singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 hi im 19 and im have a beautiful baby girl who is almost 6 months....i love my life but at times i find it really stressful....my ex n i have lawyers to fight for paternity-cause there was a time where he denied being the father, child support and visitation....we are trying to be friends for our daughters sake but i personally think its making us fight even more....any ideas or suggestions to help? i would really appreciate it....thanks
delnoire Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I'm a single dad with a daughter, and her mother and I have been at each others throats for going on seven years now. Its admirable that you are trying so hard to be friends for your daughters sake. Is he a very cooperative person? That plays a huge role in successful co-parenting. Why did he deny being the father so long?
Author singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 he says tht he is trying but his job is so stressful and he doesnt want to add anything on top of it...we also live 2 hours away from eachother...he only denied being the father a couple of times because he was mad at me but tht stopped right away cause his family knew tht he was the father...
delnoire Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I think its a little selfish for him to say that about his job. I mean, you both created your daughter. What if you get stressed out at your job? Its not like you can just quit being a parent because your job is too stressful. Just my opinion. Distance definitely does complicate things. One way to resolve this is to figure out which area between the two of you, has a better school system, and then the other parent moves there. I relocated to where my ex lives now, because the school system where she lives is WAY better than where I lived. Of course I was livid and bitter about having to relocate on account of my ex, but I just reminded myself that I was doing what was best for my daughter. If you present it that way to your ex, he just might come around to relocating closer to where you live and you would see alot of the complications diminish between both of you.
Author singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 we both are moving to the town where both of our families live so tht not only will my daughter get to see her parents more but she will also see her grandparents n aunts n uncles more also....plus she goes to daycare there n i drive almost 2 hours one way just to drop her off n then go to school
Jade 02 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 WOW seem like your under stress,just driving,plus dealing with a 6 month old all those miles,gees I stress driving that long alone. I am glad your moving closer to where you can at least ask for some help. Does not mean your a bad mom,or you will loose your baby. Best wishes:bunny:
fooled once Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I think its a little selfish for him to say that about his job. I mean, you both created your daughter. What if you get stressed out at your job? Its not like you can just quit being a parent because your job is too stressful. Just my opinion. Distance definitely does complicate things. One way to resolve this is to figure out which area between the two of you, has a better school system, and then the other parent moves there. I relocated to where my ex lives now, because the school system where she lives is WAY better than where I lived. Of course I was livid and bitter about having to relocate on account of my ex, but I just reminded myself that I was doing what was best for my daughter. If you present it that way to your ex, he just might come around to relocating closer to where you live and you would see alot of the complications diminish between both of you. No way in heck would I move just so my ex could 'parent' more. Sounds like your ex is fighting everything -- jerk. Is he paying support? If not, get that filed and get it garnished. I didn't do that and I should have because it was a fight every month for 12 years to get him to pay it on time. Focus on your daughter. Let your ex come up with every excuse -- he isn't your concern. Your daughter is. Good luck!
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