Eisenhower Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) Found out my ex (who lied to me, saying she wasn't with anyone) has been with another guy from work for a while (not sure how long). When I found out proof positive, I basically told her to shove the bread crumbs she's been feeding me for about 6 months in her you know what and went NC. I know she's trying to keep the relationship secret from everyone, not just me. Found out today from someone who used to work with the guy that he pretty much has a reputation for screwing any target of opportunity at work, and usually, they're pretty loose girls. Strangely, I have mixed feelings upon hearing this. I feel good in the sense that it's not like she traded up. For her coming out of divorce to a true creep, drug head criminal, dating me was a new experience for her, being with a guy with some class, well thought of in the company and social circles, coming from a good background, etc. So being with another guy with a bad reputation is certainly not a step up for her, but one step back. On the other hand, I feel bad that she's screwing her life up like this (mainly I feel for her kids). She was always so concerned about the people at work and their perception of her (she had a fairly wild past but hides it well). When people know she's with this guy, their opinion of her is going to tank. As the person who was telling me about him said when I told him they were together, "What?! I thought she had more respect for herself than that." Not that I care about her reputation, per se, but it almost reflects on me in some way when people realize she's got a trashy side. Her life is marked by bad decisions - it's like she doesn't understand that decisions have consequences. She got tattoos as a kid that she now feels the need to cover up at work. She had a second child with a husband she knew was a piece of crap and should have divorced years ago. The list could go on and on. I don't know - I guess I'm just venting. In a way, I'm glad she's with another piece of crap, because I know it's going to end badly, but in a way, I'm sick that she's with a piece of crap over me ... if that makes any sense. Eisenhower Edited December 23, 2009 by Eisenhower
TheLoneSock Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Found out my ex (who lied to me, saying she wasn't with anyone) has been with another guy from work for a while (not sure how long). When I found out proof positive, I basically told her to shove the bread crumbs she's been feeding me for about 6 months in her you know what and went NC. I know she's trying to keep the relationship secret from everyone, not just me. Found out today from someone who used to work with the guy that he pretty much has a reputation for screwing any target of opportunity at work, and usually, they're pretty loose girls. Strangely, I have mixed feelings upon hearing this. I feel good in the sense that it's not like she traded up. For her coming out of divorce to a true creep, drug head criminal, dating me was a new experience for her, being with a guy with some class, well thought of in the company and social circles, coming from a good background, etc. So being with another guy with a bad reputation is certainly not a step up for her, but one step back. On the other hand, I feel bad that she's screwing her life up like this (mainly I feel for her kids). She was always so concerned about the people at work and their perception of her (she had a fairly wild past but hides it well). When people know she's with this guy, their opinion of her is going to tank. As the person who was telling me about him said when I told him they were together, "What?! I thought she had more respect for herself than that." Not that I care about her reputation, per se, but it almost reflects on me in some way when people realize she's got a trashy side. Her life is marked by bad decisions - it's like she doesn't understand that decisions have consequences. She got tattoos as a kid that she now feels the need to cover up at work. She had a second child with a husband she knew was a piece of crap and should have divorced years ago. The list could go on and on. I don't know - I guess I'm just venting. In a way, I'm glad she's with another piece of crap, because I know it's going to end badly, but in a way, I'm sick that she's with a piece of crap over me ... if that makes any sense. Eisenhower And why the hell is this girl even in your thoughts? You dodged a bullet. Have the self esteem to believe you deserve better. This girl is trashy, stupid, desperate and manipulative. What the f*ck? That's no catch by any account. Take the rose tinted glasses off and raise your standards.
Author Eisenhower Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 Honestly? Because she's hot as hell and the best lover I've ever had. If it wasn't for that, I'd run swiftly in the other direction. And believe me, I'd never take her back knowing she's a liar, but there's still a strong attraction and yearning for the relationship we HAD in the past because she was very good to me for quite some time until her Dad died and she melted down and changed. Stupid, I know, and I know she's not the right girl for me ... but what you know in your head doesn't always relate to what your heart wants.
TheLoneSock Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Honestly? Because she's hot as hell and the best lover I've ever had. I guessed this part. If it wasn't for that, I'd run swiftly in the other direction. And believe me, I'd never take her back knowing she's a liar, but there's still a strong attraction and yearning for the relationship we HAD in the past because she was very good to me for quite some time until her Dad died and she melted down and changed. Stupid, I know, and I know she's not the right girl for me ... but what you know in your head doesn't always relate to what your heart wants. This is not about what your heart wants, it's about what Jr. wants. Your heart may have a small voice in the matter, but the one on the microphone in your head is definitely Jr. I know it's hard to get the chemicals in your brain under control, they are powerful. Desire for ex-sex is always intense until you're over her. My grandpa gave me some good advice once. "Pussy is good. Some pussy is better than other pussy. But it's still just pussy. Don't let it f*ck with you." I'd like to pass that advice on to you now.
Kantor Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Grandpa was a smart man. Ha - Agreed 100% That's funny.
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