sameoldsameold Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 new to this and not sure where to start, ended a relationship that went on for just over 2 years.... many ups and downs and probably the bad overshadowed all the good things. Was tired of waking up and wondering what he was up to and having a sick feeling constantly in my stomach. Got to the stage that I was paranoid about every stupid thing, and it turned out probably rightly so. Trying to move on, doing well for a long time but now its that Christmas feeling. Have met somebody since, great company, out of this world sex but there isn't really anything deeper, more convenient than anything else, don't get me wrong I know he feels the same. Thing is I keep of thinking of all the good times with the ex. Trying to stay positive and NOT contact him but its hard. I know he wants a reconciliation and I am tempted All advise welcome
deux ex machina Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) It's easy to get sentimental at this stage, and only recall the good times - forgetting all of the pain that this relationship has caused you. This is what you have to remember: Was tired of waking up and wondering what he was up to and having a sick feeling constantly in my stomach. Got to the stage that I was paranoid about every stupid thing, and it turned out probably rightly so. That sounds like a terrible place to be. There are very good reasons you felt this way. You have been doing well, please, please do not go backward. The past is the past. Edited December 23, 2009 by deux ex machina
LovelyDaze Posted December 23, 2009 Posted December 23, 2009 new to this and not sure where to start, ended a relationship that went on for just over 2 years.... many ups and downs and probably the bad overshadowed all the good things. Was tired of waking up and wondering what he was up to and having a sick feeling constantly in my stomach. Got to the stage that I was paranoid about every stupid thing, and it turned out probably rightly so. Trying to move on, doing well for a long time but now its that Christmas feeling. Have met somebody since, great company, out of this world sex but there isn't really anything deeper, more convenient than anything else, don't get me wrong I know he feels the same. Thing is I keep of thinking of all the good times with the ex. Trying to stay positive and NOT contact him but its hard. I know he wants a reconciliation and I am tempted All advise welcome DON'T. That is my advise. I hate that your new relationship isn't bringing you pure joy and as you stated, it is just convenient. You can't polish a turd. Stay away from your ex and even more so, analyze your situation with your current love interest. Don't continue a go-nowhere relationship because someone is going to get hurt and God forbid you would have TWO painful situations to deal with.
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