LonelyGuy85 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I am thinking of signing up, but as a 20-something male i am interested in other peoples experiences of match.com? Was it generally good?
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 its an easy way to have access to a ton of single people in your area. I would recommend it. Its what you make it. I've had 5 first dates in 3 weeks and 2 second dates by choice.... could of had 5 second dates, but you have to make some cuts! Look out for the desperate crazies ....but im sure its the same everywhere. go for it!
Author LonelyGuy85 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 Thanks. A recommendation was all i was after. I'm glad to know it's worth a look.
Vintage79 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 It can be a bit rough - as it's so easy to click on the person's photo next to yours that's more attractive. Moreover, the women get bombarded, so it's hard to actually get through to them. Fortunately I'm a pretty attractive guy with some other stats that draw the ladies in, but even then, I'm stuck sifting through only 40-50 women that initiated contact. Response rate to women who have contacted me seems to be much higher than those I reach out to. Additionally, keep in mind that probably a large majority of people on the site are using the free membership just to look, meaning that they can't actually e-mail you until/unless they pay. That said, it's nice, as you can literally meet people at work, and easily screen for attributes that are hard to search for when you're out on the town. I'd recommend it, but don't rely on it exclusively.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I am thinking of signing up, but as a 20-something male i am interested in other peoples experiences of match.com? Was it generally good? like i said, go for it. what do you have to lose? have someone help you pick out your pictures and write your profile, preferably a chick friend. I would suggest at least 4 or 5 emails before committing to a meeting and wasting your time. I usually get a good feel for someone after the 3rd back and forth email and wait for 2 more emails for good measure before committing to a date. you have nothing to lose. do it. you WILL NOT regret it whatsoever. plus its the new year coming up, and TONS of new members will be joining...
curiousnycgirl Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Met my ex on Match - we dated for 5.5 years, so I guess you could call that rather successful. I will admit that to this day I remember the majority of the note he sent me. It really stood out as the nicest note any man sent, so I would suggest you work on a really good intro and go for it!
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Met my ex on Match - we dated for 5.5 years, so I guess you could call that rather successful. I will admit that to this day I remember the majority of the note he sent me. It really stood out as the nicest note any man sent, so I would suggest you work on a really good intro and go for it! this^^^^^^ Great advice
alphamale Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 i wouldn't recommend online dating to my worst enemy...
curiousnycgirl Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 i wouldn't recommend online dating to my worst enemy... shucks and I was just about to ask you over for a date!
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 i wouldn't recommend online dating to my worst enemy... indulge me please...why?
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 * Horrible * Save your money... for $50 or whatever, where else are you going to have the chance to have access to hundreds of singles in your area? why not? Its worked very well for me. I have had 7 dates now in three week with 5 women. I'm only responding to about 2% of my interests. What is not good about picking and choosing who you wish to talk to and engage in conversation? I think its brilliant....but its also overwhelming and very different than non-online dating. Its definitely a whole 'nother animal.
skydiveaddict Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 indulge me please...why? cause it doesnt work
skydiveaddict Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 (edited) just go out & meet girls face to face. you dont need a dating service to do that. be the man you know you can be that's what women crave Edited December 24, 2009 by skydiveaddict
Mary3 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 for $50 or whatever, where else are you going to have the chance to have access to hundreds of singles in your area? why not? Its worked very well for me. I have had 7 dates now in three week with 5 women. I'm only responding to about 2% of my interests. What is not good about picking and choosing who you wish to talk to and engage in conversation? I think its brilliant....but its also overwhelming and very different than non-online dating. Its definitely a whole 'nother animal. Its not brilliant . Its stupidity.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 just go out & meet girls face to face. you dont need a dating service to do that. be the man you know you can be that's what women crave i work 50 hours a week and spend 4 hours commuting a day. all but one of my group of 10 close college friends are married or engaged. My social circle is dwindling before my eyes. I tried your above suggestion for the last 6 months since my last relationship and only attracted bar rats. Thats not what im looking for. this way, i can filter everyone out and pick the best ones. I think its great. i have 2 women I have seen more than once and both are fantastic. I would of never met them if not for online dating. whats the harm in putting yourself out there to hundreds more people than you would normally have the chance to? lets say you go out to a bar. there are 50 women there. 40 of them have boyfriends. 7 of them are hideous. that leaves you to fight with every other dude in the place over the 3 single girls....no thanks.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Its not brilliant . Its stupidity. says the scorned online dating woman. its truly what YOU make it.
Pyro Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I tried match for a few months many many moons ago. I had quite a few interested in me but I wasn't in them. I actually did meet two females from there but we never had the chemistry so it didn't go anywhere. I met someone IRL soon after. You can never have too many options in the dating world and there is nothing wrong with online dating. I always say keep it secondary to meeting people IRL.
CarrieT Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I think it is important to ask for locations; SteveJohnson, where are you located? The reason is because as a woman in San Francisco, Match.com was a bust for me but I have a girlfriend in Toronto for whom it has been very successful. Obviously, there are more people using it in Toronto that is my friend's demographic than there are using it for mine in San Francisco. And, for SteveJohnson, there are more women available for him in his area. When I was on it, I got a LOT of messages from guys all over the country (nay, the world), who wanted LDR, but very few in my own neighborhood. I also realized the Match.com seems to be geared more towards hook-ups than actual relationships. As a 20-something, that will probably be fine for you but as a 40-something, I wanted something more substantive.
just1honey Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 for $50 or whatever, where else are you going to have the chance to have access to hundreds of singles in your area? why not? Its worked very well for me. I have had 7 dates now in three week with 5 women. I'm only responding to about 2% of my interests. What is not good about picking and choosing who you wish to talk to and engage in conversation? I think its brilliant....but its also overwhelming and very different than non-online dating. Its definitely a whole 'nother animal. According to a well known media (which can be googled with "match. com fraud charges") , they are charged with "date bait". Personally I wouldn't support any paid service if thats the case. Anyway, at the moment it appears the free dating sites have alot to offer if you don't mind viewing ads. Or, if you use the proper software which can be downloaded for no charge, then it's not even necessary to view the ads.
Mary3 Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 i work 50 hours a week and spend 4 hours commuting a day. all but one of my group of 10 close college friends are married or engaged. My social circle is dwindling before my eyes. I tried your above suggestion for the last 6 months since my last relationship and only attracted bar rats. Thats not what im looking for. this way, i can filter everyone out and pick the best ones. I think its great. i have 2 women I have seen more than once and both are fantastic. I would of never met them if not for online dating. whats the harm in putting yourself out there to hundreds more people than you would normally have the chance to? lets say you go out to a bar. there are 50 women there. 40 of them have boyfriends. 7 of them are hideous. that leaves you to fight with every other dude in the place over the 3 single girls....no thanks. Well likely from your selections the women : 2 have ADD 3 have undiagnosed mental health * issues * 2 might be married 4 are using you for a rebound 5 are likely dating others after they say they will commit to you. ( These scenarios can be reversed and the above could be males that females encounter ) Have fun with it. Don't take is seriously at all. Don't spend your hard earned money...
flc Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 Like anything it can work but it requires patience and work on your part. Women get tons of email so you need to make sure your profile, your picture and messages support who you are and are interesting to read. If everything is perfect you may get a 10% return on your emails, from that 10% only a few will progress to a meeting and then fewer still to follow up dates. That is if you are looking for a relationship and not just a hookup. For myself I spent a year on Match since I am older it was a better fit for me as the club scene is mainly for a younger crowd. In that year I met 5-6 women and dated 2, 1 for 3 months and the other I have been with for 1.5yrs now. So it worked for me.
phineas Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 I've been looking with non-paid but I don't meet the qualifications for most of the women on there. I'm not James Bond.
Author LonelyGuy85 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Posted December 24, 2009 Some great posts here. I am thinking that overall it's worth a shot even if it proves fruitless, it's better to have tried, right?
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