StartingOver2010 Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 I am a 36 year old female that got divorced this year. With that being said, I have been out of the dating scene for a while. In the last year, I dated a few guys but none really sparked my interest until now. I met him about a month ago at a meeting for my job. He is an outside consultant doing some work with my company. I thought that he was funny and had a great sense of humor. Physically, he was not my usual "type", but his personality made me look at him twice. A friend at the office that works more closely with him told me that he asked about me. I was excited. I ended up running into him at a club one night about a week after meeting him. We hung out, talked and flirted and probably because I was a little drunk, there were a few kisses thrown in there. Anyway, he asked for my number that night and I gave it to him. That was on a Satuday night. I did not hear from him until the following Friday and it was by text message. We texted back and forth for a while. I did not hear from him again until the following Tuesday. Again, more texting. Didn't hear from him again until Saturday. Again, more texting. Finally at one point in the texting I replied to him with a suggestion that either we were going to go out or I was done with the texting. No reply. I figured that I would never hear from him again. One Sunday, he called which was a huge surprise. We talked for about an hour and a half. It was easy conversation and he told me that I made him nervous and that was why it took him so long to call me. Whatever that means? He then asked me to watch the football game with him last night. I agreed and we met at a bar he goes to regularly to watch game. We ate, had a few drinks and watched the game. There was mild touching, but nothing major and at the end of the night he did not try to kiss me at all. He also didn't mention going out again. He sent me a text message about a half hour after I left him checking to make sure I got home. I said yes and thanked him for the evening. Like I said, I am new to dating again so I don't know what is normal behavior. I thought that he would have at least mentioned seeing me again, but he didn't. What should I expect?
Author StartingOver2010 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 Well it's been three days and I have not gotten a phone call. I now have to assume that he isn't interested, right? How long should it take after a first date to get a call?
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 His behaviour seems to be sporadic and erratic. I think he may actually be nervous or have some issues. The fact that he is comfortable touching you during the game but not sealing it with a kiss upon departing is a bit strange. I think you shouldn't hang onto every word he says though. While I believe he is quite genuine at the moment I think you need to stand up for yourself a little. If he is calling you at odd times, ignoring your messages often times etc it doesn't reflect well on you when you are quick to pick up the phone and make a date arrangement etc. I guess you should test the waters some more before making a decision but basically if things don't get more consistent I'd let him call you and then make an excuse not to go out with him if he asks you. If he doesn't get the hint then move on. Good luck.
Author StartingOver2010 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 Why is it that it is always the guys that you like that act like wierdos? I really did expect a call, but your right when you say he is sporadic. The word I used was random. Because of the holiday does he get a little longer to make the call? My friends say that I should make the call, but I don't think that I agree with that. I think that he should be the one to call. Right?
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