aerogurl87 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 My boyfriend's parents will be out of town for Christmas and I don't really know them that well, but I would like to make a good impression with them so I was thinking of sending them a pretty flower arrangement for Christmas. Think I should?
Sweetcheripie Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 How long have you been with your boyfriend? Is he getting something for your parents? Just off the top of my head I would say "yes" sending flowers would be a nice gesture.
Author aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 How long have you been with your boyfriend? Is he getting something for your parents? Just off the top of my head I would say "yes" sending flowers would be a nice gesture. We've been together for close to 3 months now, and no he's not getting my parents anything because they don't celebrate Christmas. I've met his parents once before just briefly, but I just thought it would be a nice thing to do.
Island Girl Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 3 months is too soon and you want to make gestures like that when you are more a part of things and looks like you will have a future together. Anything can happen in a 3 month relationship. His parents know that too. I think it comes off as needy and desperate to be part of their family. Not good.
boogieboy Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 We've been together for close to 3 months now, and no he's not getting my parents anything because they don't celebrate Christmas. I've met his parents once before just briefly, but I just thought it would be a nice thing to do. Flowers are a nice gesture, but they wont make an impression because anyone can do that. You wanna make an impression? Get to know them personally. Show them you are interested in who they are....Each of them.
Author aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 3 months is too soon and you want to make gestures like that when you are more a part of things and looks like you will have a future together. Anything can happen in a 3 month relationship. His parents know that too. I think it comes off as needy and desperate to be part of their family. Not good. Well maybe you're right but I just wanted to do something nice for them.
Island Girl Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Well maybe you're right but I just wanted to do something nice for them. Then you and your boyfriend take them out to dinner and talk to them. As boogieboy said - invest some time and effort in getting to know them then. That would be a nice gesture, meaningful, and all of you will get a lot out of it.
Sweetcheripie Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 3 months is too soon and you want to make gestures like that when you are more a part of things and looks like you will have a future together. Anything can happen in a 3 month relationship. His parents know that too. I think it comes off as needy and desperate to be part of their family. Not good. Yes I agree too soon
boogieboy Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 Then you and your boyfriend take them out to dinner and talk to them. As boogieboy said - invest some time and effort in getting to know them then. That would be a nice gesture, meaningful, and all of you will get a lot out of it. You never know how much you might have in common with his parents when you pry a lil...
Author aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 You never know how much you might have in common with his parents when you pry a lil... Island Girl that is a good idea, I'll bring it up to my boyfriend when I talk to him again. And I know that I have at least one thing in common with his mom which is that we both love to sew. And his dad loves carpentry I know, which I used to do some of back in high school. So yeah, I know there are things I could talk to them about but I'm somewhat shy when it comes to meeting people's parents. It's not one of my strong points, lol.
boogieboy Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 So yeah, I know there are things I could talk to them about but I'm somewhat shy when it comes to meeting people's parents. It's not one of my strong points, lol. If you reframe it in your mind as you interviewing them, as opposed to vice versa, Im sure you wouldnt be nervous this time. It works for me every time. Its fun to learn about parents and watch their eyes light up when youre interested in them. Very fun and interesting stories always comes out of it as well.
Author aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 If you reframe it in your mind as you interviewing them, as opposed to vice versa, Im sure you wouldnt be nervous this time. It works for me every time. Its fun to learn about parents and watch their eyes light up when youre interested in them. Very fun and interesting stories always comes out of it as well. Hmm, I guess so. Well when I did meet his parents they seemed very cool and laid back. They're always traveling though so I don't know when would be a good time to go out somewhere with them, lol. But I do know his mom asks about me when my boyfriend talks to her, so that's a good sign I guess.
doushenka Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 That sounds so sweet! Yes, do; better yet, if you can do it, bring them by.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) What a bunch of debbie downers! Yes yes send the flowers, it's a nice gesture, end of story. Who cares what happens in the future, today, now you feel like you want to make an impression on your man's parent's then go with your gut feeling. It's Christmas and a time for giving, not for petty over analyzing. Edited December 23, 2009 by InspiredbyYou
Author aerogurl87 Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 What a bunch of debbie downers! Yes yes send the flowers, it's a nice gesture, end of story. Who cares what happens in the future, today, now you feel like you want to make an impression on your man's parent's then go with your gut feeling. It's Christmas and a time for giving, not for petty over analyzing. Haha yes I did send them actually because for starters I know his mother is going to love them (they've got this southern country vibe going on which I'm sure his mom will love). Also I just felt like doing something nice for them.
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