shadowplay Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Lately the urge has been really strong to tell him I'm falling in love with him, but I'm worried he'll freak out if I do. I know he feels extremely strongly about me, and it's likely he feels the same, but you never know with guys. We've only known each other for three weeks, but from the start it's been very intense, especially on his end. At first I felt pressured by his attention, but in the last week and a half, my feelings have grown really strong for him. I'm pretty sure I'm falling in love with him, and how I feel about him is stronger than it's been for any guy this early on in the relationship (possibly even at any point). I would so love to tell him, but I'm concerned by how short we've known each other. I also would love him to be the first to say it. Should I just wait until he does? I have a feeling it will be awhile if I do because I may be the first girl he's been this close to.
threebyfate Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I wouldn't tell him. Let him tell you first.
lecasanova Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Hmm never ever rush to tell someone you love them. love is a really strong word, i personally think 3 weeks is a tad bit too short. it's alright to wait it out, a little more time would only makes he bond stronger between you two (: give yourself a month or two, make very sure you love him when he's with his friends, family and your friends too. be sure you love all aspects of him before you tell him that (: do update me on your situation yeah! and if you need any advice on relationships, my blog entries could help you out a bit too (: yours truly, le Casanova
Author shadowplay Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 Yeah, yeah you guys are probably right. It will be more special if he tells me. The urge is just so strong when you have those feelings bottled up. I can't wait until that moment.
alphamale Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 telling a "normal" dude you love him after 3 wks is a recipe for disaster
sonicranger Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 So I'm going through this myself actually, kinda glad you asked Shadow. I've known my girlfriend for about 8 months, started talking to her about 3-4 months ago (we work at a part-time job together). Then we started being "more than coworkers" 6 weeks ago. I've gotten the "warm all over, euphoric rush" about 3 or 4 times when I'm with her. I almost blurted it out about twice now. But then a little voice says, "Slow down cowboy, she likes you too, it's ok!" So then I don't. I've called her the love of my life on one occassion and have also discussed showing love and affection for her. So we've kinda tip toed around it. Ok, in summary: 1) The limited consensus is for the GUY to say it first. 2) Wait awhile, the usual advice... 3) Make sure you "really know them" Hmmm...I dunno, we're spending at least 2 and half days together this weekend, during Christmas and after, she'll probably spend the night at least twice too. I dunno if I'll be able to resist that long. What's so interesting with this is, it's so simple. I mean, I'm kinda a high strung guy, am into everything, blah blah and she is just so low key, sarcastic like me, no-nonsense. It is not a case of opposites attract, more like complementary personalities. We do have very similar morals and are both kinda conservative (not necessarily politically). I believe I am in love.
Star Gazer Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 You don't love him, Shadow. You barely know him. You're just very, very infatuated. If you must say something to get some emotion out, tell him you're crazy about him. But don't use L-O-V-E.
Author shadowplay Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 You don't love him, Shadow. You barely know him. You're just very, very infatuated. If you must say something to get some emotion out, tell him you're crazy about him. But don't use L-O-V-E. Yeah, it's probably just infatuation, but it's hard to tell the difference. Either way it feels great.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Wait for it my friend, wait for him to say it.
Star Gazer Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Either way it feels great. So enjoy it for what it is. The journey is just as important as the final destination...
StalledGirl Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I don't understand people who claim to be in love after a short amount of time. Maybe i'm too cynical as I think you need some time to get to know a person and if a man told me he loved me after three weeks (it has happened actually) I wouldn't take it serioulsly.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 It's not too soon to be falling in love, you fall in love when you do there is no regulator that determines when it happens for everyone. It's like trying to describe what happy feels like, people feel things differently. Still, don't tell him first, let him tell you. Guys need more time to process emotions, chill and let him work at his own pace.
Author shadowplay Posted December 26, 2009 Author Posted December 26, 2009 Sigh. I really, really miss him. I'm spending Christmas all alone unfortunately because I have to finish schoolwork. It's getting me a bit down and anxious that he's been less communicative than I thought he would be over the holidays. He texted me a few times yesterday and called last night, and texted just once today. I guess that's not too bad, but it's not much for him. Part of my fear in his coming on strong early is that I'd get hurt if he started pulling back, and I keep worrying that's what's happening. I hope I'm just being paranoid.
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