jeffery Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 went out last night with my ex girlfriend of two and half years we have been apart 5months and she has been in a relationship with a guy for 2 months,this guy is meant to be quite the idiot and does not treat her well,messes he around etc. before she offered me out on a drink she has tryed contacting me 4 times via email, then finaly she speaks to me on her mates instant messenger and tells me she cant stop thinking about me, miss everything about us and my family. so then i get the email the following day say if id like to meet up for a drink...so i went along bought new clothes,hair cut new scent the works. we had such a lovely time...laughing etc. then i text her today saying its not fair what do you want me or him, she said she cant not have me in her life and still has strong feelings for me even love. however has feelings for this guy shes in a relationship with... what do i do...i havent moved on as other girls dont really appeal to me.... so anything other than just move on...would be greatfull on what to do...do i wait for her to chose? is he a rebound? she text me last night saying "hey ;)" i didnt reply, i think she wants more than friends otherwise wouldnt lie to her man and wouldnt go to this much trouble...advice please
jerbear Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I think you are both rebounds. He was the rebound from you and you was the rebound from him. I see that she misses you and missed what you two had. It is quite possible she wants a more permanent more. It could make the relationship stronger. Now the kicker is her current man. She'll have to dump him and move forward with you otherwise you get into a love triangle and two of your if not all three of you will get hurt.
LovelyDaze Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 went out last night with my ex girlfriend of two and half years we have been apart 5months and she has been in a relationship with a guy for 2 months,this guy is meant to be quite the idiot and does not treat her well,messes he around etc. before she offered me out on a drink she has tryed contacting me 4 times via email, then finaly she speaks to me on her mates instant messenger and tells me she cant stop thinking about me, miss everything about us and my family. so then i get the email the following day say if id like to meet up for a drink...so i went along bought new clothes,hair cut new scent the works. we had such a lovely time...laughing etc. then i text her today saying its not fair what do you want me or him, she said she cant not have me in her life and still has strong feelings for me even love. however has feelings for this guy shes in a relationship with... what do i do...i havent moved on as other girls dont really appeal to me.... so anything other than just move on...would be greatfull on what to do...do i wait for her to chose? is he a rebound? she text me last night saying "hey ;)" i didnt reply, i think she wants more than friends otherwise wouldnt lie to her man and wouldnt go to this much trouble...advice please I am saddened. Why are you "waiting" for her to choose?? Find your self worth. Don't hesitate to keep moving your life forward. I know, I know, I know, I know, I KNOW it's hard to move on. But does THIS situation feel good? You wouldn't be on LS if it did! If she wants you and is willing to change 100%, first, she needs to dump the guy and have some alone time ALL to herself to find out who she is and what she wants in a relationship. All this bulls*** drama is not healthy. Second, YOU need some alone time. Work, go to school, hang with friends, spend quality time with family and above all enjoy your own hobbies and interests. If your happiness is dependent on this girl or ANY woman for that matter, you're in deep trouble. NO relationship is any good if one or both is not capable of being true, honest and sincere. None. She is stringing you both along. You know it in the back of your mind but you don't want to see it. Uncover your eyes, go completely NC, and do the hard work of getting over her. It's easy to play this silly game, I should know..just read some of my posts about my back and forth ex! Know your worth. If you believe she's the sun and the moon, then your destined to be in a limbo of darkness forever.
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