Author LovelyDaze Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 lol wow you sound pretty tough.. tougher than me anyway Oh no, TheBritishGuy! You can do it!! Just keep doing what we all do...look for logic, support and common sense. Our hearts are in the business to deceive. Not our minds. I've learned so much on LS and from my dear mom & friends what I MUST do. When they said my ex blew his umpteenth chance, they were right. You can only let people break your heart before it is just in teeny tiny pieces. Now, I am pushing the reset button on my life and doing things right and the hard way! The hard way is never dealing with him again. He is a complete disaster and I don't want to be dragged into it anymore. Plus, his new fiancee is now in full throttle mode of calling and texting him at least 50x during an entire work day. He always looks tired and he has confided in co-workers that he needs to find a way to end it all even with HER! My ex can forget the idea of me replacing her. I am gone. My strength comes from showing my ex that I am unlike any other woman he has ever met strong, confident, and independent. I am viewing it as his loss that he will never be able to regain.
Kantor Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I've learned so much on LS and from my dear mom & friends what I MUST do. When they said my ex blew his umpteenth chance, they were right. You can only let people break your heart before it is just in teeny tiny pieces. Now, I am pushing the reset button on my life and doing things right and the hard way! The hard way is never dealing with him again. This isn't the first time I've started reading one of your posts and going... wow thats how my ex feels about me. Its kind of sobering. However, I know where I went wrong, doesn't make me feel much better though. Sigh.. sorry off topic but needed to be said.
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Oh no, TheBritishGuy! You can do it!! Just keep doing what we all do...look for logic, support and common sense. Our hearts are in the business to deceive. Not our minds. I've learned so much on LS and from my dear mom & friends what I MUST do. When they said my ex blew his umpteenth chance, they were right. You can only let people break your heart before it is just in teeny tiny pieces. Now, I am pushing the reset button on my life and doing things right and the hard way! The hard way is never dealing with him again. He is a complete disaster and I don't want to be dragged into it anymore. Plus, his new fiancee is now in full throttle mode of calling and texting him at least 50x during an entire work day. He always looks tired and he has confided in co-workers that he needs to find a way to end it all even with HER! My ex can forget the idea of me replacing her. I am gone. My strength comes from showing my ex that I am unlike any other woman he has ever met strong, confident, and independent. I am viewing it as his loss that he will never be able to regain. I was only kidding my views on relationships don't allow me to get hurt. I think you are very brave and tough though you have such a drive to get over things and learn and recover it's pretty amazing. I've been reading some of what you have posted and you are a very strong woman with a clear head and to top it off you are soaking up all the lessons your experiences can give you. You are a very impressive lady.
gaudi Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I am gone. as far as my EX is concerned, I am gone, even though she texted me today wishing me a merry xmas, I don't need it, I'm having a very merry xmas without the wishes of a person who (let's face it) doesn't really care !!
Zeegagge Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 This post has me thinking, will I be the one who got away from my ex? I mean, how should I know? I gotta try and get my thoughts together on this. On the positive: She's 'in love' with someone else now. But they have problems and she confides in me about these problems. Her new relationship has her family basically disowning her and wanting nothing to do with her, not to mention wishing I was still around for her. She still holds me in very high regard, says we'll always be friends (not sure if I want that) and never talks trash about me at all. Even sticks up for me. I'm educated, mature and have my life together. She is currently on a path of self destruction with drinking, drugs and general irresponsibility, and knows it. She trusts me and says I'll always have a special place in her heart. When I manage to get away for a few days she says she misses me. On the negative: She says 'we just weren't right for each other' 'didn't connect' etc. (she's right) She left me. She's really hot and thinks she can get whatever she wants, even though she can't (thats a funny story for another day). I'm sure there's more but that really sums it up. I can't even wrap my head around what's going on right now really, so thoughts from the wiser members of the board are definitely appreciated.
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