singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 when my ex and i first met...he seemed liked the perfect guy but as time went on and i found out i was pregnant wit our first child...things started to go downhill...i started to hear these rumors of him cheating on me with the same girl tht broke up his last 3 relationships..then she started to contact me telling me practically everything tht he had denied but i chose to believe him....15 days after having our daughter i still didnt trust him so yeah i went thru his phone and saw the txts to the same girl asking her to come over and have sex...there was also nude pics...so when i confronted him he told me tht they never had sex n he only asked her to come over because he was mad at me....i dont knw wht to believe..please help
pennyjosix Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 What do you need help with? You know the truth. The facts are there. You have to make a decision on what you do now. He's a jerk, yes, but since when has that stopped a girl from staying with a man?
an hero Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 He's a cheater and liar, and appears to be remorseless. This is a ****ed up situation you are in. How old are you both?
Woman In Blue Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Ugh...kids having kids. You're already a mother at the tender age of 19 (if I've deciphered your screen name correctly). That must mean your boyfriend is all of what - 20, 21, 22? You can't expect a boy of 20 or 21 to be faithful to anyone at that age. Please, practice birth control and don't have anymore kids until you're an adult. That's your first priority. Secondly, your boyfriend is acting like a typical 21 year old boy - letting his hormones guide him. Good luck getting him to be grown up and responsible now that he has a child. Just don't have any MORE with him, please.
Author singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 yes im 19 and my ex is 22...i was 18 when i gave birth and he was 21...i am on bc now and dont plan on having anymore kids for a long time
make me believe Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Oh geez. He is obviously cheating on you. Some girl calls you up and gives you details and you refuse to believe her? Why?? He texts someone inviting her over for sex and then claims that he DIDN'T fck her and again you believe him? What are you thinking? This guy sounds like a complete loser. And btw, that girl didn't ruin his last 3 relationships... HE obviously ruined his last 3 relationships by cheating and it just so happened to be with the same girl each time. Why would you think that he is going to be different with you?
Author singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 i dont knw wht im thinking...i want us to be a family n i believe people can change but im not sure if he wants too
Author singlemom19 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 and he has asked me to wait for him and he is telling me tht he doesnt talk to her anymore n he has told her tht if she doesnt leave him alone he will file a RO
FilthMerchant Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 You're far too young to be thinking about starting up a family. Should have aborted or given up for adoption (hope its not too late for the latter). You really think you can raise a kid when you are 19? That really is tragic
TaraMaiden Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 ... and you have this thread running too? I'm sorry, but you're a mom. You need to start getting a grip on things and change your priorities and try to act a little more maturely. Difficult for one so young, I know, but it means looking after you and your child, and forget being a doormat, a walk-over and basically a totally dumb-blonde patsy push-over. come on, ditch the guy, kick him to the kerb and focus on making a strong future for you and your child. because continuing like this won't cut it. But - sorry - I doubt you'll listen to anyone who doesn't say what you're looking to hear. Which is - "Oh believe him, hunny, I'm sure he loves you really! Give him the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure he will change in time, and create the relationship you're looking for with the perfect husband and roses round the door!" - Isn't it?
Author singlemom19 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 no its not...the reason i came to this site wwas for help cause i didnt knw wht to do
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 no its not...the reason i came to this site wwas for help cause i didnt knw wht to do I find that hard to believe. Fer chrissakes, with all the evidence pointing to him being a complete slaphead, you didn't know what to do? I suggest you go back to your initial posts, and read them as if they'd been written by a complete stranger. What would YOU advise 'her' to do? It's not rocket science, truly, it isn't.....
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