everyone, I got laid off from my job not too long ago. Fortunately, my former employer gave me a good severance package and I had plenty of money saved up over the years. Anyway, I just started dating again and I'm worried about what women might think when I tell them I got laid off. I'm in the process of seeking a new career so it may take time before I land a new gig. Do you think most women would find my unemployment status as a turn off or would sympathize with me given the state of our economy and unemployment? Thanks for your input. Any woman worth keeping would sympathize with the situation you're in. As long as you are not chilling on the couch 24 hours a day and when she comes over you say, "Honey, can you do be a favor and pass the remote and while your up, the salsa in the fridge as well". Lol, that may send the wrong message. Some of the best women I've met were at the lowest points of my life. Those are the ones worth hanging onto and they are out there. Just project confidence and that you know everything is going to be just fine. Be honest and focus on them, let them talk about themselves. You'll be ok, good luck.
cognac Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Any woman worth keeping would sympathize with the situation you're in. As long as you are not chilling on the couch 24 hours a day and when she comes over you say, "Honey, can you do be a favor and pass the remote and while your up, the salsa in the fridge as well". Lol, that may send the wrong message. Some of the best women I've met were at the lowest points of my life. Those are the ones worth hanging onto and they are out there. Just project confidence and that you know everything is going to be just fine. Be honest and focus on them, let them talk about themselves. You'll be ok, good luck. You must be really lucky. In my experience the first thing to go when the times get tough are the women. In fact, it seems like women only stick around for the good times.
DustySaltus Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 You must be really lucky. In my experience the first thing to go when the times get tough are the women. In fact, it seems like women only stick around for the good times. I was lucky, but I was too young and too naive to appreciate it. Believe it or not a lot of women want to help a guy when he's down because it gives them a sense of control. Initially, it's a great thing but eventually they want the man to take the lead again. If it's a repeating pattern, you're in trouble because these type of women...when they're gone, they're gone. On the other hand I've met women when things were great and things spiraled downward. I left a six figure job to be with her 7000 miles away, teaching for $4 an hour...and after she said that she would carry us for a while, things got tough and she couldn't handle it. I was going to marry this girl too but the wheels really came off. Everyone's true colors eventually come out, it's better to be honest with them and say "i don't have a hjob" to try and get them to come out sooner or later. Then you can make a decision.
betamanlet Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 You must be really lucky. In my experience the first thing to go when the times get tough are the women. In fact, it seems like women only stick around for the good times. It is rare, but there are some women that will stick around if you lose your job. My cousin got disabled in an accident, and he hasn't had a job for a couple years while recovering, and his wife stayed with him.. HOwever, It hink unemployed and dating is not going to be very successful.
Author jms76 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 Well, I'm using an online dating site (popular one) and I'm honest with the women I talk to (e-mail) so far and explain the situation. I'm in the process of possibly switching careers too but like I said in my original post, I have plenty of money saved up and coming to me from the severance. Just curious as to what others thought on how women would react to this. Thanks
b52s Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Women don't respond to my emails regardless if I'm employed or not...so it's moot.
homersheineken Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I got laid off a month ago. And honestly, my dating life hasn't been more happening. I'm more laid back and easy going which makes it easier on others around. I don't have the pressure of losing my job anymore, which was always anxiety even if in the back of my mind. My confidence is really high (even though it should be low). See this as the perfect opportunity to test and improve yourself. Women will pick up on the difference and be attracted to that. Go to the gym, try out new (unexpensive) activities. Volunteer at places. It keeps you busy, social, show's you're trying and you have a positive attitude even though things are tough.
portcitykitty Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I wouldn't consider being laid off/unemployed a turn-off...times are tough these days. If anybody can't understand your situation and can't empathize with you, they're not worth your time, in my opinion. My guy has been laid off for almost a year, and I feel so bad for him and what he's been going through. I try to help him out as best I can. I guess I'm one of the rare few women that would actually put up with that. Maybe I just have a big heart, I dunno.
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