My boyfriends family HATES me and will never let us be together!

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and he knows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, the problem is, his parents will never allow it. We are both Indian, but his parents are old conservative Indian, and just because I am not their 'type' of Indian - Gujarati, they don't want us to be together (the only differences are where his parents are from and the language, his family is very poor while mine is better off which makes even less sense from an indian view). His sister blabbed to his parents a few months after we started dating that we were together and thats when it all started. By the way both of us are 19 and in college.

 

So his parents found out over summer, while he was at home and I was taking summer classes. He lived in hell for the longest time and they made his life miserable trying to get him to break up with me. When he kept refusing, they kicked him out, but a few hours later some of their family friends intervened and got them to take him back. All this time I was freaking out, because we had only been together for a few months, I wasn't even thinking that far into the future where our parents could have issues. Things were getting SUPER serious really fast, but I cared to much about him to let him go. Eventually we decided to lie to his parents and tell them we weren't dating, at least until we were sure we were serious enough to get married, and HAD to deal with all this.

 

So a few more months passed and things were really amazing between us, and I really do love him, but his family is going psycho again and getting suspicious once again making his life hell. He tells me things are going to get much much worse and its very possible that he will get kicked out and his family will never speak to him because we are together. He wants to know if he goes through all of this, it won't be for nothing and I will stay with him, and not just dump him later on.

 

I have always had to talk to him about the seriousness of this relationship, and how we are only 19, and I cannot tell what is going to happen in the future. I love him very much and it hurts so bad to think we might not be together. I would love to be with him forever, but that is how I feel now, people change and things change especially since we are young. How could I possibly let him give up his family, lose everything, and go through hell if there is a chance that it won't work out. Even if it did work out his family and I would never get along, and honestly after everything that has happened I know i will never forgive them, and i honestly and truly never want to be part of that so called family.

 

I don't know what to do, I am going crazy! I really need some advice please!

Should I end things now before they get worse or stick it out and hope for the best?

 

-Sorry for the length!

[nama]

Hi,

 

Crazy scenario! But I'm indian too and I know what you are talking about.

 

You are 19 - forget it. You are too young to get yourself tied up in all this aggro. You are 19, how can you guarantee that you will both have a future??? He needs to sort his family out by himself and for himself.

 

If you really like this guy, be honest with him. Be there for him as a friend if you can. He needs to sort out his relationship with his parents.

 

Good luck.

 

Nama x