kimmi Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 One thing I want to ask is what could be a possible reason for him to text and call me then when I reply he ignores me. yesterday he was text and I was busy then he had text me saying "Call Me". I replied that maybe later I would call him. I replied again about 1 hour ago with a Merry Christmas and a picture of a chick (not me) in a santa suit. he has not responded to me at all. So the text I just sent him said It would be much easier on you if you could be direct with me and just ask me not to contact you anymore then to ignore me completely. Still no answer. WHY LOL would he want to play this game with me? It is very clear that we are not EVER getting back together, This is a talk that we have had already. He is the one that said that he was happy just to be friends. So this is not a game to get me back... CONFUSED BIG TIME LOL ... Also finding the humor in this somehow ... Thanks
GrayClouds Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 One thing I want to ask is what could be a possible reason for him to text and call me then when I reply he ignores me. yesterday he was text and I was busy then he had text me saying "Call Me". I replied that maybe later I would call him. I replied again about 1 hour ago with a Merry Christmas and a picture of a chick (not me) in a santa suit. he has not responded to me at all. So the text I just sent him said It would be much easier on you if you could be direct with me and just ask me not to contact you anymore then to ignore me completely. Still no answer. WHY LOL would he want to play this game with me? It is very clear that we are not EVER getting back together, This is a talk that we have had already. He is the one that said that he was happy just to be friends. So this is not a game to get me back... CONFUSED BIG TIME LOL ... Also finding the humor in this somehow ... Thanks Better questions: why would respond to him? Why would you let him tell you what to do rather then taking control yourself and deciding not to play the game?
Author kimmi Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 I do not really have the problems with him anymore, Once we and were honest with one another it was fine, there were not expectations anymore. Ya I am the classic case of allowing him to keep me around for the sex, I had told him that it all had to stop and if we really want to be friends then it could be friends however there will be not flirting, there will be nothing of the sort at all. We have both respected that. It seemed just weird that he would go all weird like that and felt the need and want to ask people what they think. I used the word games because this is what it feels like to me right now. I do not like games. I am blunt. maybe I asked this question here because I wanted something to do (I do not do the Christmas thing as well and he does). Like I said I used humor. I just do not always understand things as well.
ryanrabl Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I do not really have the problems with him anymore, Once we and were honest with one another it was fine, there were not expectations anymore. Ya I am the classic case of allowing him to keep me around for the sex, I had told him that it all had to stop and if we really want to be friends then it could be friends however there will be not flirting, there will be nothing of the sort at all. We have both respected that. It seemed just weird that he would go all weird like that and felt the need and want to ask people what they think. I used the word games because this is what it feels like to me right now. I do not like games. I am blunt. maybe I asked this question here because I wanted something to do (I do not do the Christmas thing as well and he does). Like I said I used humor. I just do not always understand things as well. Well to be honest with you,you are letting him have his cake and eat it too.Lets be honest,most scumbags only want one thing after the relationship becomes a burden and that is sex.Unless you have no respect for yourself,why would you let him use you.Sex itself is a mind**** for you.Regarding your main question,you still have feelings for him and regardless of you two getting back together..you are still clinging on some form of hope thats why you call back when he says "call me".If you are a good person,please analyze the situation and realize this man is not for you and you are too good to sacrifice your heart or your body for some loser.Find yourself a gentlemen,I know you can.Go NC and stop having little repect yourself...and having sex with him.
Author kimmi Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 The sex did stop I do not have hope in being with him I did not call him right back I do as I please I do call him back when I can, if I am busy I attend to what I am doing then I will return his call. I am not going to play games. I do respect myself as well, I did want to be back with him but then found myself keeping the feelings so I let go...
ryanrabl Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Wanting to be back with an ex is a natural reaction,dont worry.Im glad you arent the impulsive responder..but just dont answer him anymore period.Im glad you have value of self-worth.You are something someone should fight for..if you are doing what you say..then good job.Merry Christmas..and smile!
Author kimmi Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 Oh I am doing all of what I said. I will not respond to him either, he is playing a game and I can not see why he would want to .. really in the end it does not matter I am happy with what I have and who I am as a person. He is a miserable person ...
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