soconfusing Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I went out on a date last night and had already spoken with him on the phone a couple times and exchanged emails. He was outspoken and a little obnoxious but I can handle outspoken and the occasional obnoxious. Not everyone's perfect, right? Well, we go on this date and he's doing everything he can to keep the conversation going. He gets brownie points for trying. After dinner, we went to play pool and suddenly he seemed to find his obnoxious side and started twisting my every word to make me sound like a horrible person. For example "Are you religious or anti-religious?". My answer "I am neither religious nor anti-religious. I'm tolerant of either". Later asked me something else about the holidays and why I got stressed from it. Told him something like I didn't like getting all caught up in who to get what for, etc. Then he said "so we know you're anti-religious, very materialistic..." Additionally, I was beating him at the game of pool we were playing and he was jokingly threatening to cut the date short and suddenly get an emergency phone call. As far as I was concerned at that point, I hoped he did get that "emergency phone call". Afterward, he texted me and pointed out that he never found his comfort zone and felt like he didn't do anything to impress me and felt really bad for his choice of location. And if I would go out with him again, he would pick something much better and he would "perform" much better. I can understand when someone gets really nervous on a first date and maybe even so far as to resort to childish techniques, but I don't know. How nervous have you gotten on a first date?
DustySaltus Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 How nervous have you gotten on a first date? Sure, nervousness is not a bad thing, it keeps you in check and also tells you that the other person has potential. I think this guy was just being a schmuck. Are you going to give him another date?
Madelf Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Nervous should normally be a "cute" thing. I mean, once it's pointed-out, it usually leads to a good laugh and then the whole situation defuses. In your case, I really would hope you get the message that he's clearly not wanting to be in an equal relationship.
Author soconfusing Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 Sure, nervousness is not a bad thing, it keeps you in check and also tells you that the other person has potential. I think this guy was just being a schmuck. Are you going to give him another date? Well, at first I was going to, since he said he was just nervous, but then later I realized that no one else I've dated has ever been that rude to me and most of them were also nervous on the first date, lol.
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