xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 When someone makes pretty good money does it have an impact on the way you view them as a partner? What do you consider good or bad money or does money not matter to you at all?
Citizen Erased Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 As long as I make enough to support myself I really don't care.
threebyfate Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 There are gold diggers in both genders so when looking for a partner, he has to make a reasonable income. My husband and I are close, albeit I make a bit more than he does.
jw90063 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 This doesn't really answer the question, but I don't know. Reminds me of something in particular though. I hate when they ask your income on dating sites. I always put "prefer not to say". I think that's so tacky to have that on a profile.
squeaky Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 i've been in serious relationships with an artist, a geophysics professor, a case worker, and a doctor. in terms of money, the artist and the case worker made basically less than i did, but i had more respect for them because they were so passionate about their work. that's not to say that i don't respect the doctor or the scientist, but what really draws me to a person is his passion. money has never been very important to me, because i can support myself.
aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 After dating someone who made over a million a year and being almost bored to tears and pissed off for being put on hold for a quick Blackberry update, my answer is no. I'll take the guy with a modest income and a great attention span any day.
Crusoe Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 The money any potential partner has, or makes, matters to me not at all. What I consider good money is legally earnt money. As for money in general, when I didn't have any, I wanted it, now I have it, it sometimes feels immoral.
Crazy Magnet Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I'd like to have a partner that had approximately the same income as I did, give or take. Bad money would be if my bf/husband earned less than half of what I could earn. Good money would be what I can earn. I came from an upper middle class lifestyle, and I do expect to stay there if that helps any. So men who can reach that level are more attractive to me. Men who cannot, I'd think twice about marrying. I'm not sure if that makes me snobby or not, it was just the way I was raised.
TheLoneSock Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Fall in love when you're both broke college students, get rich together later on. That'd be the ideal story, wouldn't it?
Awesome Username Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Fall in love when you're both broke college students, get rich together later on. That'd be the ideal story, wouldn't it? Hahaha, that would certainly be my dream. I would want to be with a man who I could see has the potential to rake in some dough. It wouldn't have to be six figures or anything, but enough where I would feel protected. I want at least one kid someday, and children are expensive. I work too hard to struggle check to check. My thing is to live as simply as possible (minimalism rocks), and $ave money. I think that if I ever did find someone I could truly be in love with who loved me back, I'd be happy in a mud hut...at least for a little while.
meerkat stew Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) OP you should know better than to start such a thread here, unless you are doing some experiment on dissimulation and rationalization. Edited December 23, 2009 by meerkat stew
tfkizzle Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 When someone makes pretty good money does it have an impact on the way you view them as a partner? What do you consider good or bad money or does money not matter to you at all? Money management is what has an impact on the way I view someone as a partner. Doesn't matter how much he makes as long as he has some kind of full time job, lives within his means, and knows how to save.
DustySaltus Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 With my ex I left a six figure job in america to take a job teaching english in her country for $4 an hour. She said that she had no problem supporting us until I got on my feet. I blew through about $20,000 between the engagement ring, flights back and forth across the world and just everyday living expenses. And after all this I was criticized for my handling of money... One night we went to a bar and I didn't have my wallet on me and I happened to be holding some of her money. I went to go buy myself a drink and she says in front of her friends, "what are you doing with my money"? From that moment on, I knew things were heading downhill.... So I've been on both sides of the coin. I've been the guy that was walking down park ave in his snazzy suit and the guy that was wearing a $2 t-shirt and shorts, eating a piece of pita bread for lunch. When I made a lot of money HERE it was criticized, when I sacrificed everything to be with her, I was eventually criticized for not making enough to contribute. Either someone accepts you for who you are or they don't. Money cannot be the basis of any healthy relationship. It's a key part don't get me wrong. But i'll take loyalty, honesty and love over it any day of the week because I know I can always make what I need to.
sunshine94 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 With my ex I left a six figure job in america to take a job teaching english in her country for $4 an hour. She said that she had no problem supporting us until I got on my feet. I blew through about $20,000 between the engagement ring, flights back and forth across the world and just everyday living expenses. And after all this I was criticized for my handling of money... Wow, you really did love this girl to give up a high paying job in the USA, your friends, family and everything and move across the world to be with her. Just wished she had shown you her true colours before you moved to her country. When someone wants you they will tell you anything but once they have you it starts going downhill from there.
2sure Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I can admit a man's income is important to me. But I didnt start out that way. Having had relationships that struggled with money, I know first hand that not having it leads to arguments and problems. In fact, NOT having enough to go around was more of an issue for the men than for me. I never ever minded being the main breadwinner.So, eventually I took my mother's advice (lol) and decided that yes, its as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man. That being said...I work, I earn a decent living. In a mate, besides just the comfort of having a high income, I also feel that professional accomplishment and success are good things to have in a partner for obvious reasons besides money. AND if my "rich" partner or H falls on hard times for whatever reason...I'm there, I'm staying, Ive got his back and he can count on me even if I have to have 3 jobs to do it. But yeah, its a factor and I have no problem with it.
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