Ex Girl Called Me. Nostagia Sets In.

[scenester]

Nostalgia* Spelling error

So I was seeing this girl for about 5-6 months. We had such a great time together. The only reason we went our separate ways is cause she wasn't ready for a boyfriend at that time, and ultimately that's what I wanted. (No, She was not seeing another guy.)

 

Anyways, she contacted me last week. I haven't seen her since her birthday in November, which I only saw her briefly, wished her a happy birthday, and she said "I miss you" and hugged me while I was talking. We haven't talked for very long since October where we stopped seeing each other. Do you thing she really missed me? Well, anyways we talked for a good 40 mins, catching up on everything, we both enjoyed hearing from each other, and she was a little flirtatious, so I was a little too. I ended it cause I told her I was going to get a haircut, she said okay call me sometime and lets hangout, I said sure. I admit it, I miss this girl.

 

Do you think she's trying to communicate to me that she wants me back? We haven't talked since, should I start talking to her again, or wait for her to contact me again? What if we hangout and she starts flirting with me a lot (touching, etc...)? Should I roll with it? Should I show some signs of interest again or let her? Why do you think she called me in the first place? Does she maybe want me back?

Edited December 23, 2009 by scenester

[jms76]

Personally, I don't think you call her. Here's why:

 

A) She said that after 5 to 6 months she wasn't ready for a boyfriend? What was the last 5 or 6 months then? If she introduced you to someone knew would she say "Hi, this is my friend (insert your name here)". Strikes me a bit odd that after that much time you two would not label each other as BF and GF. But who am I to judge.

 

B) You clearly do want a girlfriend and it's only been what, a month since you two broke up? Do you think she has changed her mind that quickly that now she does want a boyfriend?

 

If you really want to know if this girl is interested, you wait and see if she calls you. Don't worry about what would happen if you two went out again. Worry about her interest level in you and respecting what you would like out of a relationship. All too often we sacrifice what we need/want from our SO just to maintain the peace. I think you should put your priorities first and let her make the first move.

 

Good luck.

[scenester]

Personally, I don't think you call her. Here's why:

 

A) She said that after 5 to 6 months she wasn't ready for a boyfriend? What was the last 5 or 6 months then? If she introduced you to someone knew would she say "Hi, this is my friend (insert your name here)". Strikes me a bit odd that after that much time you two would not label each other as BF and GF. But who am I to judge.

 

B) You clearly do want a girlfriend and it's only been what, a month since you two broke up? Do you think she has changed her mind that quickly that now she does want a boyfriend?

 

If you really want to know if this girl is interested, you wait and see if she calls you. Don't worry about what would happen if you two went out again. Worry about her interest level in you and respecting what you would like out of a relationship. All too often we sacrifice what we need/want from our SO just to maintain the peace. I think you should put your priorities first and let her make the first move.

 

Good luck.

Thanks for the input. I agree with mostly everything you're saying. But it has been about 3 months since we have broke up, so there is a possibility she may have changed her mind aswell.

[jms76]

I suppose you could try again but find out sooner than later what her feelings are about having a "boyfriend". If she doesn't want to ask her why? Bottom line is don't settle. Get what you want and if you don't, move onto the next one:p

[scenester]

Any more opinions on this situation?

[HeavenOrHell]

I agree with this. What will have changed since you split that would mean it would work this time?

 

 

 

Personally, I don't think you call her. Here's why:

 

A) She said that after 5 to 6 months she wasn't ready for a boyfriend? What was the last 5 or 6 months then? If she introduced you to someone knew would she say "Hi, this is my friend (insert your name here)". Strikes me a bit odd that after that much time you two would not label each other as BF and GF. But who am I to judge.

 

B) You clearly do want a girlfriend and it's only been what, a month since you two broke up? Do you think she has changed her mind that quickly that now she does want a boyfriend?

 

If you really want to know if this girl is interested, you wait and see if she calls you. Don't worry about what would happen if you two went out again. Worry about her interest level in you and respecting what you would like out of a relationship. All too often we sacrifice what we need/want from our SO just to maintain the peace. I think you should put your priorities first and let her make the first move.

 

Good luck.

[scenester]

You guys are right but if she starts showing signs of interest I'm openly admitting I'm gonna crumble and wind up going back, but this time, make sure I get what I want.

[kimmi]

One thing I do not understand and I found myself doing this a lot as well.

 

Why do we ask strangers on what someone else is thinking or feeling? We can ask anyone we want and anyone can put there 2 cents in however the only way we find the truth out is to ask the person in question.

 

I can say what I want about this however it does not mean that this is what she is thinking. Ask her.

 

I just text my ex after a long time of not talking , he has not responded at all. I text him back stating that if he s trying to do the NC that's fine with me however the est way to have it done without games is to be direct with me and let me know to not contact him.. I could have come on here and asked but I will only know if I ask him right?

 

I would just ask her if her views on a b/f g/f relationship has changed or if she is seeking you as a friend. If it is a friendship she wants and this is something that you do not want then let her know.

 

Good Luck

[scenester]

One thing I do not understand and I found myself doing this a lot as well.

 

Why do we ask strangers on what someone else is thinking or feeling? We can ask anyone we want and anyone can put there 2 cents in however the only way we find the truth out is to ask the person in question.

 

I can say what I want about this however it does not mean that this is what she is thinking. Ask her.

 

I just text my ex after a long time of not talking , he has not responded at all. I text him back stating that if he s trying to do the NC that's fine with me however the est way to have it done without games is to be direct with me and let me know to not contact him.. I could have come on here and asked but I will only know if I ask him right?

 

I would just ask her if her views on a b/f g/f relationship has changed or if she is seeking you as a friend. If it is a friendship she wants and this is something that you do not want then let her know.

 

Good Luck

I rater spare myself the awkwardness of asking her that.

[meonly]

She dumped you !!! Let her chase you ! If she keeps on calling you,its a good sign ! Or tell her u cant be friends at this time or never far has you know and give her all your love for the future and say bye bye !

You got nothing to lose,u already lost her !

Let her stew over it ! She let u go,so its up to her to prove she wants you back for a better relationship ! Make her earn it ! Good luck.

ps** learn about " NO CONTACT " if u want her back.

[scenester]

I've already told her I couldn't be JUST her friend, and thats why we broke up. I have used no contact. So basically, let her do the calling/texting to me? Let her set something up with me and if she never does I guess shes not really interested again?