thatguy90 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) Long story short, Ex-girlfriend broke up with me, about 2 months ago, because i was not fun anymore and such. But also at the same time I was leaning on her because of different things, for a long period of time. But my wrong to be so dependent on her I need to be more of a man when it comes to certain things. Next thing I would just put off tickling her for comments which she did to make me glare and tickle her. But I never got her back I just let the numbers keep getting higher and higher and I never acted on my word. I also did certain other things which probably were not right of me. I let her down in the worst way, I destroyed my word to her, I made her not enjoy my company and different things. What can I do? Is there a chance? Edited December 23, 2009 by thatguy90
DustySaltus Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 When you say you destroyed your word to her, how was that? I was reading some of your old posts but I couldn't find what you exactly did or said to make her feel that way? I personally would never get involved with someone who was "best friends" with an ex. It's a situation that can only get ugly because as a man most of the time you know what his motives are. He would probably use every opportunity to smear you to her. But he will probably do that to everyone because HE wants to try and get her back. It's impossible to think that every day of a relationship is going to be all sunshine and rainbows. And when she says you weren't "fun" anymore, what was she doing to make things better? What does she want you to do, entertain her at all times? Life isn't always fun, it's hard and you have to take the good with the bad. In a healthy relationship you need to lean on each other for support and communicate your needs and any issues you may have. That's what makes a LONG TERM relationship last. Don't beat yourself up, you aren't the one that bailed. But make sure you've LEARNED.
Author thatguy90 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 Well I have to say this, I had made her a promise to take her golfing one time during the summer but I never did, I also told her I would get her back for a comment earlier in the year, I just felt like I was always making her a promise but never really keeping it. It is just how I feel sometimes. She was trying to make it better, she was giving me back rubs, making me breakfast and lunch and dinner sometimes. But all honesty, that is not what I want a relationship for, she is not my cook, I can make my own stuff, I am in a relationship for the bound with the person to explore the world with this person, to enjoy each moment with them, and to help them when they are down, and to stay by there side until things get better. But I have learned, that I need to deal with personal issues better and not make them her problem. I know I should communicate my needs and issues better with the other person, plus they need to be able to communicate there needs better and the issues that they are having.
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